YOUR INPUT NEEDED: Looking For Life Advice At 25

[BobCarlton]

I just turned 25 and I'm looking for input on my life.

Please REPLY below!

Here's a bit of history on my life:

Age 14-18 y/o:

I was VERY shy, introverted and depressed. No luck with girls. Lonely. Never had a GF. So what did I do? I found this forum (this was 7 years ago!), read David DeAngelo, and got obsessed with turning my life around.

Age 18-22 y/o:

Did basically nothing but GO OUT and MEET WOMEN. I worked on my confidence, social skills, and focused on becoming a more attractive man. I went on a self-improvement binge and began reading hundreds of books, attending dozens of seminars, did Toastmasters and developed public speaking, acting classes, improv, slept with over 70+ women, and eventually ended up with a girlfriend.

Age 23 y/o:

Fell madly in love with a girl and thought we were "soulmates". I ended up messing everything up, became needy, and reverted back who I used to be in many ways. She broke up with me and I hit rock bottom. Here I was heartbroken and massively in debt, with nothing. I needed a change so I moved to California for a few months.

Age 24 y/o:

I realized I need to step up and work on other areas of my life. I started a internet business and slowly started to make money from it, while having another part-time job. I started working out and gained quite a bit of size and became "buff", whereas before I was skinny as hell. Did some more travelling for a few months... but during this time, was LONELY and didn't date or have sex with many girls. I went about 6 months without getting laid, which was frustrating.

Age 25 y/o (present day):

I got myself "together" financially. I'm now making about $60,000 a year. In good physical shape, and have gotten back into going out again and have accepted that I need to get back to where I used to be with women and have balance.

YOUR ADVICE NEEDED:

I'm posting this because I'm looking for some advice and guidance from some older, experienced members of this forum. I feel somewhat lost and confused with my life... not knowing what my focus should be, or maybe I know what it is, but just want some re-assurance.

If you could give me one or two pieces of advice, what would it be?

I have HIGH AMBITIONS... I want that perfect 10, that perfect body, and a multi-million dollar lifestyle. I am hungry for it... but yet it feels SO FAR AWAY and I fear that I may never get there.

What would you do if you were 25 in my shoes?

What advice do you have for all the young guns out there?

 

[BobCarlton]

Any feedback?

 

[Zunder]

Fell madly in love with a girl and thought we were "soulmates". I ended up messing everything up, became needy, and reverted back who I used to be in many ways. She broke up with me and I hit rock bottom. Here I was heartbroken and massively in debt, with nothing. I needed a change so I moved to California for a few months.

This was me - but at 40.
So you have been through and are now ahead of the game.
You are certainly shooting high.
Could you settle for an 8 with a good persoanlity who doesn't ##endlessly## (they all do to some extent) sh!t test you?

 

[ProDJ26]

25yrs old and $60,000 a year? Maybe you could give us advice...

 

[bigneil]

25 is very young for a man. 27-28 are the prime years IMO. At age 30 you can pretty much date any woman of child bearing age if you are healthy. At 35 you start to lose opportunities, and at 40 even more so, though it's not as old as you think if you stay in shape (I just got a date with a hot 23 year old at age 40).

My advice: eat a good diet. Lots of raw vegetables. Avoid GMO foods. Choose wine and gin over beer or drink Guiness to avoid beer belly. Work out. Periodically fast and detox (Zand kit). Start your own side business so you are driven. And keep studying up on how to seduce women. By the time a man can read a woman like a book he needs bifocals.

 

[KarmaSutra]

If you could give me one or two pieces of advice, what would it be?

I have HIGH AMBITIONS... I want that perfect 10, that perfect body, and a multi-million dollar lifestyle. I am hungry for it... but yet it feels SO FAR AWAY and I fear that I may never get there.

Being ambitious will fuel your desires.

First, set realistic short-term goals (6-12 months tops).

Second, Do one thing everyday which pushes you towards fullfilling that goal. Stop listening to gangsta rap (if you do) or anything which muddies your head with negativity and bullsh!t. Fill your iPod with self-help books or books on history and philosophy (Mine is plumb full of Joseph Campbell's work, with courses from The Teaching Company, and some of Wayne Dyer's literature.)

Third, Once you've conquered a goal, set a new one immediately. Wash, rinse, repeat.

What would you do if you were 25 in my shoes?

At 25, I had owned my second home (this one we built as our dream home). I was married, bringing home over $100,000 per year, had a bunch of great dogs, and I was a miserable husband-of-a-b!tch.

I had everything monetarily and materially a man could possibly want. But, my passions were neglected. I love to write. I love to mentor to the younger man, I love women.

I walked away from all of it.

I'm the Master of my grand design. Everyday holds promise of something fresh and new.

My best advice, young Brother, is to focus on what makes you truly happy. Disregard what you perceive are the expectations of others. Make choices and decisions you're happy with.

Have the balls to say, "Fvck no."

Then read Karma's Law #1 and remember it always.