#41
Senior Don Juan
I'm very aware of this.edger said:
Doesn't change the fact that being broke will, in most cases, negatively impact an individual's self-worth and self-esteem and negatively impact his dealings with women.
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Doesn't change the fact that being broke will, in most cases, negatively impact an individual's self-worth and self-esteem and negatively impact his dealings with women.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Heh,..a subject near and dear to me. The most ass I ever turned out was when I was at my poorest. In the late 80s and early 90s I was going to a community college and playing in the Hollywood metal scene in bands that went nowhere. I was broke, a lot. I played out in clubs with many bands and not because it paid well (or at all), but because I got laid regularly. I had so many women buying me drinks back then it was criminal. Now granted, not every guy is going to pull this off, but there are tons of things you can do to maximize your capacity for attraction that don't require a big paycheck.
The first is to stay in shape. Even at my poorest I still had a gym membership. This is one of the few things in your life that's under your direct control - your body. The girl that's looking for a wealthy long term provider still wants a guy that looks hot. A good looking guy that puts a puddle in her panties, who's got ambition, aspiration and potential is going to beat out the pudgy, self-satisfied AFC with a bigger paycheck.
When I met (and later married) Mrs. Tomassi I didn't have a dime to my name. She's been a medical professional since she was 24 and had (and was dating at the time we met) dated doctors, radiologists, etc., guys who easily made $300K+/year. She wanted to ƒuck, and later marry, me. Why? Because they were chumps for the better part, but because I had looks, ambition, God-given talent, and potential that she could appreciate.
Women would rather have excitement with the promise of potential than the boredom of complacent, uninspired security. A lot of guys here are telling you to focus on your own successes and push for your ambitions, and I wont disagree with that. You need to actualize your potential for sure, but don't think that doing so will account for real desire from a woman. There are plenty of beautiful women with rich pudgy men, who are no better than paid concubines with no real desire for him. It's far better to embody that dynamism and excitement that will spark that real desire from her - and you can do that in spite of your paycheck.
The first is to stay in shape. Even at my poorest I still had a gym membership. This is one of the few things in your life that's under your direct control - your body. The girl that's looking for a wealthy long term provider still wants a guy that looks hot. A good looking guy that puts a puddle in her panties, who's got ambition, aspiration and potential is going to beat out the pudgy, self-satisfied AFC with a bigger paycheck.
When I met (and later married) Mrs. Tomassi I didn't have a dime to my name. She's been a medical professional since she was 24 and had (and was dating at the time we met) dated doctors, radiologists, etc., guys who easily made $300K+/year. She wanted to ƒuck, and later marry, me. Why? Because they were chumps for the better part, but because I had looks, ambition, God-given talent, and potential that she could appreciate.
Women would rather have excitement with the promise of potential than the boredom of complacent, uninspired security. A lot of guys here are telling you to focus on your own successes and push for your ambitions, and I wont disagree with that. You need to actualize your potential for sure, but don't think that doing so will account for real desire from a woman. There are plenty of beautiful women with rich pudgy men, who are no better than paid concubines with no real desire for him. It's far better to embody that dynamism and excitement that will spark that real desire from her - and you can do that in spite of your paycheck.
I've been saying this for awhile now, but women are more attracted to the qualities a man might possess, than the actual man himself.
If you're broke and you carry yourself as if you have potential (can you say C-O-N-F-I-D-E-N-C-E?) you got it made.
A big house and fancy car might help to seal the deal, but REAL attraction is based upon traits that successful people possess. The ability to lead, confidence, strong social skills, etc.) When a woman becomes attracted to you it generally ISN'T based upon what they physically see (although looks definitely play a role), it's based upon what they FEEL, and what they feel is based upon the qualities you project.
The great thing is that you don't have to have a bunch of money to carry yourself in a way that will attract women.
If you're broke and you carry yourself as if you have potential (can you say C-O-N-F-I-D-E-N-C-E?) you got it made.
A big house and fancy car might help to seal the deal, but REAL attraction is based upon traits that successful people possess. The ability to lead, confidence, strong social skills, etc.) When a woman becomes attracted to you it generally ISN'T based upon what they physically see (although looks definitely play a role), it's based upon what they FEEL, and what they feel is based upon the qualities you project.
The great thing is that you don't have to have a bunch of money to carry yourself in a way that will attract women.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
I'm 33 years old and homeless!
...with two, soon to be three jobs.
But, I have one plate that is begging me to stay with her. Yet, I'm staying with another, rent free. The plate I'm staying with frequently tells me: "I don't want to feel obligated because I'm letting you stay here, you're free to go at anytime."
Furthermore, the chick I am staying with KNOWS about the other chick, and has encouraged me to stay with her if I want.
