You young DJ's in training got it made!

WestCoaster

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OK, I'm a bit older than the average DJ/DJ in training here, but listen to this: The DJ site is golden, you Gen Xers and Yers or whatevers (30 and under) are receiving information that is golden, that wasn't taught to us oldsters. You are receiving not just tidbits of advice, but a manual for a lifestyle of living. And it's the best lifestyle. It's about how to take care of yourself emotionally.

None of my same-age friends received this advice. If they became DJs it was by accident. There was no internet growing up and all the relationship books at the stores -- and they're still this way -- are written from an AFC or women's point of view.

A guy I knew once put roses in a guitar case and played love songs for a girl outside her window (several years ago). Naturally the girl crapped on him and thought this was stupid, and the biotch even mentioned this to his best friend! Yeah, it was AFC but you know what: HE DIDN'T KNOW ANY BETTER! The world is AFC, he was taught to do this courtship crap by TV, books, and probably his father. He had no idea it would backfire.

So PLEASE young DJs, do NOT take this site for granted. Don't brush it off, don't act like these articles and skills are worthless. They are golden. The advice coming from this site is more valuable than anything you'll ever receive in college or on the job market. It's about your LIFE. It will make the difference between a divorce and a good marriage and/or relationship; it will help your skills in dealing with all kinds of people.

Take this stuff seriously!
 

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Wise words! I am living proof this site works.

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I know, I know

I wish that I could've been like this when I was still in high school.

But it's still early for me!:p
 

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Sticky it up.
 

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i agree 100%... i've been taking this site serious for about 3 months and my life has changed. not only with women either. once you start respecting yourself, taking yourself seriously, stop taking BS from people, respecting others, etc... you will live a fuller life. i'm glad i found this site while i'm still young. i was heading down the AFC path at full force.
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Yep. I totally agree. I was 39 when I found this site. You can teach an old dog new tricks. ;) I've been using the info here for about 2 months, and I'm already seeing the effects. More dates, less flaking. I actually walked up to a woman in a club a few weeks ago and talked to her for about 10 minutes, and she was a cutie (7.5). I would never have had the guts to do that before. My game still needs lots of work, but I can feel it improving. This site is it!
 

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Its true, I had been into to this site for about a month, and now have the hottest girlfriend i could ever want. I am more happy than I could imagine, and I don't feel like I get walked on or pushed over by ladies, or anyone for that matter. Everyone has an AFC friend who is wasting his days away infront of his XBox or PS2. We need to help these guys, show your friends this site, it changes everyone only for the better.
 

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I know I know
I LOVE this site, and Im lucky to have found it while Im still very young, Generation Y baby!
 

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Originally posted by WestCoaster
So PLEASE young DJs, do NOT take this site for granted. Don't brush it off, don't act like these articles and skills are worthless. They are golden. The advice coming from this site is more valuable than anything you'll ever receive in college or on the job market. It's about your LIFE. It will make the difference between a divorce and a good marriage and/or relationship; it will help your skills in dealing with all kinds of people.

Take this stuff seriously!
Those that have the ability to learn will. The weaklings will brush it off while the rest of us will have a trail of their ex-girlfriends trying to get our attention.

SARGE ON!!!
 
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I feel ya. I'm 44 and the only one selling this type of info back then was Eric Webber author of "how to pick up girls" I had his book and phonograph back in the 70's.

I had to learn my game from pops and older players.

Here is a tip for some of the younger playa's....uh excuse the cursing...orginally posted to a different market and substitute symp for AFC..same kinda fool:

1. Process not Outcome:

Learn to focus on enjoying fu*cking with bi*tches. Learn to enjoy jerking her chain. Don’t worry about the outcome. Put yourself in the mindset where your enjoyment comes from ****ing with her and not the getting those panties.

Now don’t get this twisted. Your goal is still to put the bi*tch on your team, but you gotta do your sh*t with balance. Not chasing her like the werewolf of London. You wanna use a mellow laid back ****y approach on the bi*tch. Show her your not intimidated because she is a dime piece.

By focusing on the Process you take all the stress outta getting the Outcome.

2. Complaining =Powerlessness=Symp. Shut the fu*ck up about sh*t. Don’t whine about your problems to ho’s. This sh*t makes you look weak and powerless. Real men make their problems go the f**k away. Symps whine about theirs. To the ho’ your life is a paradise and you wanna sell her a ride on it of course for a price.


3. Don’t babble on about sh*t that interest yo ass, (pimpospher) talk about her life. This sh*t amazes me that symps do this over & over again. Talk about themselves trying to impress b*itches into liking them. Bi*tches are sitting there with a fake smile on their faces wondering WHAT THE FU*CK THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT. Or thinking what an idiot, why am I here, what should I wear to the party tonight I'm not inviting this fool too and ect..ect..


4. Don’t spill your guts about yourself. Bleed this shi*t out slowly. The less they know about you the better. Don’t be that desperate loser mutha ****a who has a desire to share his pathetic little life with a b*tch. Don’t talk about your early childhood fears, traumas, how you were potty trained, I mean nothing Create an air of mystery. Like I said before *****es love this sh*t.
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Play the game or get played by the game, your choice. In the art of love their are no victims only volunteers.
 

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PS, I do believe that little bit should be the four commandments of the DJ bible! :D

I especially like #1. I can't believe how FUN it can be.

Originally posted by Player_Supreme
1. Process not Outcome:

Learn to focus on enjoying fu*cking with bi*tches. Learn to enjoy jerking her chain. Don’t worry about the outcome. Put yourself in the mindset where your enjoyment comes from ****ing with her and not the getting those panties.

