Greetings, gentlemen.
This journal will feature tales of my DJ exploits and reflections on my attempts to improve my game.
All feedback and comments are welcome. There's no requirement to be congenial, so if you're up for it, hit me with your worst. I'll take on all comers. Alternatively, do the right thing and help feed my malnourished ego.
Background
My username explains the better part of my story. I used to be an idiot -- a tremendous idiot -- in life in general in far too many ways to mention. But I'm no longer an idiot, hence the moniker "Xidiot" (ie ex-idiot).
Sadly, when it comes to females I'm still much more an idiot than not.
I was shy and ridiculously intimidated by girls all throughout high school. Needless to say, I never had a girlfriend or even so much as asked a girl out. I was so ridiculously timid that the idea of asking a girl out struck me as utterly absurd. ("Ask a girl out? Me? Are you insane?")
Things changed once I turned eighteen. I started clubbing and enjoyed moderate success, and eventually succeeded in picking up some very hot girls.
All this abruptly ended around the age of twenty-two, at which time my life entered upon what can only be described as an elevated level of idiocy, even for a thoroughgoing idiot like me.
I am now thirty-five(!) and have only picked up one or two (my memory's sketchy) girls between the age of twenty-two and now. I won't bore you with the details of why this was so.
The main point you (and I) need to understand is that my skills are at absolute rock-bottom.
I'm essentially starting anew.
I've heard that "life begins at forty," so if this is true then I now have a five-year head-start.
After so many long years out of the dating/pick-up/girlfriend scene, I have recently began to take my first tentative steps toward re-entry.
Now, before I begin regaling you with war stories, let's take stock of my strengths and weaknesses.
Strengths
Let's take stock of my strengths.
- Don't look thirty-five. Nobody ever guesses my age. I'm invariably placed around 24-26. (I think this is a strength.)
- Good-looking. (A strength, to be sure, but dammit, sometimes it can be difficult to tell whether a girl isn't into me or is simply intimidated, which works against you when you're attempting to overcome your own timidity.)
- Good body. (Not as good as it has been, but still muscly and fairly lean -- though certainly no six-pack.)
- Good conversationalist. (Except when it comes to approaching and/or escalating the sexual banter with women I'm very attracted to, at which I absolutely and unquestionably suck. I mean, suck. Believe it.)
Weaknesses
Er...everything else.
Look, it's not for nothing I am "Xidiot". I am such an idiot that even as an ex-idiot I'm still something of an idiot.
Still, let's make a list.
- Approaching. FAIL.
- Considering approaching. FAIL.
- Contemplating considering approaching. Still a goddam @$*#&$@#^ FAIL.
(See where this is going?)
- Escalating. What do you think? FAIL, my friend, it's a FAIL.
- Dancing. Sigh. FAIL.
Man, this is depressing. Oh, wait. I remembered another Strength: stylish dresser. (Well, at thirty-five I'm a bit out of the loop when it comes to the latest fashions, and there are some "fashionable" items I'd never consider donning, but all in all, I can still confidently state I'm on the better side of average.)
- Friends. Freaking hell....FAIL.
- Social circle. Pfft. FAILY FAIL FAIL.
(By "fail" I don't mean my friends or my social circle are no good; I mean they are non-existent.)
- Hair. FAIL. (Boy, this one gets me down. I hate my freaking hair. There's really only one style that looks good on me and it looks nothing like what modern "stylish" styles look like. Mercifully, at my age stylish doesn't quite matter so much. And I'm fortunate that the style that does look good on me is something of a "classic" styling, so it's never really out of fashion among "mainstream" people -- I couldn't care less what niche sub-cultures think of it.)
- Sex. May as well admit it, FAIL. (Climax too soon. Am timid, unimaginative and unadventurous. And embarrassingly often impotent. Yes, I know: not a pretty picture.)
At this point more thoughtful readers might make the not unreasonable suggestion that I am gay. I've had reason to ponder this question myself. I've looked at men, long and hard, but it does nothing for me; and the thought of, er, you know, "doing" anything with them completely grosses me out. So we'll have to rule out gayness.
If I'm going to volunteer details as intimate as that, then I should also mention, on a more serious note than any of the preceding commentary (not that that was unserious), that the past decade or so has been psychologically quite stressful for me, for a variety of professional and family-related reasons. Only within the last few months have I come to feel that those issues are resolved and feel ready to attack life with renewed zest.
Coming up next, some field reports of recent goings-out to bring you up to date with the present (and to allow you to gauge whether this journal may be worth reading or not).
