WTF? put on email lists by girls who reject you.

[SoCalMike]

This has happened to me twice now.

I log into my email account, and I have a mass email sent out by a girl I asked out and who said no.

Bear in mind, I had not had contact from either of these girls in MONTHS so it's not like they had put me on her mass list way back when, before rejecting me, and I'm just now getting an email.

No, this was intentional... this was some sort of "look at me everyone" attention bullsh!t.

Stupid cvnts, I put the spam filter on their asses of course.

Why do this? Why would I dig up an email address of some girl who I never talked to anymore and didn't like in the first place?

Has anyone else experienced this crap?

Women can be incredibly stupid and vain sometimes.

 

[SharpGame]

Not from a girl I just met, but I have a similar story. Whenever my ex wife got asked to give her email address for some promotional crap she'd use her previous husband's email. Now that we're through I noticed she started doing the same thing to me. Freakin' immature b1tch! Well I decided to give her a taste of her own medicine. Little did she know I knew her email password. She never deletes anything so I went into her junk email folder which had hundreds of emails and moved them all into her inbox. Then I accepted all of them as being 'safe' so any future emails wouldn't get filtered.

 

[Paradox]

This happens to me also. I'll get a mass e-mail from a girl who I nexted.

I usually send a polite but curt e-mail asking her to remove me from her address book.

If she can't send me a regular e-mail saying "Hi" why should I get excited when she sends a mass-email to who knows how many guys.

I have found that almost all of the internet girls are AW's or wannabe players. It's very, very, very rare to find a nice woman on the net.

 

[SoCalMike]

This happens to me also. I'll get a mass e-mail from a girl who I nexted.

I usually send a polite but curt e-mail asking her to remove me from her address book.

If she can't send me a regular e-mail saying "Hi" why should I get excited when she sends a mass-email to who knows how many guys.

I have found that almost all of the internet girls are AW's or wannabe players. It's very, very, very rare to find a nice woman on the net.

Yeah, but that's slightly different, because YOU nexted them. Therefore, she may be saying "hey, remember me?" in a roundabout way... hoping maybe someday something might come of it again because she still likes you.

But how does it make sense the other way around? I asked these girls out, and THEY SAID NO. So I stopped all contact with them. All of a sudden I'm in their mass email list? WTF? When you say no to a dude, it means buzz off, leave me alone. Which I do, becuase I can handle it. So why the fvck are they coming back trying to re-establish (or maintain) contact in this way? It's so annoying.

 

[ketostix]

Well you know how it is. Women have to have all their orbiters even if the orbiters are only a product of their imagination and huge ego. This makes me wonder about the advice of nexting without a word. Your post shows that their ego doesn't allow them to interpret the silent message.

 

[SoCalMike]

Your post shows that their ego doesn't allow them to interpret the silent message.

I think you just found the answer. I definitely did give both the silent treatment. I've got too much pride to act all bummed and show it when a girl says no to me. So I just move on, without a word, and focus on other women.

Apparently these chicks are so into themselves that they think my silent treatment means they can still have me whenever they want.

Amazing!

 

[ketostix]

I think you just found the answer. I definitely did give both the silent treatment. I've got too much pride to act all bummed and show it when a girl says no to me. So I just move on, without a word, and focus on other women.

Apparently these chicks are so into themselves that they think my silent treatment means they can still have me whenever they want.

Amazing!

Yeah it is amazing. And experiencing the same thing as this is why I was so on the fence about silently nexting or not. I could see the arguments for it but I could also see the reaction to silent nexting going the other way.

 

[Paradox]

Yeah, but that's slightly different, because YOU nexted them. Therefore, she may be saying "hey, remember me?" in a roundabout way... hoping maybe someday something might come of it again because she still likes you.

But how does it make sense the other way around? I asked these girls out, and THEY SAID NO. So I stopped all contact with them. All of a sudden I'm in their mass email list? WTF? When you say no to a dude, it means buzz off, leave me alone. Which I do, because I can handle it. So why the fvck are they coming back trying to re-establish (or maintain) contact in this way? It's so annoying.

No she isn't contacting me in a roundabout way she is sending an e-mail out to a hundred guys and I am one of them. It's the same. I get mass e-mails from girls who nexted me or didn't respond to me. I just ask them to remove me from their mailing list. Also just because she sends a mass e-mail it doesn't mean she is trying to contact you.

Remember a woman will keep you around even if she plans on never EVER fuk1ng you.

 

[jophil28]

Indeed, most women will twist your "silent message" into " he must be gay" .. or, he has "issues with women"..." he has been hurt/ is bitter " .

Their infallable belief in their delusion that all men want to fuk them does not allow for your 'silent message' to be interpreted as a rejection of them - instead there must be somethimng wrong with you and you ability to pursue, please or seduce a woman.

