DVS
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Hey All -
Let me give you fair warning, I am not the best at writting and I appologize in advance for any confusion I may dispense through this. With that said, let me get to my "point" / questions.
About 3 months ago my fiance' of 9 years and I split up to my dismay. I am not one to squander and took the "It is what it is" approach. I in fact did my little mourning or whatever, but I immediatly started playing the field. The first thing I realized is, I still got it. I have no problem getting women whatsoever, a lot from the past and present came out of the woodwork as well once the word circulated I was single again. As I was playing the field, I told myself, No relationships for a bit, just fuc*ingships. Well low and behold, while out one night I am approached by a fine ass chick (9) and she asks if I remember her, I of course say "No, but should I". Anyway it turns out I have known this girl since 5th grade (14 years), and she told me she has had a thing for me since then and that most girls do/did. Of couse this in turn boosted my ego in a major way, but also helped me approach this from a "Playas" standpoint, meaning I knew she was hooked and I really did not have to put forth any effort to get the game on.
FastForward to 2 months later, and I have talked to her everyday since seeing her, I make visits pretty much every night to her house (b-Call), and she just cant seem to get enough of me, now me of her. One problem I am having is, I think I am starting to have feelings for this girl. We get along perfectly, we do nothing but laugh togethor, we have alot in common, and I cant get her off my mind. Even though I tell myself I dont want a relationship and I dont want to b exclusive, as I have told her this as well (she says she is fine with this), I seem to be falling into it anyway. What should I do?
Second problem is this, she seems to want the same thing I say I want. She does not want a relationship, or to be exclusive, she just wants to have fun, and whatever happens happens. But on the other hand she calls me everyday, she has cried over **** already, and she is all over me. I dont know if she is trying to run game and make me the one being played or what. I make it a point not to call her (i have called her once), she always calls me everyday. I never ask or tell her I am coming over, I wait for her to innitiate it. The one thing I may have done wrong is I bought her roses once (my bad). She is getting in my head and getting at me, and I just dont know what the hell is going on, and I find myself confused. I dont want to be hurt by any biotch ever again, and I think it may be to soon to jump into a relationship, and as I said, I am having feelings for her now and I cant get her off my mind. And the worst thing is, even though she knows I am seeing and doing **** with other girls and says she is fine with that, I find myself not even wanting to and when I do I feel guilty as hell and all I can do is think of her anyway. Thats got me.
At this point I am at a loss. I usually do not let em get at me like this, and I think it is too early to jump into ****. But on the other habd I have known this girl for a long time and we seem to be good for eachother. What the hell should I do, what is she doing and what is she after, and what is going on man?
Any help or advice is greatly appreciated, and thanks for making it to the end of my little rambling. Also TIA for any advice or help.
THX,
DVS
Let me give you fair warning, I am not the best at writting and I appologize in advance for any confusion I may dispense through this. With that said, let me get to my "point" / questions.
About 3 months ago my fiance' of 9 years and I split up to my dismay. I am not one to squander and took the "It is what it is" approach. I in fact did my little mourning or whatever, but I immediatly started playing the field. The first thing I realized is, I still got it. I have no problem getting women whatsoever, a lot from the past and present came out of the woodwork as well once the word circulated I was single again. As I was playing the field, I told myself, No relationships for a bit, just fuc*ingships. Well low and behold, while out one night I am approached by a fine ass chick (9) and she asks if I remember her, I of course say "No, but should I". Anyway it turns out I have known this girl since 5th grade (14 years), and she told me she has had a thing for me since then and that most girls do/did. Of couse this in turn boosted my ego in a major way, but also helped me approach this from a "Playas" standpoint, meaning I knew she was hooked and I really did not have to put forth any effort to get the game on.
FastForward to 2 months later, and I have talked to her everyday since seeing her, I make visits pretty much every night to her house (b-Call), and she just cant seem to get enough of me, now me of her. One problem I am having is, I think I am starting to have feelings for this girl. We get along perfectly, we do nothing but laugh togethor, we have alot in common, and I cant get her off my mind. Even though I tell myself I dont want a relationship and I dont want to b exclusive, as I have told her this as well (she says she is fine with this), I seem to be falling into it anyway. What should I do?
Second problem is this, she seems to want the same thing I say I want. She does not want a relationship, or to be exclusive, she just wants to have fun, and whatever happens happens. But on the other hand she calls me everyday, she has cried over **** already, and she is all over me. I dont know if she is trying to run game and make me the one being played or what. I make it a point not to call her (i have called her once), she always calls me everyday. I never ask or tell her I am coming over, I wait for her to innitiate it. The one thing I may have done wrong is I bought her roses once (my bad). She is getting in my head and getting at me, and I just dont know what the hell is going on, and I find myself confused. I dont want to be hurt by any biotch ever again, and I think it may be to soon to jump into a relationship, and as I said, I am having feelings for her now and I cant get her off my mind. And the worst thing is, even though she knows I am seeing and doing **** with other girls and says she is fine with that, I find myself not even wanting to and when I do I feel guilty as hell and all I can do is think of her anyway. Thats got me.
At this point I am at a loss. I usually do not let em get at me like this, and I think it is too early to jump into ****. But on the other habd I have known this girl for a long time and we seem to be good for eachother. What the hell should I do, what is she doing and what is she after, and what is going on man?
Any help or advice is greatly appreciated, and thanks for making it to the end of my little rambling. Also TIA for any advice or help.
THX,
DVS