When I've explained my situation to these women, it has been said to me, that, exactly what these guys are saying is true. I have been told flat-out that since I display ambition, confidence, goals, etc., these women are attracted to those qualities and have no doubt in their mind that I'm "FAR better than a lot of the losers" they've been with. What's more, they've even went so far as to point out that my humility is also attractive: is shows I'm not faking confidence.
When several women tell you that certain qualities are more attractive than a situation, I wouldn't doubt THEIR word. I mean, guys can say "this and that is attractive to women", but when women reinforce that same thing?
In my case, when I tell a woman "I'm homeless", their initial reaction is "OMG, you're crazy!" and are repulsed. But, after I explain WHY I'm homeless they very quickly do a 180º. During the explanation, I speak with conviction and confidence: I'm doing this to achieve a goal.
Now, I do "have money", but, I squirrel it away into the bank such that I am broke. Yet, these plates pay for dates, buy me gifts, and otherwise shower me with affection.
So, what's the difference between your situation and mine? Nothing, really, except for the mindset. I don't give two sh¡ts what a woman thinks if she doesn't understand that I'm doing this for me and my future. And, if and when a woman wants look at my situation as a disqualification, then she wasn't a woman I'd want to be with anyway.
And, that's how you should play it: if my situation is a critical factor, then you are the one disqualified.
There is a thing I call "rocking it". It is where you take something ridiculous and pull it off. For example, the Pinto I had in high school. That car was awesome! I waxed it, put 2 12" Cerwin Vegas in the trunk, and I was downright anal about the maintenance. I drove that ƒucker around with pride. Of course, I would draw criticism, but I would simply respond: "I love my car. The next time you ask me for a ride, you'll suddenly wish you had one too." You have to "rock" whatever situation you are in.
Friends come and go, jobs come and go, money, women, homes... they all come and go. The only thing you have in life to depend on is yourself. If you are unhappy with yourself, you will be unhappy with life.
Once you are comfortable and happy with yourself, then everything else falls into place. You aren't REALLY unhappy with your financial situation, you're unhappy with the perceptions of others. Are you going to be broke forever? No? Then, what are you worried about? You can still be proud of yourself because you know that you are making positive changes.
Hell, tell women straight-up: I'm broke at the moment, let's do something cheap. When they fuss, point out how ridiculous it is: I don't even know you, and, I'd regret spending ANY money on someone who I felt didn't deserve it.
Then shut up and look them in the eye.
I've done it with several hundred dollars in my wallet.
Good luck, bro.
...with two, soon to be three jobs.
But, I have one plate that is begging me to stay with her. Yet, I'm staying with another, rent free. The plate I'm staying with frequently tells me: "I don't want to feel obligated because I'm letting you stay here, you're free to go at anytime."
Furthermore, the chick I am staying with KNOWS about the other chick, and has encouraged me to stay with her if I want.
When I've explained my situation to these women, it has been said to me, that, exactly what these guys are saying is true. I have been told flat-out that since I display ambition, confidence, goals, etc., these women are attracted to those qualities and have no doubt in their mind that I'm "FAR better than a lot of the losers" they've been with. What's more, they've even went so far as to point out that my humility is also attractive: is shows I'm not faking confidence.
When several women tell you that certain qualities are more attractive than a situation, I wouldn't doubt THEIR word. I mean, guys can say "this and that is attractive to women", but when women reinforce that same thing?
In my case, when I tell a woman "I'm homeless", their initial reaction is "OMG, you're crazy!" and are repulsed. But, after I explain WHY I'm homeless they very quickly do a 180º. During the explanation, I speak with conviction and confidence: I'm doing this to achieve a goal.
Now, I do "have money", but, I squirrel it away into the bank such that I am broke. Yet, these plates pay for dates, buy me gifts, and otherwise shower me with affection.
So, what's the difference between your situation and mine? Nothing, really, except for the mindset. I don't give two sh¡ts what a woman thinks if she doesn't understand that I'm doing this for me and my future. And, if and when a woman wants look at my situation as a disqualification, then she wasn't a woman I'd want to be with anyway.
And, that's how you should play it: if my situation is a critical factor, then you are the one disqualified.
There is a thing I call "rocking it". It is where you take something ridiculous and pull it off. For example, the Pinto I had in high school. That car was awesome! I waxed it, put 2 12" Cerwin Vegas in the trunk, and I was downright anal about the maintenance. I drove that ƒucker around with pride. Of course, I would draw criticism, but I would simply respond: "I love my car. The next time you ask me for a ride, you'll suddenly wish you had one too." You have to "rock" whatever situation you are in.
