Your ABC's: The Stance!

cynetix

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Now we pay a lot of attention, in our lives, and on this board, of how we appear to the world and especially its women. We talk about the clothes and the walk and sometimes even the cologne. But what is not oft mentioned, but probably the most important, is THE STANCE.

Now there are two reasons I'm bringing this up in the first place. One, I have for a long time observed other guys, and the way they stand--for example, at a line at a store--and been puzzled by why SO MANY OF THEM exude a complete lack of confidence. Others seem simply ill at ease with themselves. Two, a girl recently told me that she really likes my presence (this is a score! I'm a shortie!) and when I asked her what the heck she was talkin' about, she cited the way I stand.

Attention to this detail about yourself, like so many other things on this board (the focus, incidentally, of this ABC series I'm packaging up for you newbies out there), is about confidence. It is about building self-assuredness for yourself. Standing a certain way will not get you your girl, but the attention you invest in this delivers RESULTS: you will figure out how to present your strength in the simplest of ways. It is a solid foundation.

How? Be conscious of how you are standing, and look at other males, if there are any, around you. In a line, for example, plenty of guys have their hands in their pockets. Other guys have to put their arms crossed in front of them. These are not necessarily BAD, but they are 90% of the time--trust me on this--DEFENSIVE TACTICS. They don't know how to stand!

Don't misunderstand; it is not necessarily wrong to twiddle your thumbs, or drum on your pants, or be otherwise exuberant while completely confident. But look around, and you can tell in an instant what is fake and what is not. Standing straight and tall without having to resort to any other gestures, or a certain placement of limbs (hehe), is such a simple, fundamental thing that, if mastered, can only aid you in blossoming into a DJ.

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MattB

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So you mean just standing straight?
 

Awkward

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Must be something wrong with you Cynetix you keep spewing out great posts on this board. I have noticed how people stand too, I think you are dead on with this post.
 

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I read a book on body language and i found the best stance is to be striaght up, shoulders partially back, head up a little and palms facing outward as much as possible.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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afterbuzz

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Good post, nice topic. Generally open stances are better. Feet should be a bit wider than your shoulders. Back straight and head high (like you're swinging on a trapeze by your teeth). Arms definitely not crossed. I hook my thumbs into by belt loops, or into the waistline of my pants and have my hands kinda "pointing" towards my crotch. I've noticed that the bad boy types that get women tend to stand like that.
 
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