Your Response to "Buy Me A Drink"

[drak_ool]

How would you guys have handled this situation: walked into a semi-crowded bar with a friend last Saturday night. While ordering a beer, I start chatting up the girl next to me (from a mixed group half guys half girls) when she screams "buy my friend a drink, it's her birthday!"

Out of principle, I never buy a girl a drink when she asks for it. If she had simply told me about the birthday, built some rapport and got her friend interested in talking to me, I would have offered them a shot myself, depending on the circumstances.

In this instance, I affected a very surprised look, started scratching my forehead, then turned to face her directly:

Me: (dead serious) Does it say ATM here?
Her: (gasping like a fish out of water) oh...
Me: (with a grin) nice to meet you as well!

I then turned away from her and starting talking to my friend, completely ignoring her for the nxt 15 min we spent at that bar. Sure, I didn't make any progress with her, but I don't believe acting like a human wallet would have worked to my advantage either.

I know the theory says you should press for the girl to buy you a drink if she is asking you for one, but I've never had good results with that in the past.

So how would you guys have handled this situation in order to not just stand by your principles but also possibly make some progress with the girl?

 

[SecondHalf]

I would have replied ...

"No way, it's my birthday as well OMG" ...
If they bought it, it would open all kind of doors for odd questions like "ever done it with someone born on the same day".
If she didn't ,then it would be a nice "neg" to start the game.

SH

 

[Night-hawk]

If you have a drink in your hand take a little swig then spit it out in disbelief in front of her.

 

[Night-hawk]

I would have replied ...

"No way, it's my birthday as well OMG" ...
If they bought it, it would open all kind of doors for odd questions like "ever done it with someone born on the same day".
If she didn't ,then it would be a nice "neg" to start the game.

SH

lol good one

 

[drak_ool]

If you have a drink in your hand take a little swig then spit it out in disbelief in front of her.

haha good one!

A line that I'm itching to try is to answer "ya, sure", order yourself a drink and order her a glass of water and then give it to her with a smile!

 

[drak_ool]

"No way, it's my birthday as well OMG" ...

SH

awesome 'think outside the box' response

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

"Sorry I don't buy drinks for people I don't know." Simple as that.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Depending on what mood I'm in and how rude the girl is, I either A) fob her off: "Yeah sure! When I finish this one, I'll buy you one." and then ignore her.
B) something like: "No thanks, I'm sure some other guy in here who thinks you're hot enough to buy you one."
Or C): "I tell you what, you buy the first round and I'll buy the next one, how's that sound?"
I've had most success with option C.

 

[Slickster]

This situation is a little unique cuz she's asking you to buy a drink for some one else.

My two favorite responses for when a chick asks to buy her a drink are:

1. "Sure, let's make-out first though." I may or may not actually buy her a drink depending on her response. If she kisses you bust her balls afterwards by telling her you can't buy her a drink cuz she's a lousy kisser.

If I'm feeling ****y or she's rude I'll say "Sure let's fvck first though." More of a blow off response though.

2. Turn to the nearest stranger (guy) ask him his name and tell him this chick really wants to meet him. Direct the girl in his direction and tell her to give him a try. Once again more of a blow off.


In this particular situation it might just be best to give a ****y/funny response like "Nah I don't want to get her hopes up. Last time I bought a girl a drink there was a lot of heartbreak and tears."

 

[Zarky]

Gold-digging is an immediate and permanent deal-breaker for me no matter how hot the chick is, so I'd just say, "I don't think so but happy birthday" and find another place to sit.

I have a zero-tolerance policy for gold-diggers. It's like bringing a gun onto school grounds -- you're immediately expelled whether or not you meant to do it and no matter how much you apologize. No questions asked, one-and-done, you're out. That's my response to gold-diggers.

And I often think to myself, "What if every man did that?" What if every single man just immediately turned his back on b*tches who expected men to pay for their sh*t? Womens' behavior would change almost immediately and men would have much better lives.

That's my version of "passing the p*ssy forward." When I shut down b*tches who want to get paid, I make it just a little easier for the next guy to get laid. I'm happy to do it.

