Yes.. They Always Come Back!!!

[soulforge]

hello guys...

some of you guys will remember my posts on here... i recieved some excellent advice from expos.. jarial.. atom smasher & some other great guys on here



ok so i was seeing this cougar (older than me) for about 2 years.. I fell in love with her... she turned out to be a manipulative, passive aggressive nasty cruel piece of work

i'm not sure if she was BDP as some people diagnose every crazy chick as BDP on here

she was defo passive aggressive, controlling & manipulative...

it was constant push/pull... anyway me and her broke up at least 5-6 times in the past!!

anyhow 1 week before xmas, she dumped me over some silly argument that was her own fault...

she used this argument as an excuse to dump me... i am certain she dumped me for another guy!

i have no proof of this, but my gut tells me she branch swung to another guy.

i stayed complete no contact for 3 months


anyhow last week her profile popped up on POF... looks like she is single again... and my guess is the guy she was seeing probably dumped her

also this morning i checked my post... and HOLY FU@K a letter from her.. i have not opened this letter, as i need to rid this toxic woman out of my life

we broke up 3 months ago... my guess is, she is reaching out to me, because she got dumped... by some other dude

she has no other way to contact me.. i changed my mobile & i do not check my email, so have not read anything she has mailed me

my intentions are to keep on ignoring her...

just wanted some of you guys to know... NO CONTACT is the way forward


i will not be contacting her back.... always get rid of toxic woman from you lives

 

[:-)]

ok. although you sound kind of pleased that she came back.

 

[trent_afc]

Stay strong brother!

Same situation here. NC for 9 days now. Fell in love with a BPD cougar. 18 months now. Half a dozen breakups. Sex was too good to ignore and I kept going back. I'm plagued by my co dependency and my scarcity mindset. But reading these forums helps keep me mentally strong and moving forward. If you have any advice on breaking the cycle, please share! Thanks

 

[soulforge]

ok. although you sound kind of pleased that she came back.

well i do feel some satisfaction.... but i don't give a fu@k about her anymore... this chick turned my world upside down!


she is hot attractive... and thats what kept me with her... never give up your self respect for p@ssy

is she treats you like a c@nt... is disrespectful, simply get rid!


the biggest regret i felt, after breaking up with her... was not losing a hot chick... but losing my self respect... allowing myself self to be treated in this way for that long

that was my biggest regret... never again!

 

[soulforge]

Stay strong brother!

Same situation here. NC for 9 days now. Fell in love with a BPD cougar. 18 months now. Half a dozen breakups. Sex was too good to ignore and I kept going back. I'm plagued by my co dependency and my scarcity mindset. But reading these forums helps keep me mentally strong and moving forward. If you have any advice on breaking the cycle, please share! Thanks

my advice is... in time it will get better... but you must 100% stay in no contact for your own sanity

i was exactly like you... thought i could not get a hotter chick, scarcity mind set... it's true i have not found a hotter chick... but i rather keep my self respect...

you need to stay away from her if she is toxic... she will get whats coming to her eventually

 

[trent_afc]

Thanks, NC it is.

BTW, burn/shred that unread letter ASAP!

 

[soulforge]

Thanks, NC it is.

BTW, burn/shred that unread letter ASAP!

that letter is her way of hooking me back in.... it's not going to happen! i have already destroyed it... i was not even tempted to read it... no thanks, not going through all that pain & misery again!


this is her 4th or 5th attempt to hook me back in... every other time i gave in & went back to her.... NEVER AGAIN

 

[Jair213]

was good bro. nice to see you came a long way. keep ignoring. i know sometimes it get tempting to talk to her in this situations because you start thinking of the sex, lust, etc.

Keep on bro, exterminate this bish out of your thoughts and life.

 

[expos]

Good work. She will just repeat that crappy behavior with the next guy. Don't let her reel you in for another round of crap.

She's not coming back because she likes you or loves you, it's because she NEEDS you and that is a huge difference. I'll be brutal here, and just say that if you died she wouldn't even care. That is how bad this woman is.

Guys, let this be a lesson to if you ever get the urge to talk to that toxic ex, hit up this board instead and we'll talk some sense into you.

 

[soulforge]

Good work. She will just repeat that crappy behavior with the next guy. Don't let her reel you in for another round of crap.

She's not coming back because she likes you or loves you, it's because she NEEDS you and that is a huge difference. I'll be brutal here, and just say that if you died she wouldn't even care. That is how bad this woman is.

