backbreaker
Master Don Juan
You know my entire life growing up I figured that women had it just as bad as men did, I believed all the BS I heard. Then I grew up lol. I got out in the world and realized that women have it significantly easier than most men do.
I have a female friend who is 27 years old and she's about to buy her first house, she still lives at home, and her dad was crying becuase he realized his "little girl" was about to move away. My mom basically kicked me out the house when I was 18 lol. For no other reason than I was grown. Now, I have a ****ty mom lol but be that as it may, that's a common sentiment among people. "grow up" but if you are a female you have all the time in the world.
Women have bigger social circles than guys do. Women don't have to approach men. Women aren't saving money to pay for wedding rings / wedding bands. I tore a female in our group a new one because she was *****ing about her BF taking too long to buy a ring I was liek ***** you buy a ring, pay for a wedding, buy a house,, pay day to day life **** and see how far you are ahead in life.
This pissed me off. This pissed me off for quite a while. It pissed me off that females if they were anything remotely decent looking could be the scum of the earth and have dudes lined up left and right. And they will say in response to that "yeah but none of these are dudes that you would want to marry" and my response to that is that is tell that guy who busts his ass and is going years without dates lol.
For quite a while, I went on dates, i ****ed women, but I really did not like women. At all actually. I just did it, because I could and that's what you are supposed to do. But I really did not like women all that much.
I kinda think that's where a lot of people on this forum are right now, with that mindset, so I get it.
There is only one thig you can do to move on and to get better, to get rid of the negative attitude.
Accept it.
There comes a day where you just have to accept that **** isn't right, fair, just, or whatever lol. Being me, in life there are some things I've just had to accept that are not fair. I despise people who grew up with 2 loving parents in a traditional nuclear family. You give me that type of support and who knows where I am in life, and I'm already kicking ass lol. I'd strangle the **** out of my dad if I saw him today. I hate the man. I hate the fact that my wife's parents trust every white guy she ever brought home but the second i walked through the door I had to prove myself because of the color of my skin. We're well past that point now but still. Only thing that they saw, and a ot of people ever see is a black dude. As a black guy, sometimes that does suck.
But you know what, I can't change any of that ****. My dad is who he is, I am who I am. And women are who they are. Society is what it is. It's not gonna change.
Realize what you bring to the table.
Another problem that I had in my transition is thinking that becuase women were not dating me that I was a horrible person. I wanted to date hot women so bad lol I tied all my worth into not being able to date hot women. I had to break myself from doing that. I had to realize I bring some **** to the table, ,even if women were too short sighted to see it. To be fair, not very many men saw it either lol. I'm pretty intelligent, I'm a natural born leader. People follow me. I'm a very hard worker. For the **** I give my dad, I look just like him and he's a very handsome man, I'm a good looking guy.
You have to constantly remind yourself that you are worth it. Don't let these people bring you down
Realize what you CAN change
My body wants to be around 185-190. I want it to be around 165-170. If I did not ever work out that's what I would be, 185-190. I have **** metabolism. I have horrible anxiety issues. Probably the drug use. But it's bad. So I take medication for it. I'm smart enough to know that I resented women and my parents so I sought professional help, and still do, to over come that and other issues in my life. These were all very changeable things
When I first met my wife, I thought she was cute / pretty hot but she was another plate. I had hot plates. I had plates hotter than her. After about a month, and she got to know me a little and i got to know her and i went into my super high tech plate spin mode where I was basically trolling her lol, calling, disappearing and we got into a mini argument and I called her a spoiled princess lol. most girls would have said "OMG no i'm not stop being mean" lol. She looked atme and said "look I don't know what to tell you i have good parents, I'm sorry you don't, you need to get over it. I can't help where I was born / how I was raised and neither can you" and she was right. That was one of the moments when I realized I might have something here.
turn your disadvantages into advantages
I went 3 years without touching a woman from 19 to 21. instead of pouting, I bettered myself. I read (real)" books. I played the piano. I learned how to cook. I learned how to eat. I learned how to take care of myself. I learned a of of **** in those 3 years. I learned how to be single.
As a guy, you're more than likely going to have droughts. Yes women can branch swing like a mofo. she's thinking about making a switch with her BF and if she does she has every bit of 5-10 options lol. it is what it is. I don't judge a guy by how much ***** he gets. But what kills me are guys who come out of 1-2 year droughts and are no better off then when they came in. They still making the same money, they still have the same boring ass hobbies, they ain't read anything, they haven't done anything to better themselves.
