WTF Super low sex drive

[LiveFreeX]

SO , here is a problem I've been having lately. As you all know, I'm married and recently we just moved back home to live with my folks (my mom has cancer). I'm now working 60 to 80 hours a week (I'm a workaholic). Wife is working... experiencing a bit of stress or maybe a lot, I can't tell. But usually I have no problems pounding out the wife...and she's more horny then usual since we agreed to have a kid. I dunno if its me or what but I have 0 sex drive now that we are at home. Just 2 months ago I would see some **** on youtube like this:

and would have to bring my wife home in a taxi from work the urge was so strong... shes a screamer and I'm pretty loud myself and since moving home, we have to keep sex super quiet and really really boring. She would dress up like an anime character and be really sexy... now I feel almost 0 when I look at any woman... even my wife. Back in China we were together morning to night and the attraction was still strong... now I hardly see her at all and I have almost no attraction whatsoever. My mother started giving my wife some of her clothing to wear, could this be having an effect? Unfortunately, I can't go back to China, I don't know how long my mom is going to be around for... ugh...

When it does work: Then sometimes I will wake up in the middle of the night, take one look at her and bang my wife out while she's half asleep... Its really weird. Its not my wife's problem, she's super small, in great shape, always horny and ready to go at a moments notice and an Asian to boot. She looks great all the time, so what the **** is my hang up??!?!?

 

[LiveFreeX]

As a quick note, I want to have a kid too... so.. getting her knocked up is important to me.

 

[LiveFreeX]

So here's exactly where it gets weird.... I'm ready to go now, waking the wife up and getting her into her gear... could I have some sexual attraction to writing on the sosuave forum... WTH?!?

OH forgot to mention, the last time we were banging my father started knocking on the door and even though I yelled that I was banging the wife he wouldn't leave us alone. My father just walked up the stairs as I was leaving to get my wife... and the feeling just left... could it be failure to preform when under the gun? My father is super nosey. He's not getting any himself so he always feels the need to make sure noone is.

 

[exhausted]

You moved back home, you are working too much and your mother has cancer. You are over stressed and probably a bit depressed. Understandable, work hard to get out of the rut or at least lean on your wife for support. Come together in hard times dont grow apart.

 

[Malcontent]

Stress drops testosterone...

 

[Slickster]

Just 2 months ago I would see some **** on youtube like this:

and would have to bring my wife home in a taxi from work the urge was so strong.

Seriously??? To each his own I guess but with all the sexual imagery on TV these days I don't know how a video like that even registers. I guess you really are in dire straits.

Living with your parents is enough to kill any sexual desire. Your mom's illness too.

You work way too much. Chill out and spend some time with your mom.

Nobody lies on their deathbed wishing they worked more and had more money.

 

[hithard]

Sounds like burn out.
Changes in diet.
Changes in lifestyle.
Overworked.
Sick mother.
Living with parents.
Your dcik will warn you that you need to change before mental fatigue or depression sets in.

 

[Married Buried]

Marriage does this to you if you had a young new hot GF would your sex drive be low?

 

[sodbuster]

Rent an apartment in town, rent a room, whatever.... get the hell out of your parents house. You can still go over to help with house work or help your parent's, BUT living with your parent's is a guaranteed stress you don't need. That's why when you sleep and get rid of some stress little buddy wakes up

 

[LiveFreeX]

We'll be buying a house shortly a few cities over but I really don't mind living with my folks all that much, we are saving between $3k and 4k per month so it makes going back to school and investing in property fairly easy. I do need to go out to a nightclub soon though, not getting my fix enough I guess...

I was coming out of the gym and I ran into a hot Chinese girl. Since I can't really pick up for myself anymore, I do it for my friends, I feel like I NEED TO GET THAT FIX... even if its just getting a phone number or some kind of contact...attention its like a drug. I got this girls digits, Weixin and interest in 3 seconds. Felt good, went home and pounded the wife, called a friend and set him up on a blind date. I used to go out and break dance every weekend and teach classes at highschools (in China) but since I got home and took up this new job its completely ****ed with my libido. The job I'm currently working at doesn't give me the outlet I need to get that social 'connection' I guess. Used to being the main attraction in China, don't like being the quiet guy, does not suit me. Don't know what the equivalent job would be for that here. I'm not the kind of guy to sit quietly in a corner with a book or in a cubicle on a computer.

I guess I'm just unhappy now with my path in life. I left a dream job to come home and take up life as the average joe.... I got a massive charge everyday at my old job... I feel totally drained after a week at the new job (and the work is ****in easy as anything). When I was in my early 20's I took this education but since then I've morphed into a social butterfly and being just some dude doesn't cut it anymore.

Make sense? Can anyone suggest a job where being social and talking to people or large groups of people is part of the job?

 

[LiveFreeX]

Thanks dude.

My mother and I are on the same page when it comes to this type of stuff. She and I both have ants in our pants. I was speaking to a few friends, might go back to mexico 6 months out of the year, buy a small house in Vallarta and start taking it easy again. My mother is down to follow us out there too. There are places in PV that go for around 30 to 50k... Also I like those suggestions, I'll look into that kind of stuff also.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Heh funny, are you implying buying an AK or are these actual pills?

 

[LiveFreeX]

Just as a side note... I put my foot down and made a hard course correction in my life towards something I actually wanted to do, took a couple days off work and setup the next adventure. Well happy to report that my sex life has come roaring back to life. My wife says I put too much pressure on myself but anyway I find it interesting how you can mentally block out your libido subconsciously.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Yes exactly.

 

[exhausted]

Yes exactly.

Give yourself some credit man, you have sacrificed to help care for your mother. What you are doing is of course difficult but find humility and respect in the fact you are very honorable. You have a very supporting wife as well, all us here would kill for that, although a very tough situation take some pressure off of yourself and remember all the good you are doing. And yes, find a night and get out of the house with the wife and have a few drinks and let loose for a bit. Recharge your batteries so to speak