You are going to change today.

[jlazz]

AC/DC help me out:

I'm starting to go to more parties and meet more people. How do u you get over that inferiority feeling when you're around overly confident friends? I'm still kind of insecure and don't talk as much when I'm around some people...IDK how to get over it.

Also, lets say you meet a few chill guys at a party and some girls...I get their #...would it be weird to randomly call them up a week later to see whats goin on and if there are any parties and such going on? I went to a party friday night, but was extremely sober after pregaming and felt like ****. I didn't get any #'s, but I met some chill guys and some girls...I friended them on myspace. I'll get their SN's through there and chat it up.

There's this one girl I met a few weeks ago at a friend's house and she was showing some interest, but idk. I never got her # and didn't see her afterwards, but I found her on myspace and added her. I'll get her SN and chat it up. Any advice for this chick? Maybe ask her whens the next time she's going to be over that kid's house and such?

How come whenever I come after a party or somewhere I go, I feel like ****. Maybe its the alcohol or idk, but when I reflect on my night, I feel like it sucked. I'm outgoing, like I'll introduce myself to random people with energy and stuff and people remember my name, but after that I can't startup a convo. The subsiding of my buzz might've hindered my convo skills as well because I felt really bored and lazy.

I was the only guy that started dancing with the 5 girls that were grinding, but couldn't get my **** up so I felt lame. I stopped dancing and just chilled on the side.

Offer any advice you can.

 

[sjchris]

I had a couple questions for AC/DC about approaches.

-What's are some good things to say when u first meet a girl?

-How do you get the girl attracted in the first few minutes you've met her?

-How do you get rid of self-limiting beliefs about approaches, like "She probably doesn't wanna be bothered", "Shes gonna know im hitting on her", etc etc.

 

[taiwanesedude227]

bump, is the offer for help still good?

 

[AC/DC]

I'm working 4pm-midnight 3 days in a row... I'm off at midnight PST so I'll respond to these then... sit tight for a few hours, I'll be right there.

 

[Oni]

Problems:
1) Can't play my cards right with girls, a lot of awkward silent moments (horrible at conversations and being C/F)
2) I act naturally but can't get girls to be interested
3) Have too many same classes with the girl i'm trying to get, showed mixed signals, shy or not interested.
4) another guy trying to get the same girl im trying to get, except he gets to spend a lot more time with her and they are better friends with each other. the same guy hangs out with me in my group.
5) Lack of gut

Solutions:
1) be a better observer, practice, practice, practice
2) improve myself, i'm more of the silent type. i can be a good leader, but a lot of times i just sit around and listen. only act if i wanted to
3) nothing much can be done here
4) the guys an obvious loser, lame guy but a good friend of her, he talks to her a lot on AIM, nearly everyday. just gotta pull myself together and act right.
5) grow some balls

 

[taiwanesedude227]

Also, one last problem. Sometimes I take the c&f a little too far and I don't really know how much c&f is too much.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by taiwanesedude227
1) I don't really have a lot of cool friends at my school because I'm in mostly "smart" classes with lots of nerdy kids, so I don't really have any social proof for getting a girl. Not a lot of girls would want to go out with someone who isn't in the "cool" crowd.

2) It's hard for me to make friends in my classes because it seems like everyone already knows each other and is already in a group.

3) I have almost no hot girls in my classes.

4) Flirting/C&F/Kino feels really awkward for me. I do get in some kino and c&f comments but i don't have that much confidence and I always feel nervous when I do it. I think girls pick up on this.

The answer to the first two is you need to infiltrate the group person by person, not as a mass. You don't need to be in a group.

3) doesnt matter.
4) you answered your question. Confidence is what you are lacking. Start working out, starting taking pride in yourself. Smile more. Radiate your presence.