The trick is just learning how the playing field is and not being bitter over it. Once you can get past that the rest is easy.
I have a female friend who is 27 years old and she's about to buy her first house, she still lives at home, and her dad was crying becuase he realized his "little girl" was about to move away. My mom basically kicked me out the house when I was 18 lol. For no other reason than I was grown. Now, I have a ****ty mom lol but be that as it may, that's a common sentiment among people. "grow up" but if you are a female you have all the time in the world.
Women have bigger social circles than guys do. Women don't have to approach men. Women aren't saving money to pay for wedding rings / wedding bands. I tore a female in our group a new one because she was *****ing about her BF taking too long to buy a ring I was liek ***** you buy a ring, pay for a wedding, buy a house,, pay day to day life **** and see how far you are ahead in life.
This pissed me off. This pissed me off for quite a while. It pissed me off that females if they were anything remotely decent looking could be the scum of the earth and have dudes lined up left and right. And they will say in response to that "yeah but none of these are dudes that you would want to marry" and my response to that is that is tell that guy who busts his ass and is going years without dates lol.
For quite a while, I went on dates, i ****ed women, but I really did not like women. At all actually. I just did it, because I could and that's what you are supposed to do. But I really did not like women all that much.
I kinda think that's where a lot of people on this forum are right now, with that mindset, so I get it.
There is only one thig you can do to move on and to get better, to get rid of the negative attitude.
Accept it.
There comes a day where you just have to accept that **** isn't right, fair, just, or whatever lol. Being me, in life there are some things I've just had to accept that are not fair. I despise people who grew up with 2 loving parents in a traditional nuclear family. You give me that type of support and who knows where I am in life, and I'm already kicking ass lol. I'd strangle the **** out of my dad if I saw him today. I hate the man. I hate the fact that my wife's parents trust every white guy she ever brought home but the second i walked through the door I had to prove myself because of the color of my skin. We're well past that point now but still. Only thing that they saw, and a ot of people ever see is a black dude. As a black guy, sometimes that does suck.
But you know what, I can't change any of that ****. My dad is who he is, I am who I am. And women are who they are. Society is what it is. It's not gonna change.
Realize what you bring to the table.
Another problem that I had in my transition is thinking that becuase women were not dating me that I was a horrible person. I wanted to date hot women so bad lol I tied all my worth into not being able to date hot women. I had to break myself from doing that. I had to realize I bring some **** to the table, ,even if women were too short sighted to see it. To be fair, not very many men saw it either lol. I'm pretty intelligent, I'm a natural born leader. People follow me. I'm a very hard worker. For the **** I give my dad, I look just like him and he's a very handsome man, I'm a good looking guy.
You have to constantly remind yourself that you are worth it. Don't let these people bring you down
Realize what you CAN change
My body wants to be around 185-190. I want it to be around 165-170. If I did not ever work out that's what I would be, 185-190. I have **** metabolism. I have horrible anxiety issues. Probably the drug use. But it's bad. So I take medication for it. I'm smart enough to know that I resented women and my parents so I sought professional help, and still do, to over come that and other issues in my life. These were all very changeable things
When I first met my wife, I thought she was cute / pretty hot but she was another plate. I had hot plates. I had plates hotter than her. After about a month, and she got to know me a little and i got to know her and i went into my super high tech plate spin mode where I was basically trolling her lol, calling, disappearing and we got into a mini argument and I called her a spoiled princess lol. most girls would have said "OMG no i'm not stop being mean" lol. She looked atme and said "look I don't know what to tell you i have good parents, I'm sorry you don't, you need to get over it. I can't help where I was born / how I was raised and neither can you" and she was right. That was one of the moments when I realized I might have something here.
turn your disadvantages into advantages
I went 3 years without touching a woman from 19 to 21. instead of pouting, I bettered myself. I read (real)" books. I played the piano. I learned how to cook. I learned how to eat. I learned how to take care of myself. I learned a of of **** in those 3 years. I learned how to be single.
As a guy, you're more than likely going to have droughts. Yes women can branch swing like a mofo. she's thinking about making a switch with her BF and if she does she has every bit of 5-10 options lol. it is what it is. I don't judge a guy by how much ***** he gets. But what kills me are guys who come out of 1-2 year droughts and are no better off then when they came in. They still making the same money, they still have the same boring ass hobbies, they ain't read anything, they haven't done anything to better themselves.
The trick is just learning how the playing field is and not being bitter over it. Once you can get past that the rest is easy.