Now don’t get this twisted. Your goal is still to put the bi*tch on your team, but you gotta do your sh*t with balance. Not chasing her like the werewolf of London. You wanna use a mellow laid back ****y approach on the bi*tch. Show her your not intimidated because she is a dime piece.

By focusing on the Process you take all the stress outta getting the Outcome.
BGMan
 

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i agree, this site has helped me immensely and continues to every day. not just relationships, also it has helped me develop a more mautre world view. I wish i found it when i was in HS, but even now i am grateful
 

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Good points except No. 1

Player Supreme's post, albeit somewhat crude (by PS' own admission) makes valid points. Each point is worth of its own thread, but let's take each one in turn.

1. Process not Outcome:

Learn to focus on enjoying fu*cking with bi*tches. Learn to enjoy jerking her chain. Don't worry about the outcome. Put yourself in the mindset where your enjoyment comes from fu*king with her and not the getting those panties.

Now don't get this twisted. Your goal is still to put the bi*tch on your team, but you gotta do your sh*t with balance. Not chasing her like the werewolf of London. You wanna use a mellow laid back ****y approach on the bi*tch. Show her your not intimidated because she is a dime piece.

By focusing on the Process you take all the stress outta getting the Outcome.
I take issue with the first point to the degree that it emphasizes playing so-called "head games" with women. A mature man doesn't knowingly mislead a woman, nor does he intentionally engage in acts of mental cruelty. A mature man does, however, keep a woman constantly guessing as to what his next move will be. To the extent Player Supreme was referring to the use of the occasional "neg-hit" to keep a woman's ego in check, I agree.

The second part of the "Process not Outcome" point is important. No one, and I mean no one should see your vulnerabilities unless you want to reveal them. Chasing after a woman because she's attractive exposes a major vulnerability -- desire -- and as a result you reveal a weakness that she can use to her advantage if she wants something from you (e.g., money, fame, power, a job, etc...). Showing the exact opposite -- disdain -- can be a strength, but only if you are convincing in your professed belief that a woman is not up to your standards. You can't show disdain in the context of not being able to "get her," because that's simply sour grapes. A weak man often shows disdain for something he can't have, but in doing so makes it clear that he is incapable of having it, not that he doesn't want it.

2. Complaining =Powerlessness=Symp. Shut the fu*ck up about sh*t. Don't whine about your problems to h*es. This sh*t makes you look weak and powerless. Real men make their problems go the f**k away. Symps whine about theirs. To the ho?your life is a paradise and you wanna sell her a ride on it of course for a price.
This is also a very important point. You shouldn't complain about your problems to other people, because complaining makes it clear that you can't deal with your problems. What woman wants a man who can't deal with his problems, particularly when she may want him to help her deal with her problems? If you still think that you want to discuss your problems with other people, you have to do so indirectly. Instead of saying "my boss is a jerk" and thereafter complain about how he yelled at you, ask your woman's opinion about the situation. This does two things: (1) it shows you value her opinion (even if you don't) and (2) it shows you trust her by being willing to confide in her. Remember, it's not what you say, but how you say it.

3. Don't babble on about sh*t that interest yo ass, (pimpospher) talk about her life. This sh*t amazes me that symps do this over & over again. Talk about themselves trying to impress b*itches into liking them. Bi*tches are sitting there with a fake smile on their faces wondering WHAT THE FU*CK THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT. Or thinking what an idiot, why am I here, what should I wear to the party tonight I'm not inviting this fool too and etc..etc..
This is true, to an extent. You can't impress a woman if you're doing all the talking. It's like music -- without the pauses between notes, all you would have is a cacophony of noise. However, this does not mean you shouldn't talk about your passions in such a way that a woman wants to share them with you. You need to have passions in your life, and those passions must come across in conversation. Nevertheless, be extremely careful about dominating the conversation. For the most part, she doesn't care about what your passions are, as long as you have them. Her interest in your passions is strictly a qualifier. Once you get past that part of the conversation, you must talk about her, because as we all know, the person we most want to talk about is ourselves.

4. Don't spill your guts about yourself. Bleed this shi*t out slowly. The less they know about you the better. Don't be that desperate loser mutha fu*ka who has a desire to share his pathetic little life with a b*tch. Don't talk about your early childhood fears, traumas, how you were potty trained, I mean nothing Create an air of mystery. Like I said before *****es love this sh*t.
This point goes hand-in-hand with points 1, 2 & 3. Mystery however, is only effective to a point. You need to disseminate information slowly, but not so slowly that a woman loses interest.
 

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WestCoaster has this dead-on.

You younger guys on this site have it great.

I'm 50-plus and this site has helped me like you can't believe. The techniques you learn here work on women 20 to 35-plus. Women are women -- period. Most of the women I date are aged 35-45 and what I've applied from this site works just fine on them.

What kills me is that I accidently "DJ-ed" a few girls in the past and didn't know it! Those personal experiences as an "Accidental DJ" are what verified the techniques I found here much later on.

And, you younger guys listen up -- what you learn here will also save you enormous pain later on. Not only the pain of too much Saturday night TV, but also the pain (emotional and financial) of marrying the wrong woman. I've been there, done that, so don't do that! If I'd known DJ techniques and had a DJ outlook, I would've never married the beeotch.

I think we should all give Allen Thompson giant props and a thank-you for bringing us this valuable website.
 
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