WTF...Where did I go wrong???

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I'm trying to figure out if I goofed with this chick I met off of Match.
Yesterday we set up this meet & greet at a Starbucks in downtown DC. This happens all in two days of the communication. She knows what I look like and read my profile.

I get there. GooD GAWD! Her Azz was so big and phat. Miami shorty. Damn. We began walking and talking. We get to a spot sit down. And she begins to ask me questions about my match experiences. DAMN. I think this is where I F'd up. I let it flow. I mean she was askin and I was being "candid".

I ask her the type of guy she's interested in. She says she's not attracted to guys with dredds. But loves bald heads. Me havin the ceasar low cut. I say, "So I guess that takes me out of contection." She calmly says, "I'm sorry I'm not attracted to you."

WHOA. I chilled and threw on the poker face and didn't blink. Looked her dead in the eye and said, "Man that's cool." That's what we are out here to do. Find our likes and dislikes." I SMILED. She smiled and said after some silence and me showing her I wasn't trippin. Here is the rub, she then ask "Has any woman told you that before." I lie and say, "Uh..No.", while looking like I was trying recollect if had ever happened. She says, " Didn't you say that no one can out charm Chemistry in your profile?" I did say that. And it is true. Well, for authenticity YES because I wrote it. If I had said anything otherwise I'd have been looking worse that her calling my bluff it seem. Or is she being for real. A few minutes later she says , "This is so awkward. I just thought I let you know what the deal was." I once again play my position and say,"Hey that's cool. Frontin goes against what I stand for. I'd rather hear the truth than a front anyday."

She then changes the subject and shows me the top she bought from some store. She wants to bounce. We walking back to the meeting point and she says, "I'm still a Match virgin (yeh BS). I think I want to just meet new friends for now." Me: "That's cool. I understand." Because it was I went out on a date and it didn't work out but I didn't drop and paper on her.

But this is where she confusses me. We come to the corner and she says "we'll talk later." I was like..WTF?? She hands me her hand in a position for me to kiss. I simply shake it. We go our seperate ways. I hit the ride, pop in Sean Price. I was out headed back to VA. I'm kind of mad I took a "L" (loss) in an hour and fifteen. Hell I even touched her arm while we walked.

Nevertheless, I think I know where I went wrong. I shoudln't have been soo friendly from the jump. I was too diplomatic. plus i ran my mouth too much. She said it was something I said that turned her off. Anybody out here find something I shouldn't have done??
 

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I tend to agree with Newman here. She'll probably call you back. She sounds like a game player.

I can't really see anything you did "wrong". I'm not sure I would've asked her what "type" of guys she's interested in. Its almost asking her if she digs your type or not. Better to just play ****y and assume she's attracted.

She left herself wide open for some playful teasing here though.

I ask her the type of guy she's interested in. She says she's not attracted to guys with dredds. But loves bald heads. Me havin the ceasar low cut. I say, "So I guess that takes me out of contection." She calmly says, "I'm sorry I'm not attracted to you."
Instead of your response I would've busted her on liking bald guys. Maybe say something like, "Really, bald guys huh? You like that Grandpa look? All old, crusty, and wrinkly that's gross."

It sounds like maybe you qualified her too quickly and she picked up on it.
 

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The very second she said she wasn't attracted to you, you should have got up and f#cking left her there. F#ck that "at least she was honest" bullsh1t. This girl was an attention wh0re from day one. No need to waste any more of your precious time on her.
 

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Better to just play ****y and assume she's attracted.
Agreed.

You've got to assume the sale. anything that smells of lack of confidence or self assurence is weak. Always play strongly.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I think she was attracted. I actually think she was interested.

I ran my FN MOUTH TOO MUCH.

We'll see if she calls back. If not I keep it moving.
If so, I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.

Or maybe she tried to hit me with a negative hit.

Time will only tell. Thanks for the input!
 

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I'm sorry I'm not attracted to you.
Major shlt test. Insecure alpha bltch. I think some AFC's would've reacted, got pissed, or something. You were smooth. DJ points for that.

What I would've loved, though, is when she said she wanted to bounce, you just go,

"Cool. See you around then."

Then you get up, walk over to the hottest single girl in the place, open a convo, and never look back.
 

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What I would've loved, though, is when she said she wanted to bounce, you just go,
"Cool. See you around then."

Then you get up, walk over to the hottest single girl in the place, open a convo, and never look back.
That is classic. :D
 

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What I would've loved, though, is when she said she wanted to bounce, you just go,
"Cool. See you around then."

Then you get up, walk over to the hottest single girl in the place, open a convo, and never look back.
That is classic. :D
 

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Originally posted by Rollo
I think she was attracted. I actually think she was interested.

I ran my FN MOUTH TOO MUCH.

We'll see if she calls back. If not I keep it moving.
If so, I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.

Or maybe she tried to hit me with a negative hit.

Time will only tell. Thanks for the input!
I would say "So you don't think its possible for two people who are NOT attracted to each other to have a little NSA fun in the sack?"
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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