PRL, I disagree.
Shyness is not "inbred." There is no evidence of a "shy gene." The characteristics of shyness and timidity manifest themselves in a person because of that person's experiences and how he interpreted and "coped" with them.
For example, in a mother's concern for her young chlid, she will repeatedly admonish him, "Don't talk to strangers!"
This was meant to be a temporary warning to keep the child safe from predators, but childhood messages stick with us until we actively change them.
Also, a mother will warn her child to not go out in the street. She tells this to the child to protect him from getting hit by passing cars. However, the mother's good-intentioned concern can lead the child to have a fear of crossing the street... even if there are NO CARS IN SIGHT.
Similarly, if a child is constantly ridiculed in school when he asks questions, then he will STOP asking questions in order to avoid the negative attention thrust upon him. It's not his fault. It's his instinctual "coping mechanism" trying to preserve his emotional well-being.
Later in the child's life, he will find it difficult to ask questions and may fail as a result... unless he isolates the cause of his anxiety when he asks questions and understands that he DOES have a right to hold himself out in front of a crowd and ask questions.
Why do HBs think of themselves so highly? Because AFCs have heaped praises upon them all their lives. It's all conditioning. No one is BORN TO BE SHY. Being shy is detrimental to nearly all aspects of life.
Shyness is not "inbred." There is no evidence of a "shy gene." The characteristics of shyness and timidity manifest themselves in a person because of that person's experiences and how he interpreted and "coped" with them.
For example, in a mother's concern for her young chlid, she will repeatedly admonish him, "Don't talk to strangers!"
This was meant to be a temporary warning to keep the child safe from predators, but childhood messages stick with us until we actively change them.
Also, a mother will warn her child to not go out in the street. She tells this to the child to protect him from getting hit by passing cars. However, the mother's good-intentioned concern can lead the child to have a fear of crossing the street... even if there are NO CARS IN SIGHT.
Similarly, if a child is constantly ridiculed in school when he asks questions, then he will STOP asking questions in order to avoid the negative attention thrust upon him. It's not his fault. It's his instinctual "coping mechanism" trying to preserve his emotional well-being.
Later in the child's life, he will find it difficult to ask questions and may fail as a result... unless he isolates the cause of his anxiety when he asks questions and understands that he DOES have a right to hold himself out in front of a crowd and ask questions.
Why do HBs think of themselves so highly? Because AFCs have heaped praises upon them all their lives. It's all conditioning. No one is BORN TO BE SHY. Being shy is detrimental to nearly all aspects of life.
