Your Girl and A Male Porn Star...

[MR_PERFECT]

I've been having arguments/discussions with a girl I'm currently seeing and unsolicited things about a certain guy keeps coming up. From the details I didn't want, but was given, I'm realizing the guy was possibly a porn star. Something about this made my stomach turn. Since realizing this, I haven't brought it up, but I can't get it out of my head. I like the porn industry as much as the next guy, but the idea of being with a porn star or being with a woman that was with a male porn star disgusts me. Is this feeling unreasonable? I'm not even going to get into the size comparisons.

 

[MacAvoy]

I can't see nothing good coming out of this. I would definately move on, not so much because of the STD factor but more so because of the mental factor on you.

 

[squirrels]

You're obviously not secure enough to handle this chick. Also sounds like her lifestyle may not be a match for yours. Your decision whether you want to go ahead or not.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

You're obviously not secure enough to handle this chick.

I think you're right.

 

[squirrels]

I think you're right.

Pornstars and strippers are hard to game, man. The HARDEST, because they have action coming from all directions, given that they're PROFESSIONALS at turning men on.

You need to be at the TOP of your game to hang on to them. If you're at the bottom, they will take advantage of you and drop you the second something else catches their eye. They're also usually very "loose"...they like to play the field. NEVER take one out to a nightclub, for example.

There's no shame in not being at that level of game. But you may still want to play this out just to see what happens and learn a lesson.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Pornstars and strippers are hard to game, man. The HARDEST, because they have action coming from all directions, given that they're PROFESSIONALS at turning men on.

You need to be at the TOP of your game to hang on to them. If you're at the bottom, they will take advantage of you and drop you the second something else catches their eye. They're also usually very "loose"...they like to play the field. NEVER take one out to a nightclub, for example.

There's no shame in not being at that level of game. But you may still want to play this out just to see what happens and learn a lesson.

Oh, no, the girl is nothing like that all, she's a normal girl. You have a normal girl that meets a guy she's really attracted too and hooks up. She's told he's a model. I think I would have been able to handle it better if the girl was a porn star type.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

It's insecurity, bottom line.

But ask yourself, why would she be interested in you if you weren't a porn star? Because you have something they don't.

Funny. I would have to say no to that. She liked the guy and would have continued seeing him, except she saw on his cell phone that he had pictures of girls different races going down on him. So what I have that this guy didn't is that I can't juggle 20 women.

 

[dietzcoi]

This certainly sounds like it won't have a good ending....

Dietzcoi

 

[dietzcoi]

PS What's with all the insecurity talk all the time?

I can see some of you at the Battle of the Somme (1916):

British Soldier: Sir, we cannot advance against the dug in German machine guns!! They are mowing us down!

Sosuave Poster: Its just your insecurity!!! Advance!!

Result: 20,000 dead in one day.........

Dietzcoi

 

[ER!C L!VE]

If you haven't already seen it, check out the Kevin Smith movie, Chasing Amy.

I've been in a similar situation. I had an ex who constantly told me about her ex bf and his foot-long-beer-can-thick sized d!ck. That relationship didn't end well.

Another girl who I dated for 5 years told me (after me asking) about her sexual history and how she'd had a 3-way .. I was very disurbed by it. I don't know why, but it bothered the fcuk outta me. I finally let it go after talking about it with her (many many times). She was very cool and understanding and helpful in making me feel better about it.. One thing that helped me through it was having a friend ask me if I was a saint before I met her. If she was a b!tch about it and told me to f-off or some other sh!t, I wouldn't have stuck with her, but she was sensitive to my feelings and emotions and really made me feel good and better about it. After that and we had a good relationship. It finally ended on good terms and we still bang occasionally.

I dunno bro. I had to ask my girl of 5 years about her sexual past and the answers hurt. The other girl offered me the information and that hurt even worse. It's like she was still wishing she had him or his cawk.

You should probably talk this through with her. If she can't help you feel better about it, then I don't know how she's going to help you feel good about anything in the future.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

If you haven't already seen it, check out the Kevin Smith movie, Chasing Amy.

I've been in a similar situation. I had an ex who constantly told me about her ex bf and his foot-long-beer-can-thick sized d!ck. That relationship didn't end well.

Another girl who I dated for 5 years told me (after me asking) about her sexual history and how she'd had a 3-way .. I was very disurbed by it. I don't know why, but it bothered the fcuk outta me. I finally let it go and we had a good relationship. It finally ended on good terms and we still bang occasionally.

I dunno bro. I had to ask my girl of 5 years about her sexual past and the answers hurt. The other girl offered me the information and that hurt even worse. It's like she was still wishing she had him or his cawk.

