you make a good point smitty. but, most every time a thread gets lots of responses, that is the result. talk about being immature, these people stop the advice and opinions about the subject at hand and go after one another, STUPID!! if i vanish it'll only be for a while anyway, just until i'm no longer sick of people being d!cks and the cycle will begin again
Then you shouldn't stop, there is nothing wrong with being nice, but there is a problem with being oblivious to the things around you.
The problem is that the "AD" approach is based on nothing more than generalizations. Now can you really say that 4 billion people on this planet act and react in the exact same way?! You could find a woman that asks for you number that is quite interested in you, and what will you do, leave her.
No, no i wouldn't because you were obviously smothering her. It's like running around saying "I LOVE YOU" to everyone you meet, eventually the words loose their meaning, and in your case all the romantic things that you tried to do lost mean and lost appreciation. The key is knowing when to draw the line between romance and excess.
Being nice and being a push-over are two entirely different things, I've said that repeatedly. Your niceness didn't get old, your obsessing got old. Your lack of balls got old, and that's why she left.
Dating isn’t a fistfight; there are no broken bones, just broken egos. The eye for an eye technique never works, and it never will. By participating in vengeance all your really doing is sinking yourself to her level, and why would you want to do that. If someone is pulling sh1t then leave, don’t seek revenge because it truly is a double bladed sword.
I’m sorry but if you can’t see through women who play games, your either dead or in a coma. If you were to step back and analyze your relationship without the use of your smaller head you’d probably see it before you get used and abused. I have very little sympathy for guys who get led on by sex, if your main purpose in the dating scene is to have fun, rather than get laid then it’s very hard to get used. I don’t like players, and I never will.
YOU ARE MEN!! You decide who gets to go out with you, and if you choose gold diggers and tramps then you will get the treatment you deserve especially if all you want is sexual satisfaction.
That’s the most intelligent thing he said, and that is what it’s all about.
It also disconnects you emotionally from her, that is the evil of the system which also kills it in relationship situations.
Get the Hell outta here man!!!!!!!!!
Thank you
There is no such thing as emotional disipline, there never will be as long as we have such a thing as free thought. The whole point is to cope with emotions rather than trying to control them.
Getting hurt is part of the war we wage. Your given a choise, fight and maybe get hurt but you might win. OR. Take this kind of advice and flee and never win the battle.
That's just my point
Well, I tried to resist but here I am finally reading this... Sheesshh..Originally posted by Marauder:
Devlar, with all due respect, I believe you are one of those very few gentlemen who knows where to draw the line between being nice & giving too much...good for you....however, there are many poor guys out there who do not have your kind of discipline, or rather the self-control over their emotions....and that's where AD's approach comes handy....to ingrain in them some emotional discipline.....to teach them to treat deserving women the right way....not to be overly nice to the extent of smothering them...& to reserve their emotional connection to women who have shown nothing but good attitudes over time.....
True we would miss out something genuinely good if we are to adhere strictly to AD's approach....but hey nothing is perfect...In that respect, we have to figure out on our own what 'approach' works best for us and do our own fine tuning....
That's because I lived it and got to the point where my own image repulsed me, due to all the stuff I'd done.
Be it from a Jerk to "A Nice Guy" or from a Nice Guy to a "Jerk"....Ultimately, we, & that includes AD & you Devlar, want to treat our women in a "Nice Guy" way as well as to have the attitude of a "Jerk" to stand up to them if they give us any ****/crap...Can I have a show of hands here?
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
