Yo new here, need to ask yall somethin

[dadmonson]

YO wattup, dis is my first post here. Yo I'm Black and a 15 year old boy. I am a Shy dud, that can't talk to gurls at all(ugly or pretty). I had pretty bad acne when I was 13, 14 yrs old tho but I've been takin medications and creams for it and its a lot better but not tottaly clear like i want it to be(Dermatologist said I'll probably need to use the medication for another two years). Acne makes u very self conscience

But before I start readin the DJ BIBLe and askin for advice. I got to ask yall somethin. Wat were you like when u first came to this board, and how r u today? Basically tell me how your attitude, your relationship with women, and how many date's and how much sex you've had before u came here and tell me how things have changed for u now( hope u get what I'm tryna say). If u don't reply I will know that this site is filled with a bunch of computer dorks just like myself(tryna change tho)and I won't be wastin my time here anymore.

P.S. If u had acne durin your teenage years can u tell me how long u had it and what age did it go away(thanx).

 

[Vincent]

Me before:

Shy, meek, Oneitis ridden AFC. Everything that was an AFC I was.

Now:

Cool, very confident, popular, got a girl, I am everything I wanna be.

Enjoy your stay.

 

[Fenderules]

A total mess

Before:
yeah when i first came to this site i was around your age, maby a little older like 16. I was in a terrible state, as AFC as they came. I had complete oneitis for a girl even though she told me she was not interested. she would say things like "your too good for me" and I actually believed her so i kept pursuing her. then i found out she liked another guy and told the guy that to find out if she would date him (to see if i had competition) and he said no. Being compltely afc i though i could then make her like me even though i tried to talk to her all the time, gave her an x-mas gift. Hell i even took the long but route home just to walk with her. I was a total looser and chump. I even creep myself out when i look back at how pathetic i was. Anyway i felt bad that i told the guy that he liked her and i told her htis. So she blew up and used that as an excuse to have nothing to do with me. Right b4 this happened she even devised a plan to push me away. She made up a fake boyfirend who was 19 and wanted to beat the **** outta me. It was gay and i believed that he existed. Ppl told me he was fake but i didnt blieve until one day im justl ike "**** it" and found out everything from several ppl. Even her friend told me. I was gonna ***** at her but i was so afc i didnt even have the courage to do that. I hated myself and realized i was a big looser. it was terrible

I came to this site and realizsed i was a "nice guy" and so i became more aware. But instead of using my knew found knowledge to help me, i failed even more since i was afraid to get close to other girls since they would find out i was a "nice guy". So i never got too close and i was terrified the same situation would happen again. Finally i just said **** it and i started going for chicks, of course i had the fear of approaching but i did it anyway (and looked like a complete goof). I still did it and finally i started looking at my friend and watching how he got all the chicks. I realized he was confident...and ver very forward. So was teh same and i didnt asked girlz out...i said they WERE going to hang out with me and they WERE going to give me theire never. Cant say i ever got turned down with this type of approach.

Now this has been a couple years since i was on the site and now im back again. why you say???

cause even though i could get numbers i could not follow through. Like a total AFC i felt i had to ask her at the "perfect" time when there was a party or wutever. I was also paranoid and thought wut my freinds thought of the chick so would flake out. One girl stayed a little interested but i watied to long when i finally said "**** it" it there dosnt have to be a perfect time, she flaked out on me and got a bf. it was pretty tarded. I tried differnt tactics like being a jerk but it was a TOTAL jerk. never worked. so now im back here... a lot more confident, not an afc anymore but not a don juan... i just dont give a ****



so yeah now im on my to being a Don Juan, my only problems is the "phone calling" i hate it and think its gay cause its such an impersonal way to talk. when im in person i can think of more stuff to do but on the phone i find i cant be as smooth. I know other guys despise it 2. I just wanna see them in person so i can react better.

 

[skinnydart]

Acne makes u very self conscience

Yeah, it's weird, even though it's not that big of deal, for some reason I'm a totally different person when I have a big zit on my cheek vs. not.

You'll find that there is little concenus on the particulars of dating and attraction on this site, but one thing you'll learn is to forget about your fears, and become overall more confortable walking up to that hb and asking her for the digits.

Good luck!

 

[RiceHapa888]

me before: AFC shy, did have girls like me, could not convert but did score a lot with a few girls who I had as gf's throughout HS.

me up till I had my club night: RAFC optimistic, happy, somewhat shy, confidence up

me after the club night: happy, confident, somewhat outgoing, working damn hard to get better though and be a true DJ

 

[gab01]

i've been reading the bible and the other posts for a year now and its funny coz i registered only now.

i was a big time afc and then i met this guy in my HS senior year. i was clueless to what he was doing with the chicks because he came off as rude (c&f) but regardless, they still came on to him. i learned alot from the guy and then i stumbled upon this site. after that, things became MUCH MUCH clearer. i remember one time when he told me this.. "i can make a girl love me and hate me for the same reason" it never made any sense to me before, but it makes perfect sense now.

i'm a rafc, still tweaking the c&f attitude because i come off as ****y most of the time but i dropped the pedestal mentality and such.