Friends come and go, jobs come and go, money, women, homes... they all come and go. The only thing you have in life to depend on is yourself. If you are unhappy with yourself, you will be unhappy with life.
Once you are comfortable and happy with yourself, then everything else falls into place. You aren't REALLY unhappy with your financial situation, you're unhappy with the perceptions of others. Are you going to be broke forever? No? Then, what are you worried about? You can still be proud of yourself because you know that you are making positive changes.
Hell, tell women straight-up: I'm broke at the moment, let's do something cheap. When they fuss, point out how ridiculous it is: I don't even know you, and, I'd regret spending ANY money on someone who I felt didn't deserve it.
Then shut up and look them in the eye.
I've done it with several hundred dollars in my wallet.
Good luck, bro.
broken dreams
Senior Don Juan
I feel like Ive made alot of mistakes not looking at the big picture. you guys inspire me. ALOT.
You guys are awesome! I feel lucky to have cool dudes support me and show me what is really keeping me from moving forward.
Its cool how you guys all put it cause I live in the ghetto and if you guys pull of **** like that hell I just have to be creative and work my way up to feeling good about myself.
pvssy and broke, wow I never thought you guys pull that one.
I would feel awesome just having girls telling me to stay over and sh*t.
be soo cool but I got to start from the begiining.
Rollo good point bro!
In the good times and bad times,
you get to see who the real friends are.
thanks!
sandro
You guys are awesome! I feel lucky to have cool dudes support me and show me what is really keeping me from moving forward.
Its cool how you guys all put it cause I live in the ghetto and if you guys pull of **** like that hell I just have to be creative and work my way up to feeling good about myself.
pvssy and broke, wow I never thought you guys pull that one.
I would feel awesome just having girls telling me to stay over and sh*t.
be soo cool but I got to start from the begiining.
Rollo good point bro!
In the good times and bad times,
you get to see who the real friends are.
thanks!
sandro
Vulpine said:...with two, soon to be three jobs.
But, I have one plate that is begging me to stay with her. Yet, I'm staying with another, rent free. The plate I'm staying with frequently tells me: "I don't want to feel obligated because I'm letting you stay here, you're free to go at anytime."
Furthermore, the chick I am staying with KNOWS about the other chick, and has encouraged me to stay with her if I want.
When I've explained my situation to these women, it has been said to me, that, exactly what these guys are saying is true. I have been told flat-out that since I display ambition, confidence, goals, etc., these women are attracted to those qualities and have no doubt in their mind that I'm "FAR better than a lot of the losers" they've been with. What's more, they've even went so far as to point out that my humility is also attractive: is shows I'm not faking confidence.
When several women tell you that certain qualities are more attractive than a situation, I wouldn't doubt THEIR word. I mean, guys can say "this and that is attractive to women", but when women reinforce that same thing?
In my case, when I tell a woman "I'm homeless", their initial reaction is "OMG, you're crazy!" and are repulsed. But, after I explain WHY I'm homeless they very quickly do a 180º. During the explanation, I speak with conviction and confidence: I'm doing this to achieve a goal.
Now, I do "have money", but, I squirrel it away into the bank such that I am broke. Yet, these plates pay for dates, buy me gifts, and otherwise shower me with affection.
So, what's the difference between your situation and mine? Nothing, really, except for the mindset. I don't give two sh¡ts what a woman thinks if she doesn't understand that I'm doing this for me and my future. And, if and when a woman wants look at my situation as a disqualification, then she wasn't a woman I'd want to be with anyway.
And, that's how you should play it: if my situation is a critical factor, then you are the one disqualified.
There is a thing I call "rocking it". It is where you take something ridiculous and pull it off. For example, the Pinto I had in high school. That car was awesome! I waxed it, put 2 12" Cerwin Vegas in the trunk, and I was downright anal about the maintenance. I drove that ƒucker around with pride. Of course, I would draw criticism, but I would simply respond: "I love my car. The next time you ask me for a ride, you'll suddenly wish you had one too." You have to "rock" whatever situation you are in.
Friends come and go, jobs come and go, money, women, homes... they all come and go. The only thing you have in life to depend on is yourself. If you are unhappy with yourself, you will be unhappy with life.
Once you are comfortable and happy with yourself, then everything else falls into place. You aren't REALLY unhappy with your financial situation, you're unhappy with the perceptions of others. Are you going to be broke forever? No? Then, what are you worried about? You can still be proud of yourself because you know that you are making positive changes.
Hell, tell women straight-up: I'm broke at the moment, let's do something cheap. When they fuss, point out how ridiculous it is: I don't even know you, and, I'd regret spending ANY money on someone who I felt didn't deserve it.
Then shut up and look them in the eye.
I've done it with several hundred dollars in my wallet.
Good luck, bro.
great post man.