 

[Knight's Cross]

Mike,
See the Rant thread. What you have here is a triangle player woman. By placing your name in an address bar with dozens of other guys, she is trying to get them to wonder....who are all these other guys? What place in her life do they have, etc.
Unfortunately that's what you have. I've seen this before with women that are trying to up-price themselves thru a seduction play. She's getting a 2 for one deal here: 1) she's using you to up others interests 2) she's keeping you as a backup by making you think that she's still keeping you in her e-mail list. This is poor behavior personified. Huge ego, AW, she is truly showing that she is low quality.

BLOCK HER.

KC

 

[bigjohnson]

I think you just found the answer. I definitely did give both the silent treatment. I've got too much pride to act all bummed and show it when a girl says no to me. So I just move on, without a word, and focus on other women.

When you want out the best way is to make a big deal out of it - the silent next is too close to a push-pull. My ex-wife vacillated on what "she wanted to do" for months until I got fed up and told her one day "how devastated my life would be" without her. True to form and as expected, she moved out in a few days.

When she calls (I assume to ensure I am miserable) I am sure to ham it up and never let her know how good things are without her. It's like an investment in getting her to want to do what I want her to do.

Now I've never had this level of problem with someone I've never actually dated, but maybe you are setting the hook pretty deep or something.

 

[Mr. Me]

it's not like they had put me on her mass list way back when, before rejecting me, and I'm just now getting an email...
I asked these girls out, and THEY SAID NO. So I stopped all contact with them. All of a sudden I'm in their mass email list?

How is it then they even have your email address?

 

[STR8UP]

Is it too much effort to hit the "DELETE" button?

 

[Jeffst1980]

This isn't really that big of a deal; I have girls that I've nexted on email lists for events I'm planning. I'm not really worried about offending them by doing so, because they should be mature enough to understand that disliking someone forever just because they rejected you is childish.

You are probably dealing with an AW that just wants to add names to her email address line. I've had that happen to me before. Just mark it as spam and don't think about it again. It's only slightly more annoying than CHEAP VIAGRA spam.

 

[SoCalMike]

Is it too much effort to hit the "DELETE" button?

It's not that it's trouble, it's that it's annoying and a little insulting. I never asked to be put on the email list. There was no contact for months, so that should tell any reasonable person to leave me alone.

I was trying to determine the psychology behind it, and we did on this thread (see posts regarding "silent treatment" = "he still wants me")

 

[SoCalMike]

How is it then they even have your email address?

One was a former coworker. When I left the company we exchanged a few emails. This girl was always flirty with me at work, so I asked her out. She said no, I wrote her back once after that (was polite), she never responded. I took that to mean "leave me alone" and I did. Then she puts me on a list 4 months later after no contact? F that.

The other I met online, off craigslist. We had a date set up, but she flaked and I never heard from her again. I never contacted her either. Now 3 months later I'm on the damn email list?

These AW's are so annoying and vain. "Look at me everyone" is the tone of these emails. One was about where the girl was lately for those who were wondering, I think she was traveling in South America or something. I didn't even read the other one, but it was AW crap too, from the subject line I could tell.

 

[SoCalMike]

because they should be mature enough to understand that disliking someone forever just because they rejected you is childish.

Who said anything abou disliking someone forever?

It's called common sense and manners. Everyone knows, except apparently a few people like you, that if you reject someone, you leave them alone after that and move on. You don't keep contact with them.

I have rejected people, you don't see me putting them on lists. That would be rude.

Now, if you're friends, that's different. But I don't EVER talk to these girls. We aren't friends, and we never were in the first place.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

I think you're reading too much into this.

I've had this happen. They are sending an email out to their entire address book, and they forgot you're in it. For most email applications, it automatically puts everyone who they sent at least one email to in the address book.

You can delete it, or send back a super-curt email asking who they are, like you don't remember them, if you want to have a bit of fun.

 

[decades]

I think you're reading too much into this.

I've had this happen. They are sending an email out to their entire address book, and they forgot you're in it. For most email applications, it automatically puts everyone who they sent at least one email to in the address book.

You can delete it, or send back a super-curt email asking who they are, like you don't remember them, if you want to have a bit of fun.

Nobody in their right mind sends emails to everybody in their address book. The original poster is right. It's obnoxious and a pain. Getting email you don't want is annoying and a waste of time. It's intentional and typically AW. I would send each an email telling them you want off her "list".

 

[Mr. Me]

I think it's that you were originally in their address book and eventually they did a mass mailing, so it included you, even though it was some months later. That in the interim you asked them out and they said no has no bearing on it. They probably forgot that you're even in their address book.