I love a lot of what you boys would call, "AFC" songs. Back when I was a lost boy in college I went through a period of only listening to "hard" music. Rap, rock, etc. It was simply a way to hide from the fact that I was just another chump to all the chubs on campus. Fast forward to the day I landed in Kyiv. Immediately I became more comfortable with who I was. I started listening to what "I" like. Opera, Lionel Richie, really lame Russian pop/techno, house, Phil Collins, Igor Krutoy, Debbie Gibson, etc all started to become party of my music collection.
My point is that you are looking in the wrong places for why you are worth nothing in society. It isn't the music you listen to. It isn't how you walk. It isn't being an a$$ or wearing fuzzy hats. It comes down to being afraid to TOTALLY change. Dump all of your old friends, quit your job, leave the country, etc. You do those things and I promise you won't be concerned with whether or not music will define who and what you are. You will finally be forced to come to terms with what makes you YOU. None of you will be happy until you fully become comfortable with yourselves. That is why I encourage all young males to start new lives in places where beautiful girls will give you the time of day. That way you can finally quit being fakes and start being real. Trust me, the real you is 100 times more interesting than what you are currently. Too bad you are afraid of who you really are.
Politicians always blame things like music for societal ills. Why? Because it is a great way to get the average idiot from thinking about the real issues. The dumbest of the dumb can relate to music. The same goes for those who try to use music as a scapegoat for why they are unhappy in life.