You are my best friend?

[AriMamba]

Has a girl ever said that to you? What do you feel? what do you say to her when that happens? at this point have you become her girlfriend?

 

[SJ413]

Yes. Pissed. I didn't say a word. And yeah, you're now her emotional tampon while she screws someone else.

Welcome to the friend zone, best of luck my friend. Pretty well every man has been there at one point or another. Tons of info here, just use your head. You may be able to reverse the inevitable, but I doubt it. My best advice is to move on to someone else and try again, in terms of a girlfriend.

 

[SSBS]

The only thing that can get you out of the friendzone, in my experience, is to lay your cards down and be prepared to walk.

It worked for me. I was much younger, and had no idea what game was, and to be quite honest, I don't really game women at all. Sometimes I do just to prove that I still can, but it's pretty rare. For me it's always been social experimentation.

Trial and error I guess you could say.

I was friends with this one chick for a long, long time. We started spending a lot of time together, and finally I made a move on her and she ran away. We kept meeting and talking and talking and talking and then finally I just told her to beat it.

A few weeks later she shows up at my house. We go out, talk more, she laid more and more doubt on the situation advancing, and I just said "fine, forget about it" next thing you know I'm banging her.

Personally I don't think you need to do all of this pick up artist BS. It's all about attitude and how you react.

One thing I've noticed over the years is that the guys that hit and hit and hit usually end up going home alone. The guys that dance, and buy drinks, and flirt all night end up doing the knuckle shuffle in bed alone.

The guys that sit back and play it cool seem to do much better.

If any of you have seen the movie "Colors" there is a little story that Robert Duvall tells the young cop after he tries to chase down some crack dealer.

There are two bulls in a field. A young bull, and an older bull. The young bull says to the older one, "why don't we run down this hill and **** one of those cows" and the older one replies "Why don't we walk down, and **** them all."

Words to live by.

 

[JohnChops]

You will never be her boyfriend and she will never think of you in a sexual way. The friend zone should he avoided, once your in it its to much trouble to get out of

 

[SSBS]

That is bad advice.

Don't hang around hoping that things will get there eventually. That won't work. Just do what I said. It still might not work out the way you want, but the possibility at least exists that it will.

At the very least it will allow you to move on.

 

[SJ413]

That is bad advice.

Don't hang around hoping that things will get there eventually. That won't work. Just do what I said. It still might not work out the way you want, but the possibility at least exists that it will.

At the very least it will allow you to move on.

Pretty epic advice.

 

[ScottMustaine]

Not true. I was best friend with a girl for 3 years and in half of a year I managed to get out of FR and get in relationship with her. Too bad I didn't see the red flag. She was an epic cheating *****.

 

[dap]

Some responses:

• I already have a best friend, thanks anyway *smirk*
• I have enough friends, thanks anyway *smirk*
• Doesn't it take two to be best friends? *smirk*
• What's in it for me? *smirk*

By the way, this is a very bad sign if you were ever hoping to have a romantic relationship with this person

 

[Boilermaker]

^

All of your responses suck. They are insecure. Try instead:

-Yes, you would be a great best "friend".

-I know right, we're totally best friends. Zero emotions between us.

-I feel you and I would be great friends, we look for what we don't have..

etc...

main idea: agree and amplify.

 

[dap]

^ Maybe I am misunderstanding, but are these supposed to be sarcastic responses? Even then, I only understand #2.

EDIT: But I agree that my responses could come off as insecure.

 

[Cremasta]

It depends on the context.

Was it at the end of a half hour texting conversation?
Or was she sitting on the couch with her legs wrapped around you?

Only one of these stories has a happy ending.

 

[jaygreenb]

Bro, read this article. Worked for me, the guy writes good stuff too.

http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate...-her-from-friend-to-lover-in-5-steps-or-less/

 

[AriMamba]

Thats some good advice guys but the thing is i havent heard those words ina while but i want to be prepared for when it happens.