Yes another one....

[intraining]

I dont know what to do with my life.Work is great and the people there are great to but life out of work sucks.My few good friends that i have are gamers so every weekend there trying to play halo or final fantasy 11 online.Now thats fun at times it gets boring and i want to do something else.Sure tell me to get new friends or hang with other people but the others have girlfriends or like to get drunk and high all the time.I want to be in the clubs and whatever but my friends are not into that(the gamers).I cant see myself going to a club by myself..........that would suck so much.Im watching my life fly past me and im not doing a damn thing about it.Ive only been on one date never had a girlfriend(there not everything) and i cant approach girls on the street or the mall.So here i end my venting im just another poor guy thats not doing a damn thing to change his life.I have no idea what to do.

 

[Tails]

join the gym, go for walks along the beach every now and then, go to the public library, go see a movie. even go to church... you meet many people there. the thing is you really do need new friends to be able to hang out more. i don't though. i go out whenever i want. i even go to the cinema every friday or saturday by myself. however, my pal from where i study decided to join me every week now. so i guess it can't hurt for him to tag along - just find places to hang out. you don't always need someone around. but it can be boring.

i use to do this alot when i was bored. i met heaps of girls at the library. and geezus christ were they horny or what! sadly, i was AFC back then and didn't have a clue they were all over me

by the way, can you maybe give me your friends final fantasty xi online account details for me? LOL

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

If you can't do cold approaches I suggest you join clubs/organizations and be a social butterfly.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Originally posted by intraining
...I cant see myself going to a club by myself...

actually you'll do better at the clubs alone than if you brought your gaming friends along.

 

[intraining]

I will? i mean i cant even dance and plus the fact that i dont kno anyone there .I really need to change my life up to help me out cuz if i dont im going to regret it.Only thing is i have no idea what to do with my current friends.Straight up stop kicking it with them?

 

[Hollowpoint]

stay friends, make new ones

 

[intraining]

i cant shake my shyness

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

'Shyness' is inbred within your DNA and it is an obstacle to a man's progress regarding his pursuit of a mate!!

Try to meet other 'shy' women that will understand your shy state better. Other than that you have to slowly work your way to DJ'ism. If you don't do it no one else will! If there is 'inaction' on your part, plan to live your life without a mate unless she approaches you - which is possible but highly improbable!

 

[4afe]

I have to ditch my friends from time to time. but they tend to hang out at adult shops and make lude comments to women buying "toys" . For the most part it is great fun, but it gets old FAST. But when I am not around my friends I usually drive around and get into trouble that way. But when I am with my friends they tend to shadow me out when I start a conv with a woman, they have a bad habbit of jumping into a conv and taking over.

 

[Titus]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
'Shyness' is inbred within your DNA and it is an obstacle to a man's progress regarding his pursuit of a mate!!

Scuse me?
No offence Puerto, but this is rather hillarious. It's nothing DNA inbred. It's just something that is taught. And it can be overcomed.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

How is 'shyness' taught??? Why would the parents teach a child to be timid? What is it's benefits?? Did someone from TV tell you this??? How old are you?? 'Shyness' is an innate human characteristic and has nothing to do with schooling - please elaborate!

 

[Ebach]

Shyness is not taught. It's the result of certain teachings. Teachings to be ashamed, afraid, scared, embarassed, guilty, and so on. All the manipulative feelings are ingrained into your brain after living with people who spill their **** at you. Even if you don't believe in those things you have to learn them in order to live with those people. It's called "coping." People such as your parents and close relatives are the one responsible for shyness. The strong minded shake off the shyness after they start living on their own. It takes time but it does occur. The weak minded, actually believe all the bull**** their parents told them, even if there's no reason for things.

 

[Ebach]

Puerto Rican, how old are you? Parents teach their child to be timid so they can be in control. So whenever they ask something of you, you do it. That's the reason. Parents don't want menaces. You can be outgoing and not be a menace but some people confuse the two and if your parents are not realizing that, they can cripple you for life. So instead of being outgoing, you keep your feelings inside you (shyness) and you start getting anxiety attacks and all that crap. I've been there, I know how it is. So basically, you're taught to be shy.

A lot of critisizm coming from your parents, yelling, fighting and all that **** can do that to you as well. I've been there. I know how it is. Even though that makes you more determined and stubborn and uptight which is definitely helpful and many real life situations, it's not the healthiest way to grow up while you're still young.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Ebach
Parents teach their child to be timid so they can be in control. So whenever they ask something of you, you do it.

