Your Experience Of Dumping Someone You Loved?

[soulforge]

Hello guys

Some of you are aware, that i dumped my now ex not so long ago.. mostly because of her chitty behaviour.. and rudeness & general toxic chit..

Some time has passed now, and overall i feel it was the best desicion to make.. I still have the odd day, here and there, when the feelings come back, but that i guess is the natural process.

I want your experiences or stories of woman you had to get rid of, even tho you loved her..

How did you feel at the time of break up?

How did you handle things?

Did you fuk up and go running back to her? What was the outcome..

Most importantly.. now that some time has passed with NC.. how do you look back and feel about this toxic crap you got rid of?

Hopefully your information will help me through my journey also.

Thanks guys!

 

[Urbanyst]

Yeah, I've had to dump a few women I really liked/loved due to incompatibility. It definitely hurts, but you do it because you know the relationship is a lost cause and it won't improve.

There are two girls who dumping them was deeply painful. The first girl, I was depressed for a good month or so after the break up. I was thinking about her daily and replaying the entire relationship in my head and thinking about what could of been under better circumstances. I mostly dumped her out of insecurity because she had too many male friends.

The second girl was a little easier because I had more experience under my belt. The pain from this break up was more about feeling tricked. This girl changed dramatically from when we started dating. She became a different person. She got a nose job and changed political parties. That's how extreme it was. I had to dump her because I didn't know who the hell she was.

I still have feelings for both of them, but I'm at peace with the fact that those relationships were not meant to be. I look back positively on the good times we had, but would not get back with the second girl in a million years. The first girl I would probably get back with if she chased me hard to be honest. She is still childless and almost as hot as she was in her early 20's according to Facebook. But she would have to really want it bad for me to consider getting back with her. She is currently dating some tattooed biker looking dude who is nothing like me. I'm a sharp city guy. So if I didn't dump her she probably would of eventually left anyway.

I strongly believe compatibility is king. This is why I don't feel bad about my failed relationships. If those people were right for me, they would still be in my life and vica versa.

 

[Billtx49]

i dumped my now ex not so long ago.. mostly because of her chitty behaviour.. and rudeness & general toxic chit..

Most importantly.. now that some time has passed with NC.. how do you look back and feel about this toxic crap you got rid of?

Mine was toxic also, damaged goods or BPD. After enough time passing, I no longer wonder about what the h**l was wrong with her, and I am now genuinely happy she is no longer in my life.

 

[QuadDeuces]

Yea I dumped a chick, but I was weak and after she came crying and begging I went back for about 3-4 weeks, but then she dumped me only to validate her ego.

 

[bigneil]

Two months ago exactly I dumped my girl when she appeared to be about to flake on a date. Then I regretted it. We got back together and she confessed I broke her heart. I honestly feel that if I hadn't left her, she never would have fallen in love with me to the level she did. I think I was the first man in her life to ever leave her. You can't fake it though. It sort of happened that way for us.

 

[nismo-4]

When I drop a woman, I go play Nintendo. Why the f**k should I worry? She moved on already, my deleting and blocking her just made her do it quicker.

 

[Roober]

This may sound stupid, but when I feel things are not going well, I tend to just get them to break up with me. One time, the girl didn't get the clue, and I had to end it. However, I didn't really care about her much at the time, so it didn't bother me much.

 

[soulforge]

Two months ago exactly I dumped my girl when she appeared to be about to flake on a date. Then I regretted it. We got back together and she confessed I broke her heart. I honestly feel that if I hadn't left her, she never would have fallen in love with me to the level she did. I think I was the first man in her life to ever leave her. You can't fake it though. It sort of happened that way for us.

Is it possible her respect for you grew.. because you showed her, she are not a wuss who would hang around and take BS

 

[Dingo]

Having to let go of a woman you really love has to be one of the hardest things we can experience.....

 

[Ronaldo7]

Don't think about it. Erase every memory you have of her.

You will suffer greatly if you don't. Move fast, think forward.

 

[Desdinova]

I want your experiences or stories of woman you had to get rid of, even tho you loved her..

Sure, I'll bite...

How did you feel at the time of break up?

Here's the thing... She invited me over to break up with me. I had a feeling that this was the purpose for the invitation, but I went anyway. The conversation when in a direction that caused my gut to scream "SHE WANTS TO BREAK UP!" She wasn't happy that I wasn't interested in marrying her at that particular time (mainly due to her usage of drugs and alcohol). When she put down a roadblock in the conversation, I ended it. I went to leave and she asked me for a hug. I declined and left.

Initially, I was both mad and hurt. I went out that night and had some much needed fun.

So I'm not sure if this qualifies since she wanted to break up, but I'm the one who knew that I had to end it.

How did you handle things?

As best as I could. I was going through an extremely difficult time with other things going on in my life, and she just added to the pile of garbage I had to deal with. I honestly believe I would have been better off if the relationship had gone on for at least two more months.

Did you fuk up and go running back to her? What was the outcome..

I did that the next day. I thought that perhaps I had mis-read things and that I prematurely ended it, so I messaged her and told her that I really didn't want to end the relationship. She just confirmed that it was over. I didn't respond.

She contacted me a couple of times over the next few months. She inquired about an inexpensive item of hers that I still had. I didn't respond to her and just threw all the crap she left behind into a box and dropped it on her doorstep.

Most importantly.. now that some time has passed with NC.. how do you look back and feel about this toxic crap you got rid of?

I dodged a fvcking bullet. It's been over 4 years and she's still heavily into drugs and alcohol. She also got fat. The best part about the whole thing is she's been single ever since. I'm now with a woman who doesn't do drugs and alcohol and treats me like a king.

The bottom line is, if you dump someone for a reason, you'll discover that there's a woman out there who doesn't have that reason.

 

[AlphaNate]

I'll come out of it a better man. That's all anyone needs to know.

 

[RangerMIke]

When you dump a girl and take her back you are asking for trouble. Now if she dumps you, it is possible for you to go back and fvck her some more if that is what you want.

But if you dumped her... then you get back together, it is only temporary until such time that she can get you back. I know there are many of you here that think this is paranoid BS, but trust me. Women do not forget, and when she gets emotional, she will remember how you made her feel when you dumped her and she will do ANYTHING she can to hurt you. She will fvck your best friend, she will fvck you brother.... she will accuse you of abuse... and rape if she can. She will steal from you wreak your car... whatever it is you like she will try to destroy. Women do not think rationally they feel their way through life, they can not forgive you because forgiveness is a rational act. If you ever hurt a women... REALLY hurt a woman, you are DONE... walk away and go find a new one, because otherwise you are sitting on a time-bomb.

 

[nismo-4]

To add, if you feel things are going south, drop her. She's not that attractive anyway, and you can always do better. Moving on is easy as hell. Just do it.