I came to this website in the same manner that probably a solid 75% of you have. Im assuming the majority of us ended up here because of a search engine such as google.com or yahoo.com We probably where searching things such as "Attracting woman, Approaching woman, self improvement". Point being, mainly all of us have ended up here on the same quest, to improve our chances with that one woman, or woman in general. I have read countless post's on here that are so "Hey how do I do this, help me help me.....why this why that, blah blah" And to be honest, I can see where these people are coming from. They are just like alot of us used to be or still are. I have taken in thousands of pages of information in the past 2 month's. I have read a substantial amount of E-Book's, went to the library, read books on psychology, body language, and so on. I would not even be posting this if it meant nothing to me, I am here noticing that there is an AMAZING wealth of knowledge. All of the above was written to express my gratitude to this community, and to ensure that I know this will sound repetitive and potentially annoying.
Anyhow, thats the pre-lude. On to the story......
Imagine the most AFC thing you have ever done, Imagine some of the most AFC situations you have seen a fellow male in. Picture the amount of come on's you have absently missed. Either you can remember one in an instant, or you dont. If you dont you probably are not that bad with woman in the first place. If you can rememeber a gigantic afc move you did, or a gigantic come on that you missed, you are probably a recovering afc or a season vet, that looks back at it and wants to puke.
I was one of those guys, get this.....a girl was talking to me on aim 2 years ago. She mentioned, "hey, what are you doing....you should come over, nobody is home". I told her, thats cool...I gotta go hangout with my buddy. I 100% missed it. Didnt even 2nd guess what she said. Girl's did stuff like that to me constantly for a year and I never noticed it. I may have wondered, "hey does she like me or something"? But I never went farther than that because I was at such a low level of self-esteem that woman advancing on me was something I simply did not take notice of. After a solid year or so of me being completly blind to all these come on's and offerings to go on dates, get together 1 on 1, or even simply hangout, I sunk into a low area of social status, and woman basically lost interest in me. Occasionally a girl would try to advance with me, but they would find out that I was such a sucker that they gave up and we ended up as friends or somebody to ignore. Now, here I am a bit over 2 years later and with all of this improvement I have been doing, women are starting to approach ME again, and I am getting numbers, and to be 100% honest.....I have never even hung out with an attractive female 1 on 1 until 3 days ago.....this is where my problem begins, and the main focus will be on this part of my story/advice plea.
3 Days ago, I am sitting here listening to some tunes, talking with some buddies on aim, and this girl that used to talk to me all the time instant messaged me, she always tried to get me to party with her, go swimming, go out to eat, hangout, she did this for literally 2 to 3 years and with me constantly forming an excuse to not hangout or see each other 1 on 1. The farthest I ever went was going out to lunch with her a couple of times, at school that is, and whenever I did...I was completly shy and 100% AFC. she seemingly placed me in that "friend zone". We proceeded to talk on aim, and after a few minutes of chatter, I did something that I would have never done before sosuave. I asked her "So, when are we going to hangout? I havent seen you in like 4 months?" She replied, "What are you doing thursday?" I told her nothing, and she said. "Wanna go get some lunch, or see a movie?" I accepted the movie option, when thursday rolled around, she called me and asked me if we were still going out later in the evening to see a movie, I accepted and she said she was so excited. She called again to get directions to my place, she said she was excited and asked me if I was too. Apparently after she graduated she said she doesnt really hangout with anybody anymore.
So here she is picking me up from my home, she needs to stop at an ATM and get some money. After getting the money, she brings up the topic...."I broke up with my boyfriend". She described how she couldnt handle him and so forth. Than she gets a call from a friend, its her buddies 21st birthday, she informs him that she is hangin out with her friend, going to see a movie...than hangs up. Phone convo lasted a mere minute. Me and this girl are pretty comfortable with each other, she used to sit in class and rest her legs on top of mine during a movie, use my sweatshirt as a pillow, wear my stuff, pinch me, punch me, but I never got the hint really... that was last school year. She had a boyfriend when she did this stuff too....A few miles down the rode we losen up and start talking like we used to, get to the movie theatre, and I got her laughing like crazy and all that good stuff.
We get our tickets, use the bathroom, and proceed to our assigned auditorium. We sit next to each other, watch the movie, laugh, finish it, than head for the door. When we got to a door she stopped and me never hanging out with a lady, I didnt open it....she stopped and obviously thought I was going to, lmao....I didnt notice till it was too late. The door was locked, and we proceeded to the next....I made sure that I was the one that opened it this time. We get in her car and start heading home, we laughed hard and so on, she said I say the funniest stuff, and halfway home, she mentioned her nose piercing, and I told her I didnt even notice it....I said "look at me" she obeyed and I stared her in the eyes, than her nose and complimented it. The whole time I didnt initiate kino, nor did she try. I didnt neg hit or anything either. She dropped me off at my home, and as I got out I told her it was fun and that we where going to hangout again. She said "for sure, call me sometime."
My questions to those of you that read this far are as follows.
Do you think I blew it?
Do I stand a chance at being more than friends?
