you should not support your gf's goals

[pyros]

Hello.

According to this http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/01/14/why-you-shouldnt-support-your-girlfriends-goals/

you should not help your gf achieve a higher status than yourself, neither let her be in the presence of high status men regularly since she wants a man of higher value than herself, and if she becomes higher value than you, chances are she will dump you.

Do you agree? what if your gf started to attend salsa lessons, and after a year she became proficient and started to go to festivals, workshops, do performances and she met lots of cute male dancers? would you support her in this? or would you follow the advise above?


Thanks.

 

[HumbleNinja]

Hello.

According to this http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/01/14/why-you-shouldnt-support-your-girlfriends-goals/

you should not help your gf achieve a higher status than yourself, neither let her be in the presence of high status men regularly since she wants a man of higher value than herself, and if she becomes higher value than you, chances are she will dump you.

Do you agree? what if your gf started to attend salsa lessons, and after a year she became proficient and started to go to festivals, workshops, do performances and she met lots of cute male dancers? would you support her in this? or would you follow the advise above?


Thanks.

No. Let's all lock them in a cages and never let them out. Dont let them go to college. Rip up their diplomas. Don't let them work. Nothing. Because as we all know a good looking chick will get hit on anywhere and us "real men" can't have that! While we're at it we should demean chicks as well and pummel their self-confidence so low they'll never get it back.

A chick is going to do what she's going to do. If anyone is scared of losing a chick then they're a little control freak pvssyboy anyway.

You support the chick so long as she supports you. If not you can always call it quits. Period.

If you can't trust a chick then be man enough not to cry about it, look for "DJ" PUA ways to get her back just leave her and move on. Most can't do that though as their chick is their whole "world".

 

[DonJuanit0]

Hello.

According to this http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/01/14/why-you-shouldnt-support-your-girlfriends-goals/

you should not help your gf achieve a higher status than yourself, neither let her be in the presence of high status men regularly since she wants a man of higher value than herself, and if she becomes higher value than you, chances are she will dump you.

Do you agree? what if your gf started to attend salsa lessons, and after a year she became proficient and started to go to festivals, workshops, do performances and she met lots of cute male dancers? would you support her in this? or would you follow the advise above?


Thanks.

My current gf is a salsa instructor lol, and yes I don't really like the idea of her dancing with other men, prettier or not than me, but still!

A real man would really be afraid of his woman's high value? Our morals, beliefs, confidence, feel of justice and many other things written in this forum millions of times make us who we are, not just our status in society!

I bolded feel of justice because this is exactly what this article wants to corrupt! I wouldn't feel good with myself holding my gf back just because of my fear of her leaving me!

1. My morals wouldn't allow me to do so!
2. She could find out, or someone else may open her eyes. (even worst)
3. Isn't this a kind of complex?

It is really easy to place a woman to where she should be without messing her whole life! Being strong in any aspect gives her the insurance she wants!

I do agree, making more money than you may get her thinking, but still, she should have a serious complex as well to leave you for that and maybe it would be even better to get rid of her and find a better one.

 

[DarkDetective50]

An alpha male is comfortable in his own skin and confident of himself and his ability to attract and keep women.

Feeling like you need to make a woman stay lower than you screams of insecurity and any woman will smell this on you from 10 miles away. In your desperate attempts to keep her lower than you, your actions will grow even more beta and you will only drive her further away.

The biggest thing any nab can do is to conquer and lose his fears. Lose the fear of losing a woman. Lose the fear of not having a woman in your life.

Any woman that leaves you because you don't make as much money as her or aren't as well built as her dance partner want right for you to begin with. Why would you want to get or stay in a LTR with a woman who obviously doesn't value you. The abundance mentality confess into play here and you'll realize there are many other women out there who will appreciate you got who you are rather than what you have.

 

[pyros]

the article is not saying that you should NEVER support your gf's ideals, it says that if her value becomes higher than yours, she will feel less attracted. So either you do not support her so she remains the same, or you do but you also increase your own value to keep balance.

 

[DonJuanit0]

Our goal here is to always become better anyway! There is not an end to improvement in all of us!

We are not doing it for women but for ourselves! So no, not supporting her is wrong and increasing our own value, because of women and her chance to increase hers is wrong as well!

 

[HumbleNinja]

the article is not saying that you should NEVER support your gf's ideals, it says that if her value becomes higher than yours, she will feel less attracted. So either you do not support her so she remains the same, or you do but you also increase your own value to keep balance.

So work on not supporting a chicks ideals if you aren't interested in increasing your own?

Or only support your chicks ideals if you plan on increasing your own?

Still sounds like a dude who needs to control his chick as his "world".

Not going at you OP but that thought process in the article is retarded and needy as fvck.

Who the hell would try to purposely NOT support a chick because they felt comfortable being the way they are YET still want to keep the chick? A needy control freak that's who.

Some of these dudes are pvssified whack jobs KJing the dopiest sh1t they can dream of.

 

[Trixx]

This can't be serious...

 

[skinnyguy]

I'm tired of dating girls who are in community college at 25 years old, or who work as waitresses. Those slvts have nothing to offer other than pvssy and as someone said on here you get tired of f**king them at some point.

I may marry a rich corporate woman some day. It's great for me because she'll pay for most of the stuff. And if we get divorced we'll split the assets and I will have a great life. Call me a gold digger

 

[Donnie Darko]

Just skimming this....my thoughts are that you should absolutely put your own goals and ambitions before your girlfirend's goals and ambitions. You can still support her but don't do it at your own expense and don't support her so much that it detractd you from your own pursuits.

Honestly, it is easier said than done...bc these chicks can suck away a lot of your time when they are trying to get your "help"...but don't be fooled most of these girls just want you to do the work for them and lead them.

 

[( . )( . )]

Hypergamy doesn't care about your SWPL preening of "supporting" your chick.

From a comment:

To take it further, she should be supporting the man’s goals

Exactly. Lets face it women's "goals" are usually fruitless time/money wasting endeavours anyway. No woman has gone anywhere substantial without hitching a ride on a mans back. If her ultimate "goals" don't include supporting me and being the best mother and lover she can possibly be and the glue that binds a happy family together then her "goals" aren't worth a pinch of sh!t to me.

Support her to join a rock band and go on tour with a bunch of thirsty men who want to phuck her ,one of which may even match my level of shininess and awesome thus paving the way for her hypergamic instincts to take a ride on the carousel and rationalize it later? Pfffft :crackup: Yeah like I'm going to get on board blowing smoke up her ass with that idea.

Then again if she's ever dumb enough or sees me as low enough value to come to me and tell me she's going on tour with a rock band then that's a different story. I chose poorly or dropped the ball somewhere. My fault.