Yet Again, it's Happened. Girl in Social Circle Broke Up with Boyfriend. Best Strats?

[nicksaiz65]

Well, here we are yet again. It's happened yet again lol. An attractive girl in my social circle had a boyfriend. Because we know that most relationships are ephemeral, they ended up breaking up. It's a tale as old as time. And every time it happened in my life, I ended up fvcking it up lol.

I had a thread kind of like this before, but in that one we mostly talked about mindset. In this one, let's talk about strategy/actions!

When a girl in your social circle breaks up with her boyfriend, what is the best strategy to use/actions to take to progress things to laying her, when you've just been friends with her before? (Due to being in the same social circle.) What do I do, basically? What's the best way to play it after this happens? This is a really common situation so I want to make sure I have the game to handle it when it comes up in the future.

Sometimes I get Choosing Signals in these situations, sometimes I don't. (I'm not a huge fan of waiting for Choosing Signals in general though. There have been too many times where I find out in retrospect that a hot girl in my social circle had a huge crush on me. I didn't even get, or recognize any choosing signals until I found out I had already missed a potential lay.)

But yeah, I'd like to know how you all handle this important scenario. What are the best actions for me to take in this situation?

 

[SW15]

I saw you used the word friend. How deep is the friendship with her? I hope you were using the word 'friend' casually. If you're mere acquaintances, this is better and you can more easily move from being an acquaintance to being a sex partner.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

She already has monkey branched to her next target. If it was you, you would’ve made a topic gf with bf wants to have sec with me instead of this one.

 

[RangerMIke]

When a girl in your social circle breaks up with her boyfriend, what is the best strategy to use/actions to take to progress things to laying her,

First... you are getting ahead of yourself. You have jumped to the end of the book.... seeing the ending, then trying to figure out what happened at the end of the story. You have to WRITE that story.

(1) Ask her out.
(2) If she shows up then see if she right for you.
(3) Repeat steps 1 and 2 and learn if she is interested in you.
(4) At anytime she decides she doesn't like you and starts to back off, you move onto the next one.
(5) Otherwise keep progressing to sex. How long you are willing to wait for this is up to you.... if things aren't progressing to your satisfaction, then you just stop asking her out.

If she is down after date one... great. You got what you want if all you want to do is bang her and move on. There is a reason she is single... you should be trying to figure out WHY she is available. You think that because the situation is different, your process has to be different... it isn't. The woman HAS TO WANT YOU or nothing happens.

Understand this... she already knows you want her... women can sniff this out like a hound dog... I don't care how cool you think you are being. If she is interested she will make things easy... if she doesn't then she either isn't interested or there is something wrong with her. You need to have high standards.

 

[nicksaiz65]

I saw you used the word friend. How deep is the friendship with her? I hope you were using the word 'friend' casually. If you're mere acquaintances, this is better and you can more easily move from being an acquaintance to being a sex partner.

It’s decent, not like a talk every day kind of friend. Just in the same social circle lol.

This is more of a general question, so the level of friendship varies. This is just a common situation I seem to find myself in.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Escalate. Let your intentions known. Chances are shes already banging someone or has a few orbiters already.
Just got to flirt and see.
But she may wonder why you did not make the move before

So you just ask her out on a date and make a move on her like you would with any girl from Cold Approach, yeah?

 

[nicksaiz65]

She already has monkey branched to her next target. If it was you, you would’ve made a topic gf with bf wants to have sec with me instead of this one.

Idk bro… I was thinking back and it turns out this one girl in my social circle found me really attractive but I didn’t recognize it.

I’m reflecting on the game so that situations like this won’t happen.

 

[nicksaiz65]

First... you are getting ahead of yourself. You have jumped to the end of the book.... seeing the ending, then trying to figure out what happened at the end of the story. You have to WRITE that story.

(1) Ask her out.
(2) If she shows up then see if she right for you.
(3) Repeat steps 1 and 2 and learn if she is interested in you.
(4) At anytime she decides she doesn't like you and starts to back off, you move onto the next one.
(5) Otherwise keep progressing to sex. How long you are willing to wait for this is up to you.... if things aren't progressing to your satisfaction, then you just stop asking her out.

If she is down after date one... great. You got what you want if all you want to do is bang her and move on. There is a reason she is single... you should be trying to figure out WHY she is available. You think that because the situation is different, your process has to be different... it isn't. The woman HAS TO WANT YOU or nothing happens.