Her mentioning a breakup, good or bad?
Her obviously wanting me to open the door's, good / bad?
Should I have treated it as a date, or a casual hangout?
Was I wrong for for being so normal, and non flirty?
And overall, if you wish.....comment on ANY other part of this post and let me know what's on your mind.
This will more than likely have over 100 view's. Lets hear what you have to say.
Please and thank's. Sorry for the length, I bet I gave you something to do eh? =P
Anyhow, thats the pre-lude. On to the story......
Imagine the most AFC thing you have ever done, Imagine some of the most AFC situations you have seen a fellow male in. Picture the amount of come on's you have absently missed. Either you can remember one in an instant, or you dont. If you dont you probably are not that bad with woman in the first place. If you can rememeber a gigantic afc move you did, or a gigantic come on that you missed, you are probably a recovering afc or a season vet, that looks back at it and wants to puke.
I was one of those guys, get this.....a girl was talking to me on aim 2 years ago. She mentioned, "hey, what are you doing....you should come over, nobody is home". I told her, thats cool...I gotta go hangout with my buddy. I 100% missed it. Didnt even 2nd guess what she said. Girl's did stuff like that to me constantly for a year and I never noticed it. I may have wondered, "hey does she like me or something"? But I never went farther than that because I was at such a low level of self-esteem that woman advancing on me was something I simply did not take notice of. After a solid year or so of me being completly blind to all these come on's and offerings to go on dates, get together 1 on 1, or even simply hangout, I sunk into a low area of social status, and woman basically lost interest in me. Occasionally a girl would try to advance with me, but they would find out that I was such a sucker that they gave up and we ended up as friends or somebody to ignore. Now, here I am a bit over 2 years later and with all of this improvement I have been doing, women are starting to approach ME again, and I am getting numbers, and to be 100% honest.....I have never even hung out with an attractive female 1 on 1 until 3 days ago.....this is where my problem begins, and the main focus will be on this part of my story/advice plea.
3 Days ago, I am sitting here listening to some tunes, talking with some buddies on aim, and this girl that used to talk to me all the time instant messaged me, she always tried to get me to party with her, go swimming, go out to eat, hangout, she did this for literally 2 to 3 years and with me constantly forming an excuse to not hangout or see each other 1 on 1. The farthest I ever went was going out to lunch with her a couple of times, at school that is, and whenever I did...I was completly shy and 100% AFC. she seemingly placed me in that "friend zone". We proceeded to talk on aim, and after a few minutes of chatter, I did something that I would have never done before sosuave. I asked her "So, when are we going to hangout? I havent seen you in like 4 months?" She replied, "What are you doing thursday?" I told her nothing, and she said. "Wanna go get some lunch, or see a movie?" I accepted the movie option, when thursday rolled around, she called me and asked me if we were still going out later in the evening to see a movie, I accepted and she said she was so excited. She called again to get directions to my place, she said she was excited and asked me if I was too. Apparently after she graduated she said she doesnt really hangout with anybody anymore.
So here she is picking me up from my home, she needs to stop at an ATM and get some money. After getting the money, she brings up the topic...."I broke up with my boyfriend". She described how she couldnt handle him and so forth. Than she gets a call from a friend, its her buddies 21st birthday, she informs him that she is hangin out with her friend, going to see a movie...than hangs up. Phone convo lasted a mere minute. Me and this girl are pretty comfortable with each other, she used to sit in class and rest her legs on top of mine during a movie, use my sweatshirt as a pillow, wear my stuff, pinch me, punch me, but I never got the hint really... that was last school year. She had a boyfriend when she did this stuff too....A few miles down the rode we losen up and start talking like we used to, get to the movie theatre, and I got her laughing like crazy and all that good stuff.
We get our tickets, use the bathroom, and proceed to our assigned auditorium. We sit next to each other, watch the movie, laugh, finish it, than head for the door. When we got to a door she stopped and me never hanging out with a lady, I didnt open it....she stopped and obviously thought I was going to, lmao....I didnt notice till it was too late. The door was locked, and we proceeded to the next....I made sure that I was the one that opened it this time. We get in her car and start heading home, we laughed hard and so on, she said I say the funniest stuff, and halfway home, she mentioned her nose piercing, and I told her I didnt even notice it....I said "look at me" she obeyed and I stared her in the eyes, than her nose and complimented it. The whole time I didnt initiate kino, nor did she try. I didnt neg hit or anything either. She dropped me off at my home, and as I got out I told her it was fun and that we where going to hangout again. She said "for sure, call me sometime."
My questions to those of you that read this far are as follows.
Do you think I blew it?
Do I stand a chance at being more than friends?
Her mentioning a breakup, good or bad?
Her obviously wanting me to open the door's, good / bad?
Should I have treated it as a date, or a casual hangout?
Was I wrong for for being so normal, and non flirty?
And overall, if you wish.....comment on ANY other part of this post and let me know what's on your mind.
This will more than likely have over 100 view's. Lets hear what you have to say.
Please and thank's. Sorry for the length, I bet I gave you something to do eh? =P
