Wtf

[Complicated]

Why wld an X girlfriend (about a 2 month relationship) who is now in her second relationship since give a crap about what I do?

Last I get questioned as to why my truck was seen in a certain girls driveway at 6am Sunday morning.

This week I told she has heard i am dating a particular girl and wants to know whats up with that.

The 1st girl she hates more than a person should hate someone, the second she likes but thinks she is a *****.

We work next door to each other and constantly run into each other in the parking lot. When I see her today we chat for a minute, or should I say she goes on and on about a family problem and I stare off into space. Then when I am fixing to leave and she asks for a hug and then tells me she loves me, I say nothing and walk away.

WTF!! Sometimes I think she is bi-polar. Any ideas as to what is going on?

 

[sidewinder58]

Did she break up with you?? If so, it's possibly cos of the thousand or so reasons that these pros talk about daily, like when you get in a relationship and then turn into a girly man. Inversely, now that she sees you have other prospects, she wants you again.

Chicks are lank strange, and we'll never understand them. All we can do is get with them.

 

[Complicated]

In a way I guess she did. I could tell she wasn't happy. Which then made me unhappy and then we decided to be friends. Which I now know was stupid, between getting ticked off when we have hung out, along with things I have read on this site. I should have just put her in the rd. But I find myself trying to fix things for her and protect her. She has extremely bad problems with her her family (they are really screwed up), and men (other than myself, the two before me abused her physically and the one after me), plus there was a chance she was pregnant. about 3 weeks ago I said screw it and do my best to avoid her, but she always calls and always some how ends up in the parking lot at work at the same time I do.

 

[Remulak]

Simple, she wants you back because you're dating another girl. If you give in and attempt to get back with her she'll feel secure with you again and throw you away like garbage. She wants to see if she can catch you again only to cast you back in once she does.

 

[Complicated]

Well i totally cut her off and it has only gotten worse. Now she calls me all weekend (even though she has a new boyfriend and he is with her, heard him in the background on one of the messages she left) I don't answer. She runs into to friends of mine and the local bar and wants to know where i am at. My office and her's share the same parking lot and she has even gone as far as parking her car in the space right to my truck, which is not where she normally parks. At first I wanted her back now there is a large enough part of me that knows I am better off not taking her back if she were to ask. So now it's just becoming a pain in the butt. Any idea on how I can get her to stop with out being a total A-hole?

 

[Desdinova]

Women's emotions usually go wacky when they hear that you've actually decided to move on with your life. It doesn't matter who did the breaking up, the fact that you "replaced" her with another woman upsets her. She wonders what this woman has that she doesn't. This is the same way how social proof works - a woman will wonder what another woman sees in you, or what you see in her. Stuff like this eats away at a woman's mind. Women are EXTREMELY competitive between each other, and this is no exception.

If you were to ditch the girl you're seeing and take your ex back, she wouldn't have use for you any longer because she won the battle. She'd just toss you away until you decided to start dating again, and the situation would repeat itself.

So now it's just becoming a pain in the butt. Any idea on how I can get her to stop with out being a total A-hole?

She's displaying stalker-like behavior. Tell her to quit contacting you and move on with her life. If she doesn't, get a restraining order. Sometimes there is no "nice" way to cut a chick loose.

 

[Complicated]

Thanks, that is pretty solid advice. Hopefully we can avoid the restraining order but it beats being stalked.