Wtf?!?!

[*******]

she dosen't want to kiss after coming over

So im talking to this girl on the phone and i arrange for us to go to my house a couple house hours before the end of school. Yesterday, we go to my house and turns out my mom is there (she was suppose to b in work) and so we had to go somewhere else. we went to the park for a while and i pumped the heavy kino. She reacted how she usually reacts. Then when i go for a kiss she says she dosen't want to kiss me. i feel disrespected and put a mental wall between us. A couple mins later she says she wants to go home. i tell her im taking this as a sign and i won't take her BS. She dosen't change her mind and i, with out telling her a word for the whole ride take her back. Close to her house, I ask if she can make it home from there, she says i can take it the rest of the way if i want. I say ight then, and try to leave. She pulls me and says bye and tries to kiss me on the cheek. I reject her kiss and leave. WTF just happened? ANybody got an opinion on this ****? i feel like ignoring her, but i won't lie and say i dont want to fvck her. What do you think?

 

[belividere]

wtf?!?!?

Seems like your intentions of getting into her pants were obvious to her and she put up an anti-slut defense and shot you down. I dont know your past exposure to her but you cant just pump out heavy kino and expect a girl to automatically want to just rip her clothes off. Personally from your story it sounds like you applied kino way to much. When I employ it I do so lightly and sparingly during conversation to provoke a subconcious response. Example; during conversation gently touching her arm or leg. The whole point of it being that I am making both a mental and physical connection. From what you said it sounds more like you were groping her. That may have been a bit creepy to her and turned her off.

 

[*******]

You might be right, but what now? This was the second time she has done something similar.
Anybody else got something to say on either what happened
or how should i handle it?

 

[diablo]

Not to be nitpicky, but when you make a title for your thread, have it relate to whatever it is you're asking/discussing. "WTF??" and "Analyze this!" really don't make anyone feel the urge to click on them... you'll find that you have a lot more replies when you label things properly. Thanks.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

No. Not anti-slut. She wants affirmation that she's not the one at fault and attempted (with the 'safe' kiss) to reinforce this with herself. She wasn't thinking about you, she was thinking about herself. Children naturally do this after they've been scolded; they attempt to get the affection of the parent that just scolded them to affirm that they are OK, or the anxiety situation is back to being OK. Obviously her intimacy was what was at issue so a passionate kiss was out of the question, but your firm rejection of her (commendable I might add) required that she feel better about herself and knowing from your response that she may not get the opportunity to do so any time soon, responded with a peck on the cheek.

 

[*******]

Should i drop her?

 

[spider_007]

I'd say you already did. why do you get upset about her not kissing you. who cares. not talking to her kinda said a lot; like all you wanted is sex.

 

[Climax]

My 2c...

She obviously doesn’t want anything more than your friendship, if she did want more, she wouldn’t of pulled away.... So either accept the fact that she will only be your friend, or u are unable to live with that, then just cut her off completely. It depends how YOU feel about it.. Do u WANT her friendship? Or do u just want to get into her pants? Ask yourself what u want from this girl.. Is it just the sex etc, or do u actually put value on her friendship as well? If you DO put value on her friendship, then accept that she will only be your FRIEND now, and be FRIENDS. If she shows u signs of interest in the future, then great, but until that time, treat her like any one of your female friends. Stop the kino, stop the flirting, take ALL that away from her, and see how she reacts to that.

Good luck...


Laterz...

 

[squirrels]

Re: she dosen't want to kiss after coming over

Originally posted by *******
Yesterday, we go to my house and turns out my mom is there (she was suppose to b in work)

Well now that we've got an idea of your age...

and so we had to go somewhere else. we went to the park for a while and i pumped the heavy kino. She reacted how she usually reacts.

Which is?? How does she "usually react"?

Then when i go for a kiss she says she dosen't want to kiss me. i feel disrespected and put a mental wall between us.

TRANSLATION: You tried to kiss her, she rejected you, so you got your feelings hurt, you lost your cool, and you threw a pouty-fit.

Kissing isn't a sign of respect, it's a sign of attraction. You obviously failed to generate enough of it at that particular point in time, or else maybe she just felt bad about making out in a public place (park). Either way, you can't just lose your cool and try to play "big man can't be denied" on her, or she'll think you're a loser and drop you.

A couple mins later she says she wants to go home.

TRANSLATION: You're not the man I thought you were, getting all rattled over a kiss. You're a loser. I'm outta here.

i tell her im taking this as a sign and i won't take her BS.

TRANSLATION: You can't deny me, you *****! How could you! Waaa!! I'm gonna go listen to Linkin Park real loud!!!

She dosen't change her mind and i, with out telling her a word for the whole ride take her back.

You pouted and acted like a hurt little ass all over a little kiss.

Close to her house, I ask if she can make it home from there, she says i can take it the rest of the way if i want. I say ight then, and try to leave. She pulls me and says bye and tries to kiss me on the cheek.

Don't get excited...it was a consolation kiss. She felt so bad for you after your pathetic loss of self-composure that she didn't want you going home and crying yourself to sleep.

I reject her kiss and leave. WTF just happened? ANybody got an opinion on this ****? i feel like ignoring her, but i won't lie and say i dont want to fvck her. What do you think?

What do I think? I think you need to:

-Read the DJ Bible

-Build up some self-esteem instead of trying to compenaste for it by getting offended. Women see right through that sh!t...it's not getting you anywhere.