 

[The Duke]

Why would you even entertain this type of behavior from a woman? To increase their sense of entitlement and overinflated value? Tell that bitsch to go fuhk herself.

 

[Nutz]

Her: Buy me a drink.
Me: Why?

Puts all the power in your hands wiht that one simple word. Also, an old fashioned "no" will suffice.

 

[AmIAFC]

I call the waiter for a glass of tap water (free) and tell them to enjoy.

 

[Rubirosa]

"She's YOUR friend, YOU buy her a drink !!!"

"If I buy your friend a drink, will you buy my friend a drink ?"

"What are you...her secretary ? She can ask me herself....!!!"

"What's in it for me ? "

"If you were really into me, you wouldn't bring your friend into this."

"No.....I don't feel the need"

 

[Jitterbug]

You guys are too eager to focus on the "drink" part. Use it as a convenient ice-breaker. Just ask her "who's your friend?", come over, make her introduce you to the birthday girl and other girls in the group, conveniently forget about the drink part and just socialize instead. Half of the time, their attention span will be so short that they wouldn't remember what they originally asked you, especially if you're presenting yourself as a cool guy.

If they keep bringing up the buying her drinks after all that, find an excuse and get out of there. You're dealing with drink wh0res who have zero interest in you and no witty line can overcome that.

 

[Night-hawk]

You guys are too eager to focus on the "drink" part. Use it as a convenient ice-breaker. Just ask her "who's your friend?", come over, make her introduce you to the birthday girl and other girls in the group, conveniently forget about the drink part and just socialize instead. Half of the time, their attention span will be so short that they wouldn't remember what they originally asked you, especially if you're presenting yourself as a cool guy.

If they keep bringing up the buying her drinks after all that, find an excuse and get out of there. You're dealing with drink wh0res who have zero interest in you and no witty line can overcome that.

This is a really good way of looking at this. There's way more in you're favor. Plus I've had girls at times who may ask a guy this just to see how he will react. It may not ever be about money or a drink to her...so use her approach on you for your advantage and just screen and qualify them, tease, them along the way.

It's after guys naively get her a drink and then start looking to interact. Some Mentioned they don't want guys to buy them drinks for the fact the guy will think he has an in or she owes him something.

 

[Nutz]

You guys are too eager to focus on the "drink" part. Use it as a convenient ice-breaker. Just ask her "who's your friend?", come over, make her introduce you to the birthday girl and other girls in the group, conveniently forget about the drink part and just socialize instead. Half of the time, their attention span will be so short that they wouldn't remember what they originally asked you, especially if you're presenting yourself as a cool guy.

If they keep bringing up the buying her drinks after all that, find an excuse and get out of there. You're dealing with drink wh0res who have zero interest in you and no witty line can overcome that.

Good point. You're treatingit as a sh!t test and applying the "ignore & change the subject" method.

 

[Warrior74]

I'm not a handsome guy, so I've only had two types of girls ask me to buy them drinks. a. girls I don't find attractive trying to break the ice. b. good looking girls looking for a sucker.

Group A. Girls get a stern no and a back turn. Group B. Get's the drink pimp line.

"I don't buy drinks for strangers, what do I look like? But! here's the deal, you see that nerd/loser/lame guy right there? Go tell him you need a drink for you and your girlfriend and bring me back a crown and coke." either they laugh and start a convo, they laugh and move on, or the just move on. Either way I don't feel bad about it. On rare occasions they will actually be game and try it.

 

[timmylivingalie]

I would have replied ...

"No way, it's my birthday as well OMG" ...
If they bought it, it would open all kind of doors for odd questions like "ever done it with someone born on the same day".
If she didn't ,then it would be a nice "neg" to start the game.

SH

Pretty good response.

 

[timmylivingalie]

Depending on what mood I'm in and how rude the girl is, I either A) fob her off: "Yeah sure! When I finish this one, I'll buy you one." and then ignore her.
B) something like: "No thanks, I'm sure some other guy in here who thinks you're hot enough to buy you one."
Or C): "I tell you what, you buy the first round and I'll buy the next one, how's that sound?"
I've had most success with option C.

I like B for the smartass ones and C for the ones that are ok.