You should probably talk this through with her. If she can't help you feel better about it, then I don't know how she's going to help you feel good about anything in the future.

Regards,

Eric

One of the most cringe worthy posts of all-time. I'm not sure how good this girl is at communicating within a relationship. Anytime I've tried talking to her about anything that can cause problems between us, the situation gets worse. This is a result of settling another situation regarding a guy from her past. I tried to discuss it twice and each time she volunteers all this information I don't need to make me thing this guy was a porn star.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Repost.

 

[STR8UP]

For the life of me, I cannot understand WHY anyone would talk about past sexual partners or sex encounters or WHATEVER sexual with a current g/f.

If you're casual fukk buddies that's a different story. One chick I know....it gets her off when I tell her about sex with other women. And in turn she talks openly with me about it.

Unless you have that kind of relationship with a woman (very casual)then DON'T TALK ABOUT THAT KIND OF SH!T.

What good can come of it?

I HATE the chick line, "I think it's important to discuss our sexual past"

What on earth is so important about that? If either one of you can't judge someones depth of character WITHOUT knowing their "number" (which incidentally is usually a lie), or how many threesomes they have had, or at what age she gave her first bl0wjob, then you shouldn't even be with that person.

And people wonder why women are OPEN when they are around me. It's because I'm not judgmental and I don't get hung up on the things she's done in the past. It doesn't concern me!

 

[STR8UP]

BTW....Mr Perfect.....I don't think there is anything wrong with you, aside from what a few others have mentioned. It's a bit of insecurity probably mixed with disgust that stems from societal conditioning.

If she's bringing that sh!t up I would just tell her you don't want to hear it. If she keeps it up.....red flag.

 

[Bible_Belt]

It's just a coincidence that the guy did porn. In his routine, Andrew Dice Clay would pick a couple out of the audience and ask the guy, "The first time you banged her, was she any good?" Of course the guy always says yes. Then he would follow that with, "let me ask you another question about your little angel. How do you think she got to be that way?"

Whatever girl you are with has done things with other guys that you can live without knowing, trust me. And str8up was right on the mark, never talk about your exploits and never ask about hers. With my last gf, I mistakenly thought it was ok, when she asked about it, to tell her about the threesomes and whatnot I had before. That totally backfired.

 

[jophil28]

. I'm not sure how good this girl is at communicating within a relationship. Anytime I've tried talking to her about anything that can cause problems between us, the situation gets worse.

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Warnimg, RED FLAG alert !

So if I understand you, whenever you try to discuus any troubling issues between you, she volunteers more info about her past and eventually you end up feeling MORE disturbed at the end of the convo than when you started. Right ?


! Do you grasp the significance of this ?

 

[d9930380]

Why do you people even go there?

Don't ask, Don't tell!

You don't need to know. The only thing you need to know is if she's cheated in the past and you're unlikely to get an honest response so why ask?

The last thing you need to know is that you'll never satisfy her. Besides any girl who's telling you this is probably trying to make you feel ****, either because she's ****ing with you or because she has insecurities and is trying to bring you down a notch or two.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Warnimg, RED FLAG alert !

So if I understand you, whenever you try to discuus any troubling issues between you, she volunteers more info about her past and eventually you end up feeling MORE disturbed at the end of the convo than when you started. Right ?


! Do you grasp the significance of this ?

Of course I do, I just needed it repeated back to me. I feel a little bad for the girl, she seems to like me, but she digs wholes she can't get out of. I just think she has a lot to learn about relationships and communication. First argument we had, I noticed how she argues - everything is seen from her point of view. If she would have no problem with the information she was given, then I shouldn't. I told her she has a lot to learn about relationships and how to be in one, but I think my tips are going over her head.

I can't believe the unnecessary things women will say. An uncle's 40-year-old girlfriend told him about when she was 12 and hooked up with a 25-year-old guy. What made it worse was that she saw nothing wrong with it and didn't feel he should either. The fact that she saw nothing wrong with it consumed him.

 

[dietzcoi]

Mr. Perfect

I knew a girl who told me she starting having sex (with adult men) at 12 too...

This should be disgusting behavior to most human beings!!

You have a right to dislike what she is telling you. It is not insecurity. It is your subconcious telling you to RUN and leave this potentially disasterous situation now.

Do you think any man lies on his death bed saying "I should have stayed with that fvcked up screwball female I was dating when I was XX years old"?

No, they are glad they escaped from the nut jobs!!

Dietzcoi

 

[MacAvoy]

Do yourself a favour and run in the other direction from this girl, nothing good can from of it. This I know.