"You just want sex"

[TheMonkeyKing]

Got the date next Friday.

Kind of need to re-spin this one as I let it go flat in October and basically no contact for 3 months. I would usually be more cheeky with it but I was being a bit slack when I left it. She's a good girl and is yet to even flake. She outright said before that she stick to plans when she makes them, and so far she's given me no reason not to believe that.

Going full blown romance on this one, just as a bit of a test; obviously keeping expectation to a minimum. If she doesn't bite after a couple of dates, next. Got a couple of other prospects I'm about to reintegrate anyway.

 

[Bingo-Player]

IMO if your being asked this question your game isn't smooth enough or your being too crass

her anti sloot systems have detected you and that's not good for anyone

with girls you only want to bang, you almost have to keep them distracted long enough to get them into bed

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

your being too crass

This is it I think. We were banging before, but I wasn't romancing her at all. Basically, she would bring me food, we'd bang, fall asleep, part company in the morning. I guess any bird with an ounce of self respect and worth won't buy in to that kind of set up for long. It's a bit more give and take with quality women. There comes a point where we have to give them a bit of what they want in order to keep getting what we want. She can be quite a lively fun girl to be fair. Guess I'll just take her out and get the juices flowing again.

 

[Roober]

This is it I think. We were banging before, but I wasn't romancing her at all. Basically, she would bring me food, we'd bang, fall asleep, part company in the morning. I guess any bird with an ounce of self respect and worth won't buy in to that kind of set up for long. It's a bit more give and take with quality women. There comes a point where we have to give them a bit of what they want in order to keep getting what we want. She can be quite a lively fun girl to be fair. Guess I'll just take her out and get the juices flowing again.

Agreed! With most, I would think you have to give the girlfriend experience once in a while...

 

[wifehunter]

Girl : You just want sex

Old Skoolr: Well not just sex, I'd like a sandwich afterwards too.

...and a back rub!

 

[WanderingMan]

I think this one's a little more than just a sh1t test. Some underlying issue is going on. Maybe this particular relationship is just about sex but now she's starting to get feelings for you. Or, you are just "using" her for sex and she's met someone else so she's trying to see where you two stand. Maybe she really does need to you to define the boundaries because you have been giving her mixed signals. Whatever. This has come up for me a few times, and it's usually somewhere near the beginning of the end of the "relationship".

 

[old_skoolr]

This is it I think. We were banging before, but I wasn't romancing her at all. Basically, she would bring me food, we'd bang, fall asleep, part company in the morning. I guess any bird with an ounce of self respect and worth won't buy in to that kind of set up for long. It's a bit more give and take with quality women. There comes a point where we have to give them a bit of what they want in order to keep getting what we want. She can be quite a lively fun girl to be fair. Guess I'll just take her out and get the juices flowing again.

Sounds like the perfect relationship model right there, this is what all DJs should be aiming for.

 

[machoMax]

"You just want sex" - "yes baby, you are so smart noticing this!"

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

It wasn't a sh!t test, but I don't think it warrants a nexting either; both a bit reactionary.

She raised a legitimate concern because in her defense, I was behaving like an incel teenager.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Do what I said to do next time. You don't say it in a "Fvck you " tone. You get a puzzled look on your face, say " I really don't know what to say to that" and grab your jacket. That leaves it wide open to interpretation.....but one thing that is NOT wide open.....is that you are leaving............you may be surprised at what comes next..........she may be following you saying "wait, I didn't mean it that way. Come sit down and talk about it" You will never know unless you try. It is a loaded , unfair question, that I simply wouldn't tolerate.

Simply think of this like when the car salesman says "Nope, this is the absolute best I can do" and you sit there for a minute, then stand, grab your coat, and say " I am going to have to think about it"

Same dynamic.

I guess I see where you're coming from. You don't think it's a bit over-sensitive though, when we can just otherwise placate them a bit as I have?

 

[TheCuckSlayer]

Lol.

Walking out is by all means a masculine and powerful move, but it's not a proportionate response to a silly little sh1t test lol. You can only pull it off so many times before you look...silly. You gonna do the same thing when she asks other silly things like "Will you hold my purse" or "Do you say that to every girl"?

Plus, if a woman with some humor said this as a joke you've basically just showed her that you have none and take yourself too seriously.

Nice anecdote about the ex, I agree A&A is great, but that's not really relevant here.

 

[finality]

Women say this all the time. I just tell them I like them and then we have sex.

 

[TheCuckSlayer]

You seem to think I am the same age as you and have never encountered these things before. I am twice your age.....if you have encountered them, you can bet your azz I have, and maybe ten times as much. I have been dealing with women, and their funny little quirks and tests longer than you have been alive. How is that for perspective?


Funny you should mention the purse . My GF already asked me that once in the store, and I said "I don't hold purses" When she asked why not, I said "Because that is a way women test their men to see if they will look like a puzzssy-whipped chump." She laughed and said "How did you know that!" I said "I'm not holding the purse" we both laughed and it was a big joke. She has never asked since.




As far as walking out when a stupid loaded question is asked, such as the one OP posed?

Only need to do it once per girl, either way it goes. So there is no need to worry about looking silly. I don't think you get the significance of it. If I walk....it isn't "for a few minutes" "for a day", it will be until the stupid, loaded questions stop.



All I have heard from you so far is criticism of everyone else.

How have you handled it in the past? Do Tell?

24 year old got under your skin huh?

You're not arguing the point anymore, you're flaming to defend your honor.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Do what I said to do next time. You don't say it in a "Fvck you " tone. You get a puzzled look on your face, say " I really don't know what to say to that" and grab your jacket. That leaves it wide open to interpretation.....

Men should not be indecisive. This may transmit that towards her. There are a few times where saying something like this is positive, but usually when something genuinely strange happens that isn't related to you and you wish to make it somewhat satirical. If something is related to you, own it. That's the best and most respectable course of action.