If you're acting like a chump, it is because you're not in control of yourself.
This is correct. However, modern (Western) society is not in control of itself. This is where the comparative metaphor to blue-red pill mindset arose. Men and women have been conditioned in to the Disney fairytale ending, which simply no longer exists, if it ever did in the first place. Very few are aware of, let alone are able to control, their own psychology. 'Just be yourself' and chivalry no longer cut it in today's society. Look at all the threads and stories herein that prove that the fairytale doesn't exist.
As Millionaire alluded, it only takes one major crash and burn to bring the 'strongest' guy to his knees.
The Alpha-beta-omega caste system is present throughout nature. It cannot be denied. Just watch a documentary by David Attenborough to see is so. It is nature's order of things.
You outlook is valid. But you provide little or no theoretical understanding of the complexities of the situation, nor any methodology to address it. You provide a nice rhetoric, but that's about it.