You TEN CHASERS will be chasing SEVENS in five years. Here's WHY.

[blayde]

Hey, i used to chase tens too. Got over it. You guys are not there yet. Havn't learned the hard way:

1. TENS are too much trouble. Once you get over the infatuation stage you'll start to notice the incredible hassle your life has become.

2. Society doesnt accept mismatches. If youre average, why do you want to date up five notches?

3. You'll feel AWFUL once you see she doesnt love you for you.

4. She's high maintenance and that will drain you my friend.

5. Youre life will become about PROVING 24 hours a day something. Tiresome.

6. BONUS: After going through all this, you'll be dating sevens and wondering why you didnt take my advice ten years ago.

 

[drixsa]

this is all quite nice but you dont seem to qualify your girls well enough before you date them

what is this your 3rd post on the exact same thing?

stop judging the woman you find attractive only by their looks and youll be happier.

besides you live in vegas, so i cant imagine how many "nice" girls live there

 

[sux2bu]

I'm already 3 steps ahead of you on this topic, my friend. I'm sure everyone has gone through this scenario. Ever date a really HOT girl, only to have your buds prod and ask: "hey, does she have a sister?" or "where did you find her at?! It all boils down to having a trophy to parade around to command attention and respect from other guys. This type of girl might be okay to have around short-term, but as blayde said, it's not worth it in the long run.

 

[sux2bu]

Originally posted by drixsa

besides you live in vegas, so i cant imagine how many "nice" girls live there

The female population of Vegas probably consists of 80% of the
prostitutes on the west coast!

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

I can understand you zeal in trying to get this message across.

Think about what makes a person interesting. A life of adversity, obstacles overcome, character development.

Now think of the life of your average SuperHottie. Always having things handed to them on a silver platter just because they are fine.

This is why it is so difficult to find gorgeous women of substance.
It is also why these girls are so high maintenance.

On a side note, I think the HB scale is utter bullshyt

An HB7 can become an HB9 if she demonstrates enough attractive qualities (intelligence, humor,fun-loving, etc)

Finally I think the ultimate goal of everyone here is not to have to CHASE anyone. Let these chicks do some of the chasing for a change. Thats when you know you are the Don

 

[oOh Nasty]

Originally posted by Crotch Sniffer
I can understand you zeal in trying to get this message across.

Think about what makes a person interesting. A life of adversity, obstacles overcome, character development.

Now think of the life of your average SuperHottie. Alway shaving things handed to them on a silver platter just because they are fine.

This is why it is so difficult to find gorgeous women of substance.
It is also why these girls are so high maintenance.

On a side note, I think the HB scale is utter bullshyt

An HB7 can become an HB9 if she demonstrates enough attractive qualities (intelligence, humor,fun-loving, etc)

Finally I think the ultimate goal of everyone here is not to have to CHASE anyone. Let thesechicks do some of the chasing for a change. Thats when you know you are the Don

i like

 

[divega]

Blayde,
It seems that you judge a woman by the standards of others rather than that of your own. You see a hot girl and you feel humbled by her, not necessarily because she deserves it, but because you think you should be.
The focus seems to be that a woman is a composition of various parts, .. you know.. like Looks she's a 9, personality she's a 6, etc. instead of going, you know.. i don't think we jive that well. The approach is wrong I'd say... it's approaching the whole thing like a survey or something, where you have to check off a certain amount of boxes before a girl is right for you instead of following gut instincts.
This whole checkbox thing is pretty much standards set by others, traits that you think you should find in a woman. Just go by your gut, and see girls as either yes's (we get along great) and no's (there's no chance for us) rather than "damn if only her cup size was a bit bigger, she would've been perfect"

later

 

[***]

What you say about 10's is not true. Every girl can be controlled at some level, you do not have to be constantly proving yourself. I always feel that when you give up on trying you give up on life, why settle for a seven?

 

[On_the_Top]

Originally posted by blayde
Hey, i used to chase tens too. Got over it. You guys are not there yet. Havn't learned the hard way:


1. Society doesnt accept mismatches. If youre average, why do you want to date up five notches?


That is true to a extent. One major problem I think all Dj's run into is jealousy. Not from females, but from other men. They get jealous, cause they you come from being a nobody, going to being a somebody. You aren't supposed to have anything, and they view you as a threat(to what, I don't know.) People who you thought were aquantices or even friends will turn on you, cause to them you are becoming succesful with women and in life(I hope.) Well I don't know about anyone else, but this is what I have to deal with to a extent. Do I let it stop me? No, I just say screw them, cause Iam not out to please anyone, unless I have something to gain from it. But jealousy can become a real *****.