Understand this... she already knows you want her... women can sniff this out like a hound dog... I don't care how cool you think you are being. If she is interested she will make things easy... if she doesn't then she either isn't interested or there is something wrong with her. You need to have high standards.

Good write up. So basically to write the story, you ask her out the same way you would any girl that you Cold Approached.

Then you escalate on the date the same way you would from there. And aim for the close of course.

I’m just not sure if I’m the biggest fan of waiting for Choosing Signals for situations like this anymore. I can’t tell you how many times it turns out, in hindsight, a girl had a huge crush on me, yet I was too oblivious to notice lol.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Idk bro… I was thinking back and it turns out this one girl in my social circle found me really attractive but I didn’t recognize it.

I’m reflecting on the game so that situations like this won’t happen.

It was probably just typical girl bs. Trust me, if a girl wants you, she'll set the stage for you to make a move.

 

[SW15]

It’s decent, not like a talk every day kind of friend. Just in the same social circle lol.

This is more of a general question, so the level of friendship varies. This is just a common situation I seem to find myself in.

You just need to ask her out as soon as you're able to do that and see where it goes.

Nancy Wilson dated the guitar player then ended up bangin the drummer.

Did she go crazy on him?

 

[nicksaiz65]

Context. Hard to say here. Did she ever give you "the looks" in the group? Flirted?
Nancy Wilson dated the guitar player then ended up bangin the drummer. Lol go figure. They like to ****

Yeah, this particular one showed some IOIs. Im trying to keep this thread really general though. Cause this situation is extremely common

 

[nicksaiz65]

You just need to ask her out as soon as you're able to do that and see where it goes.



Did she go crazy on him?

Awesome. So you just ask her out as normal(invite her to get a drink or coffee like the C in GALNUC, which already shows intent as you were saying) and then you take her on the date and escalate from there. Implementing what @RangerMIke was saying, basically.

Great song lol

 

[SW15]

Awesome. So you just ask her out as normal(invite her to get a drink or coffee like the C in GALNUC, which already shows intent as you were saying) and then you take her on the date and escalate from there. Implementing what @RangerMIke was saying, basically.

Great song lol

That's exactly how it would be done.

 

[RangerMIke]

I’m just not sure if I’m the biggest fan of waiting for Choosing Signals for situations like this anymore. I can’t tell you how many times it turns out, in hindsight, a girl had a huge crush on me, yet I was too oblivious to notice lol.

You don't wait for choosing signals. If men waiting until women made things obvious we would have died out as a species thousands of years ago. Make a run at her and if she okay with your advances it will be obvious...

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The Sunburst is a good Strat.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It was probably just typical girl bs. Trust me, if a girl wants you, she'll set the stage for you to make a move.

Some will. It's dangerous to make blanket statements like this that probably apply to no more than 60% of women.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Some will. It's dangerous to make blanket statements like this that probably apply to no more than 60% of women.

This whole forum is blanket statements lol

 

[RangerMIke]

You really don't need 'formulas' or 'strategies'. I'm not saying these do not work and it might help you develop good habits. It's better to understand WHY things like this work and not worry so much about the process. The reason these are so popular is because many men lock on to a chick like a heat seeking missile and try to figure out how to hit that target. Dating is not hunting... it's fishing... having the right kit and bait... then being patient is what brings results. But you have to abandon the idea that you can get any woman you want. You don't even see the fish until you pull it out of the water.

(1) Be the best version of yourself you can be.
(2) Try to make dates with any woman you find attractive.
(3) If she shows up... she likes you... and you have something you can work with.
(4) Don't fvck up and you will get what you want.

Regrettably most dudes think like this:

(1) I see a girl that I want.
(2) Try to figure out want she wants
(3) Try to give her what she wants by twisting themselves into a knot or use some formula that makes them look like something they are not.
(4) They become obsessed and frustrated, or they end up with a GF that runs the show.

The principle reason why most men to not behave in the first example is because men in Western societies today have been raised in a society that does not place value on people who have emotional self-control... so this characteristic isn't something that men develop. Another thing is that there is too much BS on social media and the internet with videos that are teaching men how to act like women.

Here is a truism that all men need to embrace: A WOMAN IS NEVER COMPLETELY HAPPY UNLESS SHE IS WITH A MAN SHE WANTS. Trying to do stuff to 'make her happy' NEVER NEVER NEVER works long term.