-Learn to keep your composure and be persistent in a confident manner.

 

[*******]

Re: Re: she dosen't want to kiss after coming over

Originally posted by squirrels
Well now that we've got an idea of your age...



Which is?? How does she "usually react"?



TRANSLATION: You tried to kiss her, she rejected you, so you got your feelings hurt, you lost your cool, and you threw a pouty-fit.

Kissing isn't a sign of respect, it's a sign of attraction. You obviously failed to generate enough of it at that particular point in time, or else maybe she just felt bad about making out in a public place (park). Either way, you can't just lose your cool and try to play "big man can't be denied" on her, or she'll think you're a loser and drop you.



TRANSLATION: You're not the man I thought you were, getting all rattled over a kiss. You're a loser. I'm outta here.



TRANSLATION: You can't deny me, you *****! How could you! Waaa!! I'm gonna go listen to Linkin Park real loud!!!



You pouted and acted like a hurt little ass all over a little kiss.



Don't get excited...it was a consolation kiss. She felt so bad for you after your pathetic loss of self-composure that she didn't want you going home and crying yourself to sleep.



What do I think? I think you need to:

-Read the DJ Bible

-Build up some self-esteem instead of trying to compenaste for it by getting offended. Women see right through that sh!t...it's not getting you anywhere.

-Learn to keep your composure and be persistent in a confident manner.

Just because I felt dissed doesn't mean I acted like a b!tch. The reason I got mad wasn't because of this directly, it was because it was the second time she pulled some**** like that. The mental wall means I stopped what I was doing (making jokes,kino,etc) and changed direction. not that it was a huge blow to my ego. Don't get it twisted ni99a, I didn't pull no AFC ****. Where does it say I did? on the ride back I didn't talk to her, but it doesn't mean I didn't talk to anyone else. I don't know where you from, but I don't stay talking to a chick if it's not going nowhere, and that doesn't mean sex. If you don't take offense from a chick that seems to only want to waste your time then YOU should read the bible. I didn't ask for validation or to make me seem better. I ask because I wanted to know what some of you would do now in my position. Mainly because I didn't know if she was playing hard to get or just didn't care. But 2late to dwell on the past, I was going to forget about it, but the friendship response made me think about calling her (cause I do care). now I gotta decide if I should call her, stop contact or just act like nothing happened,etc.
But anyway squirrel, Just because there's water on the floor doesn't mean it rained. There could be many different actions that can created the same event.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Re: she dosen't want to kiss after coming over

Originally posted by *******
So im talking to this girl on the phone and i arrange for us to go to my house a couple house hours before the end of school. Yesterday, we go to my house and turns out my mom is there (she was suppose to b in work) and so we had to go somewhere else. we went to the park for a while and i pumped the heavy kino. She reacted how she usually reacts. Then when i go for a kiss she says she dosen't want to kiss me. i feel disrespected and put a mental wall between us. A couple mins later she says she wants to go home. i tell her im taking this as a sign and i won't take her BS. She dosen't change her mind and i, with out telling her a word for the whole ride take her back. Close to her house, I ask if she can make it home from there, she says i can take it the rest of the way if i want. I say ight then, and try to leave. She pulls me and says bye and tries to kiss me on the cheek. I reject her kiss and leave. WTF just happened? ANybody got an opinion on this ****? i feel like ignoring her, but i won't lie and say i dont want to fvck her. What do you think?

I think you should have put more information regarding your relationship with her instead of just a detailed account of what happened that particular day. As Squirrels asked, how does she "usually react"?

How long did you know her? Was she returning affection at other times? If she sometimes returns affection and at other times goes cold, then she's an AW and you should drop her completely right away.

How many times have you been intimate? If so, who initiated it and what happened?

Before this information is given out I don't see how anyone could make an objective analysis of your situation.

 

[*******]

Re: Re: she dosen't want to kiss after coming over

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
I think you should have put more information regarding your relationship with her instead of just a detailed account of what happened that particular day. As Squirrels asked, how does she "usually react"?

How long did you know her? Was she returning affection at other times? If she sometimes returns affection and at other times goes cold, then she's an AW and you should drop her completely right away.

How many times have you been intimate? If so, who initiated it and what happened?

Before this information is given out I don't see how anyone could make an objective analysis of your situation.

I known her for a couple weeks and I usually talk we her and her friends. She usually tries to act as if she didn't care but shows that she does when she smiles, etc. Her attitude is consistent. We have never being intimate, but I was the one that invited her to my house.

To day I saw her and her friends and all where acting cold. So I talk to my friends while we walk home. One of them would say something like "stop sleeping on your girl and go talk to her" i would say loud enough for her to hear "nah, she acting like she mad at me so ima let her be". Her friends would still act cold, but where warmed up in the surface. I talk to the prospect and she is trying to act like if nothing happened and eventually says something like "I have nothing to say to you," so I respond "OK, then ima leave you by yourself to think about something to tell me when I come back" and walk to my ppl. I then got a strangers # and denied it in front of her friends who saw it. I think that's a plus, but I don't care. I made her laugh after wards but still remained as if im mad (in a ****y sarcastic way). When I ignored her briefly she said in a whiny way not to ignore her. After that I knew I was in. Now, im just deciding how to go in for the kill. Especially since a date is out the question.

P.S the girl whose number i got, called me like 3 hours after i gave her my #. She must be psycho or really wants to ****.