 

[digitalrat]

Originally posted by sux2bu
I'm already 3 steps ahead of you on this topic, my friend. I'm sure everyone has gone through this scenario. Ever date a really HOT girl, only to have your buds prod and ask: "hey, does she have a sister?" or "where did you find her at?! It all boils down to having a trophy to parade around to command attention and respect from other guys. This type of girl might be okay to have around short-term, but as blayde said, it's not worth it in the long run.

That's funny. I was gaming this good looking chick. The kind of chick that has a parade of guys chasing her. Well, she was an attention ***** by nature. I couldn't put up with her being so immature anymore and I just let her go. Also a reason why I let her go was because she leaves so close and i'm very good friends with her family. My friend is now trying to get with her. lol

 

[DEKKA]

Originally posted by blayde
Hey, i used to chase tens too. Got over it. You guys are not there yet. Havn't learned the hard way:

1. TENS are too much trouble. Once you get over the infatuation stage you'll start to notice the incredible hassle your life has become.

2. Society doesnt accept mismatches. If youre average, why do you want to date up five notches?

3. You'll feel AWFUL once you see she doesnt love you for you.

4. She's high maintenance and that will drain you my friend.

5. Youre life will become about PROVING 24 hours a day something. Tiresome.

6. BONUS: After going through all this, you'll be dating sevens and wondering why you didnt take my advice ten years ago.

1. TENS don't exist and the definition of a TEN means that they are not a pain in the ass to be around. To be a TEN you have to have looks + personality. A true TEN is not a hassle to your life.

2. Society loves to see the guy rise from the muck and mire to succeed and accomplish great things. Thats why people watch all those stupid rags to riches movies. Don't start accepting that "accept it" philosophy, if you want it go get it.

3. Nobody really loves anybody else. They just love how people make them feel. Relationships are drugs for the ego. Sex is a drug for your body.

4. Blah.

5. If you're doing that then you don't deserve a TEN.

6. I don't really know what to say.

-Nobody cares what you do so why should you care what people think?
-Stop being a pvssy and start getting what you want.
-Rejection is to be sought after. It's so sexy.
-You don't have to know much to get women, you just have to stop being such a pvssy about everything.
-Somebody slap me cuz I deserve it.

peace out playas

 

[jakethasnake]

I can kind of see this in the uber-celebrities of the world.


Pierce Brosnan has a good looking wife, but she's no match for him in looks alone (most women go ga-ga over Brosnan, remember). She must have some other redeeming qualities.

Paul McCartney, one of the most influential and most universally adored musicians/public figures - has a wife with an artificial leg (ex-model Heather Mills-McCartney). Granted she was probably another spoiled bytchy 10 with a huge sense of entitlement, but her accident with a land-mind has turned her into a huge philantropist and anti-mine activist. I'm sure Paul saw something in her changed character that appealed to him, enough so that he could overlook her missing limb (from the knee down).

Mel Gibson is pretty much considered sexy and desirable by most women in the world, with his good looks and superb acting skills, and especially the passion in his performances. Yet he is with a woman (Robin-something) who is at least 2 notches below him in looks - and they have been together for some 12 odd years, with half a dozen kids to boot (he's Catholic).


Perhaps Blayde's theory isn't foolproof, but he definately isn't pulling this out of his ass. He has some very valid points.



Basically, if you're an average Joe, you can't stray too far from your own looks when you look for a woman (with occasional exceptions). If you're rich or good-looking, you have more lee-way. And only if you're very wealthy or famous or influential can you hope to reign in and KEEP a 'perfect 10' for the long haul. This goes double if you're greedy and you want the 'perfect package' -- looks, breeding, personality, prestige/famous, etc.



I could go on and on.

 

[Mr.Hash wid da Stash]

Hmm I'd have to go with what blayde said about "society doesn't accept mismatches"

It made me remember at work the other day my boss was telling other employees and I about how he saw this gorgeous babe in a mini skirt and a tight white tank top with and ug b/f. My boss was like "he did VERY well for himself didn't he..." then everyone laughed.

So if your an average or dare I say it, an Ugly kunt, be prepared for alot of people talking and laughing behind your back about how you shouldn't be with her. Expect people to say to you in a joking manner(although they're serious) "so <your name>, who's the beautiful girl and what's she doing with you?"

Oh I almost forgot to answer blaydes "if you're average, why do you want to date up 5 notches" Well I am average, I don't go after tens but nice 8s 9s do it for me. I CAN'T help who I find attractive, if finds me. I can't get intimate with a girl I don't find physically appealling, period. I know, it's a double standard, but I can't help it now can I.

 

[MickoZ]

- I agree with DEKKA, a true 10 does not exist, but I will like to correct him, you can use different metric to rate girls. You can use a metric (measure) that evaluate her only on her physical apparence and that is what most of you do and I do too if I rate apparence and even there 10 does not exist. You can also rate her overall.