This journal will feature tales of my DJ exploits and reflections on my attempts to improve my game.
All feedback and comments are welcome. There's no requirement to be congenial, so if you're up for it, hit me with your worst. I'll take on all comers. Alternatively, do the right thing and help feed my malnourished ego.
Background
My username explains the better part of my story. I used to be an idiot -- a tremendous idiot -- in life in general in far too many ways to mention. But I'm no longer an idiot, hence the moniker "Xidiot" (ie ex-idiot).
Sadly, when it comes to females I'm still much more an idiot than not.
I was shy and ridiculously intimidated by girls all throughout high school. Needless to say, I never had a girlfriend or even so much as asked a girl out. I was so ridiculously timid that the idea of asking a girl out struck me as utterly absurd. ("Ask a girl out? Me? Are you insane?")
Things changed once I turned eighteen. I started clubbing and enjoyed moderate success, and eventually succeeded in picking up some very hot girls.
All this abruptly ended around the age of twenty-two, at which time my life entered upon what can only be described as an elevated level of idiocy, even for a thoroughgoing idiot like me.
I am now thirty-five(!) and have only picked up one or two (my memory's sketchy) girls between the age of twenty-two and now. I won't bore you with the details of why this was so.
The main point you (and I) need to understand is that my skills are at absolute rock-bottom.
I'm essentially starting anew.
I've heard that "life begins at forty," so if this is true then I now have a five-year head-start.
After so many long years out of the dating/pick-up/girlfriend scene, I have recently began to take my first tentative steps toward re-entry.
Now, before I begin regaling you with war stories, let's take stock of my strengths and weaknesses.
Strengths
Let's take stock of my strengths.
- Don't look thirty-five. Nobody ever guesses my age. I'm invariably placed around 24-26. (I think this is a strength.)
- Good-looking. (A strength, to be sure, but dammit, sometimes it can be difficult to tell whether a girl isn't into me or is simply intimidated, which works against you when you're attempting to overcome your own timidity.)
- Good body. (Not as good as it has been, but still muscly and fairly lean -- though certainly no six-pack.)
- Good conversationalist. (Except when it comes to approaching and/or escalating the sexual banter with women I'm very attracted to, at which I absolutely and unquestionably suck. I mean, suck. Believe it.)
Weaknesses
Er...everything else.
Look, it's not for nothing I am "Xidiot". I am such an idiot that even as an ex-idiot I'm still something of an idiot.
Still, let's make a list.
- Approaching. FAIL.
- Considering approaching. FAIL.
- Contemplating considering approaching. Still a goddam @$*#&$@#^ FAIL.
(See where this is going?)
- Escalating. What do you think? FAIL, my friend, it's a FAIL.
- Dancing. Sigh. FAIL.
Man, this is depressing. Oh, wait. I remembered another Strength: stylish dresser. (Well, at thirty-five I'm a bit out of the loop when it comes to the latest fashions, and there are some "fashionable" items I'd never consider donning, but all in all, I can still confidently state I'm on the better side of average.)
- Friends. Freaking hell....FAIL.
- Social circle. Pfft. FAILY FAIL FAIL.
(By "fail" I don't mean my friends or my social circle are no good; I mean they are non-existent.)
- Hair. FAIL. (Boy, this one gets me down. I hate my freaking hair. There's really only one style that looks good on me and it looks nothing like what modern "stylish" styles look like. Mercifully, at my age stylish doesn't quite matter so much. And I'm fortunate that the style that does look good on me is something of a "classic" styling, so it's never really out of fashion among "mainstream" people -- I couldn't care less what niche sub-cultures think of it.)
- Sex. May as well admit it, FAIL. (Climax too soon. Am timid, unimaginative and unadventurous. And embarrassingly often impotent. Yes, I know: not a pretty picture.)
At this point more thoughtful readers might make the not unreasonable suggestion that I am gay. I've had reason to ponder this question myself. I've looked at men, long and hard, but it does nothing for me; and the thought of, er, you know, "doing" anything with them completely grosses me out. So we'll have to rule out gayness.
If I'm going to volunteer details as intimate as that, then I should also mention, on a more serious note than any of the preceding commentary (not that that was unserious), that the past decade or so has been psychologically quite stressful for me, for a variety of professional and family-related reasons. Only within the last few months have I come to feel that those issues are resolved and feel ready to attack life with renewed zest.
Coming up next, some field reports of recent goings-out to bring you up to date with the present (and to allow you to gauge whether this journal may be worth reading or not).