Made.To.Be.Great
Don Juan
2 months ago I met a very sweet girl in my office and I was immediately feeling a great vibe between us. We were flirting a lot and over the weeks our "relationship" became more intense.
Even though I was really into her, I was always playing it very cool... furthermore, I was playing "hard-to-get" all the way! I was ****y and funny when we talked with each other, I was flirting with her, but I never made a serious move towards her direction. She was the active part from day one: she asked me for my ICQ-number, on ICQ she asked me for my phone-number, on the phone she asked me for a date, on the date she was holding hands with me, and after the date she was sending me a message in which she told me how much fun she had on the date and that she really enjoyed her time with me! (I have to mention that I'm above-average-looking and therefore I'm used to the fact that every now and then a girl is chasing me and not the other way around.)
Well, on the date she also asked me if we could do something on the weekend. So we went to a nice club last Saturday and everything was pretty good. We stayed there for 4 or 5 hours and we even kissed each other for the first time (again, she was basically forcing me into the kiss). The entire night we stayed together (even tho a lot of her friends were in the club, too) and we were acting like a "real" couple... holding hands and kissing each other all night long.
Now the problem sets in: on the next day (yesterday) she was very cold and reserved on the phone. Due to the facts that our emotions and our relationship grew within the last months, that she was initiating almost every meeting, and that we got very close that night, I was expecting the exact opposite! Therefore I asked her directly what she thinks about our common future and how she feels about us (I was starting this discussion with the question "how we should act in the office now"). Her comment was that she likes me very much, but that she needs a few days in order to get her mind right because she's still not completely over her x-boyfriend (she's out of town for 5 days now > work)! She also said we have enough time.
She was mentioning her x about two weeks ago and she told me that he's an a**hole, but that she's still hoping that he will get in touch with her again (the jerk-effect). After she told me that, I was already very aware and I was playing even more hard-to-get, but she continued with her moves and actions and I thought that I would, at least, be on the same level with her x... I guess I was wrong!
My question is: what should I do now? Should I wait for her, stay in touch with her, and just keep on playing the game (I know that in the end she will not get back together again with her X, because I know that he's not into her)? Or should I immediately break up the contact with her at all? Or do you have any other suggestions? Should I make her jealous with other girls, for example?
Besides that, I’m trying to find the reason for her cold behavior! The only thing that I could have done wrong, is that I was kissing her not as good as I usually kiss a girl (I was getting some compliments for that in the past) because I was pretty drunk that night! But first of all I was not that bad (I would say I was a B-), she was not the world’s best kisser either (she was a C-) and I just can’t and don’t want to imagin’ that such a minor thing could destroy her feelings! I mean, we didn’t met each other last night, she was into me for almost 2 months, as you know!
I'm sorry for the long post and I'm thankful for every true advice!
Even though I was really into her, I was always playing it very cool... furthermore, I was playing "hard-to-get" all the way! I was ****y and funny when we talked with each other, I was flirting with her, but I never made a serious move towards her direction. She was the active part from day one: she asked me for my ICQ-number, on ICQ she asked me for my phone-number, on the phone she asked me for a date, on the date she was holding hands with me, and after the date she was sending me a message in which she told me how much fun she had on the date and that she really enjoyed her time with me! (I have to mention that I'm above-average-looking and therefore I'm used to the fact that every now and then a girl is chasing me and not the other way around.)
Well, on the date she also asked me if we could do something on the weekend. So we went to a nice club last Saturday and everything was pretty good. We stayed there for 4 or 5 hours and we even kissed each other for the first time (again, she was basically forcing me into the kiss). The entire night we stayed together (even tho a lot of her friends were in the club, too) and we were acting like a "real" couple... holding hands and kissing each other all night long.
Now the problem sets in: on the next day (yesterday) she was very cold and reserved on the phone. Due to the facts that our emotions and our relationship grew within the last months, that she was initiating almost every meeting, and that we got very close that night, I was expecting the exact opposite! Therefore I asked her directly what she thinks about our common future and how she feels about us (I was starting this discussion with the question "how we should act in the office now"). Her comment was that she likes me very much, but that she needs a few days in order to get her mind right because she's still not completely over her x-boyfriend (she's out of town for 5 days now > work)! She also said we have enough time.
She was mentioning her x about two weeks ago and she told me that he's an a**hole, but that she's still hoping that he will get in touch with her again (the jerk-effect). After she told me that, I was already very aware and I was playing even more hard-to-get, but she continued with her moves and actions and I thought that I would, at least, be on the same level with her x... I guess I was wrong!
My question is: what should I do now? Should I wait for her, stay in touch with her, and just keep on playing the game (I know that in the end she will not get back together again with her X, because I know that he's not into her)? Or should I immediately break up the contact with her at all? Or do you have any other suggestions? Should I make her jealous with other girls, for example?
Besides that, I’m trying to find the reason for her cold behavior! The only thing that I could have done wrong, is that I was kissing her not as good as I usually kiss a girl (I was getting some compliments for that in the past) because I was pretty drunk that night! But first of all I was not that bad (I would say I was a B-), she was not the world’s best kisser either (she was a C-) and I just can’t and don’t want to imagin’ that such a minor thing could destroy her feelings! I mean, we didn’t met each other last night, she was into me for almost 2 months, as you know!
I'm sorry for the long post and I'm thankful for every true advice!