- We probably do not have the same scale for rating girl... so we are talking different langage... unless there is a defined guide for rate girl here... and even there I am sure not everyone use it.

- Some people say Nice girl have high standard, but you can be surprised... all girl no matter how they look sexy at first (They can seem pretty normal once you get used or you see her normal)
and once you get into their own circle... they let you enter, you will see how weak she maybe is.

- Also some girls are very nice, and they are so nice... that nobody approach them... chance are you will be very surprised if you try to approach them. And we all know that most guys TALK but they do not ACT.

 

[Deep Dish]

DEKKA:
3. Nobody really loves anybody else. They just love how people make them feel. Relationships are drugs for the ego. Sex is a drug for your body.

Exactly! What I was about to say!

Emotions are a drug and we are its drug addict, perpetually out for the next fix. If you look deep into human nature, you see that nobody 'cares' about you, me, anyone; only what they get in return, happiness. It is all about the role we play in someone's life, not about 'us'. Everyone 'uses' everyone else.

[Reminds me to update my signature to "Emotions are a drug and we are its drug addict."]

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Deep Dish
Exactly! What I was about to say!

Emotions are a drug and we are its drug addict, perpetually out for the next fix. If you look deep into human nature, you see that nobody 'cares' about you, me, anyone; only what they get in return, happiness. It is all about the role we play in someone's life, not about 'us'. Everyone 'uses' everyone else.

[Reminds me to update my signature to "Emotions are a drug and we are its drug addict."]

When we are infatuated yes the girl is like a drug. Afterwards you can truly grow to love them. I would also say that a mothers love for her kids seems to be quite genuine love towards them, not just loving them for how they make her feel. This is from my own experiences and observations.

As for the original post, hahahaha, kid nice of you to try and inform us that you got burnt a couple of times by a hottie, but they are not all the big bad monster you seem to think they are! You just got the wrong girls, one day hopefully you will find the right one. Until then, take it easy!

 

[Krassus]

Re: Re: You TEN CHASERS will be chasing SEVENS in five years. Here's WHY.

Originally posted by DEKKA
1. TENS don't exist and the definition of a TEN means that they are not a pain in the ass to be around. To be a TEN you have to have looks + personality. A true TEN is not a hassle to your life.

2. Society loves to see the guy rise from the muck and mire to succeed and accomplish great things. Thats why people watch all those stupid rags to riches movies. Don't start accepting that "accept it" philosophy, if you want it go get it.

3. Nobody really loves anybody else. They just love how people make them feel. Relationships are drugs for the ego. Sex is a drug for your body.

4. Blah.

5. If you're doing that then you don't deserve a TEN.

6. I don't really know what to say.

-Nobody cares what you do so why should you care what people think?
-Stop being a pvssy and start getting what you want.
-Rejection is to be sought after. It's so sexy.
-You don't have to know much to get women, you just have to stop being such a pvssy about everything.
-Somebody slap me cuz I deserve it.

peace out playas

Exactly! You beat me to it!
P.S. Before i forget... no one REALLY believes you were BORN with those eyebrows

 

[Aramas]

There's a troubling thread of narcissism running through this board. It's all very well to try to deprogram oneself from being a loser and aspire to a better life, but some people seem to advocate throwing the baby out with the bath water.

Being a self-absorbed d!ickhead will not get anyone the chicks.

I say loudly and proudly that I do care about people.

 

[mistyc]

wow.... life is so much simpler when you focus on all the negative stuff and decide to not get what you want!

nice............

if I could delete this thread I would.

 

[squirrels]

All things in moderation. Lots of people try to fill the voids in their lives with sex...use it to escape from reality instead of going out and seizing it. There are things in life you need and want, and sex, while it IS one of them, will not substitute or compensate for the other things.

There's nothing wrong with pursuing what you want, but you also have to be careful that what you WANT doesn't become something you NEED, just because you've made it out to be that to avoid facing the OTHER things in your life that need work. It's a careful balance.

I used to think like you...that 10s weren't worth the trouble. Then I realized I was just making up for my shortcomings by doing just the opposite, convincing myself I DIDN'T want something I DID want. "Sour grapes", if you will.

I don't look at any woman as above or below me based on her appearance...or really at all any more. We're all human. She throws up that b*tchy, high-maintenance attitude to weed out guys who aren't sure of their own self-worth, who believe, like you do, that they are somehow "beneath" her. You should know better. She's human just like every other girl. It's YOU that makes her unattainable. YOUR perception makes her unavailable to you.

In summary, maybe you should be chasing 7s right now because you're not ready for the 10s. But don't think that you don't have what it takes to land them. And don't pretend that they don't have what it takes to attract you.