Okay I've been thinking about it and must confess ur right that I had some experience to my advantage. I have slept with 18 women in my life, some babes and some stinkers.
But the fact remains that at the point I found this site, I was in the same state of mind as any other self-proclaimed-no-hoper. Unable to approach women. Unable to smile or make eye contact. Convinced that my personality was unattractive to the opposite sex. TERRIFIED of rejection, and dwelling on it if it happened. My experience was absolutely no help here and I was as much an AFC as anyone.
The only difference is that I went "Fuk it!" and decided to stop sitting on my ass letting the world go by.
What can I say to convince you guys? You can go out this weekend and have as good a weekend as I just did! Why should interacting with a woman be an imaginary concept? If you've been on this site for 4 years you're MUCH better equipped to deal with women than most guys. Most guys score with chicks just because they
try, even though they don't really understand why one thing works and another doesn't. You have the upper hand my friends you just have to use it.
Originally posted by krd
Much of my failure with women has to do, not with acting like an AFC, but with being too scared to act at all.
That's exactly what I'm talking about. Get off your asses and change your life. Don't you realise you're making excuses? You could be doing that until you're 80.... Then you'll look back and think "damn I wish I'd stopped making excuses when I was a kid and actually TRIED to score with a chick, now it's too late".
I'm still having difficulty making eye contact in the street, and smiling, and talking. Even after my weekend. But when I do bring myself to do it I
always feel a little better about myself after. Even if I get no response (or a negative response) I still feel good cuz I'm proud of myself for trying. Sometimes I pretend it's my job, and my employer is watching. I have no choice but to do it or I get the sack. Stop making a choice to do
nothing. Remember,
the reward of sex is MUCH greater than the risk of rejection! Think I just got a new signature
Thanks for the feedback on my situation guys. Yet more sound advice from all. I reckon I was jumping from DJ to AFC and back the whole time I was talking to her.. old habits die hard i guess. I'm worried that she just thinks I didn't have the balls to kiss her. She still hasn't texted or called so I reckon I blew... i mean
she blew it
Either way it's very likely I will see her this weekend so
maybe I'll give her a chance to redeem herself!
Incidentally, Emma (the 4 year ex) is coming up on Friday to go to the club with me - as a friend. I'm so over her now thanks to my new mentality. I'm gna use her as bait to lure other jealous chicks