lookin' forward to sharing my views and experiences and making friends with you guys

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Originally posted by dadmonson
YO wattup, dis is my first post here. Yo I'm Black and a 15 year old boy. I am a Shy dud, that can't talk to gurls at all(ugly or pretty). I had pretty bad acne when I was 13, 14 yrs old tho but I've been takin medications and creams for it and its a lot better but not tottaly clear like i want it to be(Dermatologist said I'll probably need to use the medication for another two years). Acne makes u very self conscience

But before I start readin the DJ BIBLe and askin for advice. I got to ask yall somethin. Wat were you like when u first came to this board, and how r u today? Basically tell me how your attitude, your relationship with women, and how many date's and how much sex you've had before u came here and tell me how things have changed for u now( hope u get what I'm tryna say). If u don't reply I will know that this site is filled with a bunch of computer dorks just like myself(tryna change tho)and I won't be wastin my time here anymore.

P.S. If u had acne durin your teenage years can u tell me how long u had it and what age did it go away(thanx).

Just some friendly advice, but since you are willing to change some things about yourself and become better, I suggest you change your writing to a bit more mature. Take some pride in the words you leave here, they can be read from all over the world and for many years to come.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by dadmonson
YO wattup, dis is my first post here. Yo I'm Black and a 15 year old boy. I am a Shy dud, that can't talk to gurls at all(ugly or pretty). I had pretty bad acne when I was 13, 14 yrs old tho but I've been takin medications and creams for it and its a lot better but not tottaly clear like i want it to be(Dermatologist said I'll probably need to use the medication for another two years). Acne makes u very self conscience

But before I start readin the DJ BIBLe and askin for advice. I got to ask yall somethin. Wat were you like when u first came to this board, and how r u today? Basically tell me how your attitude, your relationship with women, and how many date's and how much sex you've had before u came here and tell me how things have changed for u now( hope u get what I'm tryna say). If u don't reply I will know that this site is filled with a bunch of computer dorks just like myself(tryna change tho)and I won't be wastin my time here anymore.

P.S. If u had acne durin your teenage years can u tell me how long u had it and what age did it go away(thanx).

"This". With a "th".

That being said, my brother's in high school and he had BAD-ASS acne. When it gets REALLY bad, it's usually bacterial, which means there are antibiotics you can get from a dermatologist...pills and possibly creams...to treat it. Check with your doctor next time you see him and get a referral to a dermatologist if it's that bad.

And you'll find the whole range on this website...from the "computer dorks" just starting out to people who have been around the block many times with many women and know how the stuff works. Me...I'm somewhere undefined in the middle.

 

[Desdinova]

I came here after my fiance left me, and I was confused as hell and wanted answers. I learned and practiced much of the stuff on this website. I became very successful with women to the point where I could pick which ones I wanted to date. I'm now married to an excellent woman, and our relationship is fantastic.

 

[skinnydart]

Desdinova, just out of curiousity, why do people like you stay on the board, I've always assumed (and probably would myself) that people would leave after they got the success rate they were looking for.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by skinnydart
Desdinova, just out of curiousity, why do people like you stay on the board, I've always assumed (and probably would myself) that people would leave after they got the success rate they were looking for.

Think of a really good DJ as an old martial arts teacher. They kick ass because they are always honing their skills by teaching others. Think about how thoroughly one can understand a skill if he spends time teaching it to others.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

nah we are just computer dorks dont waste your time

hey i agree acne makes you self consious, but thats only because you let it, its only mentaly that it can bring you down. I got a fair bit of acne, more then most people yes its been worse this it is now, but i have recently had a girl say that im over confident. so does anything brgin me down, no not at all.

from begin here i got a lot of confidence and i know not to be a typical nice guy, i also know i am the prize, seriously guys i actuly keep asking myself are these girls good enough for me.

thats all i have gained the rest i already had but my lack of confidence concealed it, and this sounds like i have not gained much yet the results are amazing.

actuly i have 1 problem, i always seem to think loads of girls like me, yeha thats suposed to be a godd thing to be abale to do but now im not sure weather they really like me or its all in my head!

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Re: Re: Yo new here, need to ask yall somethin

Originally posted by squirrels
And you'll find the whole range on this website...from the "computer dorks" just starting out to people who have been around the block many times with many women and know how the stuff works. Me...I'm somewhere undefined in the middle.

squirels iv always thought you where more then just talk, and still do, nice to see some 1 has a pair of nuts (pun intended)

 

[Desdinova]

Think of a really good DJ as an old martial arts teacher. They kick ass because they are always honing their skills by teaching others. Think about how thoroughly one can understand a skill if he spends time teaching it to others.

Francisco hit the nail on the head. It also feels great passing what I've learned and experienced onto others. I've developed a liking to helping others, however this is much different than giving someone $20 to help them out. This kind of help doesn't cost me anything but time, and it's always great seeing people progress.

I know what it's like to be 5hitty with women, and if it weren't for the people on this site, I would still be 5hitty with women. I'm simply passing along what I've been taught, and giving the experiences to back it all up.