WTF!? I'm too arrogant!

[syncmaster]

Ok; this is pissing me off. Ive been told 3 times now in the past week that i'm way to arrogant. I'm not fvcking arrogant i just know what I want and don't hide it.
My ex said that when we first got together as well and then 3 times this week.

Normally if someone says "you look desperate" it's probably tack on... but arrogance. Gimme a break.

 

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Remember..It's not arrogance if you can back it up with skill :woo:

 

[BLUEox117]

id rather be arrogant than wussy anyday, keep on living.

 

[Man Of Adventure]

Ive had that same deal. Lots of girls used to call me ****in arrogant. I was tryin to use the whole c&f deal and I came off way too ****y. You know all those ugly ****ers that get those hot babes use it, why cant we? I dunno really...I lightened it up though actually to the point where im a little goofy to girls, and they eat it up really well. They enjoy me around a lot more. My girlfriend loves it too...maybe because I think shes kind of a dork herself

Like I said, I cant really explain it man. Physical attractiveness could be a big issue. If youre known to be physically attractive (which Ive been called cute and talked about by girls plenty of times with their girly giggles and bull****. Its no wonder why I dont go get more girls but I have a great girlfriend so that doesnt really matter right now.) Yeah...well if youre known to be physically attractive could you see it a problem if you say something sort of ****y? It may be funny too in your eyes...but maybe not in theirs. Somthing about a ****y statement out of an attractive male...... Youll probably be called an ******* by many like I was. Course I even called a girl an easy bake oven cuz she pissed me off that much. (I thought it was funny at the time....so did my friends.) Yeah, girls were still attracted...but they couldnt stand me around them. Im like "That doesnt ****in make sense"...but thats how it was.

Ive seen your picture man, and youre not that acne infested Mac Donalds worker off the Simpsons. I can only guess girls probably see you physically attractive if youre getting the same speel. So why not just go for more laughs instead of going for borderline ****y funny statements. Be a little goofy if its in your nature, even a little weird...you may get much better moods and reactions like I did. I havent had any problems. Try it man.

 

[Stag]

Originally posted by syncmaster
Ok; this is pissing me off. Ive been told 3 times now in the past week that i'm way to arrogant. I'm not fvcking arrogant i just know what I want and don't hide it.
My ex said that when we first got together as well and then 3 times this week.

Normally if someone says "you look desperate" it's probably tack on... but arrogance. Gimme a break.

They are telling you exactly what to do to seduce them and you in turn are bathing in your own pool of denial. If people tell you that you are arrogant take it as a sign that you must fix something. It will really pay you more to be nice and laid back, try it for 2-3 weeks and report back the results. Im sure u will be happy with them.

 

[frivolousz21]

arrogence = jerk and loser.

you want to be confident with a spark of ****iness..or thats how I see it best

 

[Royal Elite]

Basically it means everything good you think about yourself probably is true, just keep it too yourself!

Your thoughts are your thoughts, if it's true you don't have to ever mention it aloud, unless asked. Once asked you have the right to voice it, but until then just keep it too yourself!

 

[avrilishot]

dude just dont listen to them thats bull****.

 

[Egoist]

lets put it this way, its much easier for an arrogant bastard to get laid than for a nice sweet sensitive dude.

women just hate the fact that arrogance and confidence secretly makes them want you more.

 

[Aaron B]

every time I have been called arrogant she has had a huge smile on her face

 

[Good_Vibes]

Not being ****ey or anything but I am fairly good looking. I have come to relize I need to be more careful a round different types of girls. Girls that are full of themselves I am C&F around and others that I feel would think I am arrogant I just bust on lightly and take it a little easier.

You can also try with girls that you think will think you are too ****ey, just hinting to them only one time that you are joking. The girls still seam to respond to the C&F, but doesn't think you are an ass. For example when I get the "You are so full of yourself."(And they are serious and starting to think I am an ass) I go "Come on I am just joking around trying to have a good time, why do you have to be a party pooper?" It seams to work good but I only use it once per girl, because otherwise C&F loses it's value.

 

[JaguarMike]

I have been called arrogant more times than probably anyone on this board (unfortuantely this is probably true). I HAVE FOUND that if I am being myself totally and relaxed and chill (cant stress the chill enough) people are much more open, and girls will actually approach me with sparkles in their eyes.

However, I have had a spur of antagnism in the past 2 years (one of the reasons why I searched for this website), and have an attitude that is on par with Errol from Snatch the movie.... plus the people I work for add to this whole effect (not criminal, but antagonism/hostility is pretty prevelant). Not to mention I own a Jaguar Stype, and concider myself pretty good looking if i'm not overweight (my weight changes all the time, 10 pounds over, 5 pounds over, normal, 5 pounds under, you get the drift) this is bad in that it scares/puts off a lot of people, but i'm not trying to do that... it is just what happens when I am dealing with so much garbage and my defenses go up.

****y and funny works if you are humble in the first place. If you are confident naturally and try to be ****y and funny a lot of people will judge you wrongly based upon the assumption that because you are confident you are a threat.

I find that music can sum a lot of what I am talking about. The ****y/antagonstic attitude I have shown and you show can be summed up in the feeling of: Moby-Oil 1 (think the saint movie when the russian mob is listening to this right before they try to kill val kilmer) Or Three Six Mafia- M.E.M.P.H.I.S (remix) This song is about drug dealers and how they are on top of everything and no one can touch them, they mean business etc.

This is not what you want to be like. When you have weakness it feels great to indulge in this "F The World" attitude but trust me, its NO GOOD LONG TERM. Try to be more subtle if you have a big ego... maybe like 50 cent-Ski Mask way, or Jim Jones- Summer with Miami

I'm not a huge fan of rap, but I feel they have the biggest struggle because most rappers have come from nothing, have a lot of pain, and are going from pain to success... so these feelings of arrogance and ****iness are HUGE. Download these songs as a form of study.

You can take this harsh criticism from others in two ways as I see it. You can take the Himmler route of "F them, I will crush them, i'm better than them, they can't touch me." But really analyze how you feel when you do that. You're not really on top are you. The second route is to aknowledge and take responsibility for making a certain reaction in people. This yields much more power. Relax a bit, and be more humble. Speak softly and carry a big stick you know. Do not be covert, but do not be overt in your actions. Have subtle confidence. Just rememeber, there will ALWAYS be people that think you don't deserve confidence because you didn't "pay your dues" or don't "give in to the group." This is especially big in high school, and I hear the "pay your dues" nonsense is big in the work place. It all boils down to this... do you want to be the executive, or the worker.

Don't let workers put you down out of their own anger.

Don't let executives think of you as competition that they need to get rid of.

Good luck, DO NOT keep your head up. KEEP IT HIGH UP, YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE, MAKE THE BEST OF YOURSELF. SMILE, and ENDURE.