Ebach, I take it that you are extremely young and have brought into the 'Oprah Winfrey' thinking!! Don't believe anything hors or homos say!!!!

By their very definition 'parents' are in control!!! HELLO!!!!!! Parents don't need to manipulate what aLready is!!

You obviously have been abused, as most of the younger generation has!! Your thinking is in error and you have faulty logic!

 

[triple_ultima]

PRL, don't be a bigot. It's true that the way parents raise you as a child has a drastic effect on your personality as an adult. That's not to say you can't change it though.

For example, when I was growing up, my parents were social recluses. People almost NEVER came to my house, and as such I never learned how to properly deal with people whom I am not familiar with. Thankfully, I have realized this and am working day and night to overcome it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Don't take it personal - truth still stands "shyness is inbred' - this is grade school stuff!! No need for me to elaborate!

Triple, If you were kept from associating with others when you were young then this was forced and not inbred!! Obviously! Two different unrrelated topics!!

Again., 'shyness' is an inbred characteristic - this is a fact and not to be debated!!!

 

[Zangatti]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
this is grade school stuff!!

Hey, Notice my age... I am in grade school, and I never learned anything of the sort of shyness being 'inbred'. Perhaps you are creating your own reality?
Shyness is not inbred, but it may SEEM so, such as TripleUltima was talking about, his parents being sort-of shy, therefore he grew up to be shy as well, but it is not 'inbred'. This is the same for child abuse, too! It is a learned/developed behavior, mostly influenced by the parents. Shyness and child abuse were probably a habit handed down many generations, not by genes, rather by learning through your most trusted guardians, or your parents.

 

[Zangatti]

Also, PuertoRican dude, those two topics, shyness being 'forced', as you call it, and 'inbred' are actually related. Wanna know why?? Because they are about the same friggen topic! Get your head out of your arse and read what both are about, SHYNESS! The same topic, you will notice. Again, you must be imagining your own reality.

 

[Ebach]

PuertoRican_Lover, I take it that you are extremely young

How old does that make me?

and have brought into the 'Oprah Winfrey' thinking!! Don't believe anything hors or homos say!!!!

Oprah Winfrey? Who's that?

I don't believe much of what I hear. I look for action. In any case, I know myself well enough to know some truths about the **** I've been through. Hors and homos don't concern me so your playing the guilt trip here doesn't work on me. I've been through a lot of ****, and even though my thinking is not "normal" it's much more advanced. I know **** most people my age would take a long time to figure out.

By their very definition 'parents' are in control!!!

Yes, most of those people are people with children. Parents WANT to be in control.

HELLO!!!!!! Parents don't need to manipulate what aLready is!!

What the fvck are you saying here? I don't get your point. Parents are not in control. I don't know how old you are but obviously your thinking isn't straight. Ever seen parents with their children in public? You've seen that little moron run around yelling like a mofo and all that ****. Yes, that was US long ago. We were the kids running like crazy wanting to learn and experience. Our parents are older and mature though, they want more peace and quiet so they have to be in control. They have to be able to shut you up just with eye contact. That's how much control they want. They would spank you if you disobey them. They would manipulate you in a number of ways. They would do whatever it takes for you to listen to them. TRUST ME! I know. You have some good advices when it comes to women, but sometimes when reading your posts, I wonder if you've had any experience with the **** you talk about.

You obviously have been abused, as most of the younger generation has!!

Yes, I have. I admitted it. In some ways (don't want to sound weird) I'm proud of it. I'm not proud of the abuse itself, I'm proud of what it has taught me about people, life, and everything in general.

Your thinking is in error and you have faulty logic!

Please, this is exactly how your kids turn out to be the jerk next door. Because you yell this **** at them without even thinking about the effects. Your critisize because you want to be right. When dealing with kids, the kid has to be right. But you're not understanding that because your ego is bigger than your brain. In any case, logic is relative. Life though, is not logical. People, are not logical. You know why? Because people are not a piece of metal. In any case... keep talking.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

You young bastards are insane if you think parents are teaching their children to be shy!!! WHAT IS THE PURPOSE??????? You same youmg guys think a man putting his his penis in a man's anus is natural and good!! You have been damaged - I feel sorry for you guys - I reALLY DO!!!!!