Guys, let this be a lesson to if you ever get the urge to talk to that toxic ex, hit up this board instead and we'll talk some sense into you.

listen to expos... he gave me some of the best advice on this board.. i know all about expos personal experience & back then i wish i had followed his advice to the tee...

my ex came begging back.. pleading for me to get back with her.. she promised me the world...

i stupidly got back with her & within only 3 weeks, she was back to her former self... these toxic woman NEVER NEVER change!!!

after 2 months of getting back with her, i finally decided enough was enough... and i changed my mobile number & went ghost on her..

never lose your self respect or put up with crap with these type of woman... no matter how hot she is, or how good the sex is

your self respect & sanity is worth much much more!

 

[soulforge]

so it's been almost 4 months now, since i went ghost on my ex... but just recently i have started thinking of her again... due to her sending me a hand written letter just a week ago!

i know she is single, as she is on plenty of fish... this letter has got me thinking about her again... damn woman!!!

she cannot text or ring me, as i changed my mobile number & have not checked my old email

i mean she is on pof, so obviously she is on the look out for a man....


so why send this letter to me?

this was very toxic in my life & caused me nothing but pain!!!!

took me two years to break the cycle & finally get away...

 

[sylvester the cat]

did you burn that letter?

 

[soulforge]

did you burn that letter?

yes i got rid of the letter the very day i recieved it... without reading!

i wasn't even thinking of her, till that letter came... she managed to creep back into my thoughts!

anyhow i would NEVER NEVER get back with her... just the curiosity if why she wrote to me

probably some bullsh@t

 

[sylvester the cat]

yes i got rid of the letter the very day i recieved it... without reading!

i wasn't even thinking of her, till that letter came... she managed to creep back into my thoughts!

anyhow i would NEVER NEVER get back with her... just the curiosity if why she wrote to me

probably some bullsh@t

that's a dangerous question - 'why'.

can have a man dangling for years over that one question.

best to shift the focus of your attention on something more worthwhile. like more plates.

 

[nismo-4]

Your princess is in another castle. She probably wrote a long ass letter with a LJBF offer.

Delete her, block her, move on. She already did anyway.

Case closed.

 

[Mr Gyalist]

I can't believe what i'm reading. Have you guys gone soft, What is reading the letter really going to do, I thought we suppose to be men out here lol.

you should read the letter, its not like you are actually getting back with her, it shows you guys how much power women have over you if you afraid of a letter. Read it then shred it, and move on...

 

[JoeMarron]

I can't believe what i'm reading. Have you guys gone soft, What is reading the letter really going to do, I thought we suppose to be men out here lol.

you should read the letter, its not like you are actually getting back with her, it shows you guys how much power women have over you if you afraid of a letter. Read it then shred it, and move on...

Hah on one hand reading the letter could make it easier for him to give in and break no contact. On the other hand not reading the letter could cause curiosity to get the best of him and break no contact. Either way you make a good point. Dude should have enough willpower to resist regardless.

 

[soulforge]

Hah on one hand reading the letter could make it easier for him to give in and break no contact. On the other hand not reading the letter could cause curiosity to get the best of him and break no contact. Either way you make a good point. Dude should have enough willpower to resist regardless.

resist... i have not spoke to this woman for nearly 4 months & i.m sure i can manage ignoring her for the rest of my life

i let this woman into my life 3 times & each time she screwed up...

so what this letter said, does not matter... what matters is... i remove her memory from my life & move on


nothing she can say or do, would want me to take her back now!

she was toxic, manipulative, a liar, selfish.. why would i want a woman like that in my life

 

[soulforge]

ok so the sage continues.... as you know my ex sent me a letter in the post.. i did not bother reading it & just got rid of it...

today i have come home after work, to find another letter that has been hand posted by her in my letter box!

this time the letter is from her 12 year old daughter... the envelope had my name on it and a heart drawn on it


is my ex using her daughter to hoover me back in... or get a reaction from me?

what is her game? i went ghost on her 4 months ago!!!

 

[JoeMarron]

ok so the sage continues.... as you know my ex sent me a letter in the post.. i did not bother reading it & just got rid of it...

today i have come home after work, to find another letter that has been hand posted by her in my letter box!

this time the letter is from her 12 year old daughter... the envelope had my name on it and a heart drawn on it


is my ex using her daughter to hoover me back in... or get a reaction from me?

what is her game? i went ghost on her 4 months ago!!!

:crackup: daaamn. That is seriously fvcked up. This chick is trying hard. Give her props lol but don't dare break NC. This is typical female nature though. She's a single mom who probably has no options at the moment. Of course she's going to do whatever she can to get a man in her life.