Yep, it was a big mistake. I regret it. I just could not get past the unemployed thing. She is not a high earner. We would have had severe financial stress. But looking back I should have done it. She did love me more than I loved her and I loved her more than any woman I have met. Big mistake....Live and learn
Because sex is what defines a relationship... the difference between a 'friend' and a 'girl/boy friend' is sex. If you are NOT sexually compatible, it's better to find out sooner than later. In my mind, bad news does not get better with time.
Yet another example of a woman that does not understand why they are the way they are. The reason women don't place sex as high as men is that it is relatively easy for you to get sex, people do not value what is easy for them to attain. It really is that simple. It really is no co-incidence that as women get older they become more sexually aggressive. Why, because she is starting to lose her looks and sex becomes less easy to attain.
This is not a mistake. This is you being logical. How the fvck are you gonna pay for a wedding when you're unemployed? Women who focus 100% on the wedding day cannot see past it. The wedding only lasts one day, but everything after is supposed to be forever. If the both of you had identical plans for the future, that should be the main goal, NOT the wedding.
She would have been satisfied with a justice of the peace wedding. But you too are correct. I focused on logic. It was tough enough being unemployed. Getting married and having another individual to be responsible for plus all the emotion of a woman would have been very stressful. In the end I was unemployed for 2 years. So it would have been a hardship. Her skill set isnt very high. HS diploma.
How are most western women mentally ill?
Life doesn't wait for you to get your sh!t together all the time. Either you can take advantage of opportunities when they are there or you can choose not to and then regret it later on down the road.
Yes I am regretting it right now. On the other hand it might have been hell for two years. She is frugal. She would have cooked every meal and kept the house clean. It might have worked. Hind sight is 20/20. I have no clue. Being how women are she might call me in a few months after changing her mind. IDC I will cross that bridge when I come to it. As for now she knows what I want. I am in nc.
How was this an opportunity? What was the hurry to get married? What would a legal document do to make their relationship and/or financial situation better? It sounds like there were more important issues to deal with at that point, and all she wanted was her day as a princess, and she wanted it NOW.
Nice try at being clever, but no one here is trying to game djgirl. She might be trolling (unlikely), but this isn't a sh*t test. This is called... a "discussion". A very one sided discussion where someone is getting railed, but a discussion nonetheless.
Yet you're continually posting in said thread. It's also ironic you point out people are inflating her ego by posting, after you just got done putting words in her mouth and giving her post a positive spin. Well played.
Not to mention that it takes more things to be a higher scoring male than female. Just because you look good, doesn't mean you're high value to a woman. They get tons of offers from all kinds of guys, good looking ones included, constant, unending attention to the point that it desensitizes them to males as a whole. A female is rated by how good she looks, and to non-blue pillers, the amount of negative personality traits she doesn't have like mental illness, entitlement, duplicity and so on. A male is rated by his looks, social status, career and money, and then he also needs at least a modicum of pickup (basically salesmanship) skill - and the lesser the sum of his material value is the more he needs of that skill which just like real sales jobs takes work, experience and a natural predisposition to it - on top of already being at a mathematical disadvantage because he's a male.
