wow...so what do I do now?

[Jaun_Don]

Just got this text from the 21 year old I went to the movies with on Friday Night...(see post Is she Just an AW?)

"I feel very wierd that you like me and it is hard 4 me 2 hang out with you knowing this.

You are a really cool guy but it is weird"

I haven't told her I liked her, I guess I showed it by being me...but this isn't a good message though right?...I don't really want a Woman to feel wierd about me, but at least she is admitting how she feels, any advice on what I should do?

 

[Wyldfire]

Sounds like she views you as a friend and has just figured out that you're interested in more than that.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Originally posted by 007~JC
What do you do now? Are you kidding? Dude you don't even need a hint. She doesn't like you! Go find a ton of new girls.

-007

^

 

[Johnnie5]

she isnt interested in you in the same way ,

whats your options ?

dont see her again ?

use it for practice and help with pulling chicks

you need a comeback sms you feel weird ? i like all my friends , i think you are a great friend and i bet you have some hot friends you can hook me up with

hang out , learn how the female mind works, practice game , clothing advice etc

if you hang out then you are friends and friends pay their own way

 

[arutha]

Hmm that seems strange to me.. I was in the same situation and the girl just said keep being friends, nothing will be weird, and it wasn't..

Don't respond, just act like it didn't happen, and as the others said find other girls.

 

[Jaun_Don]

...yeah I guess but it doesn't explain the sitting really close to me at the movies, holding hands, me moving away when she was sitting too close and her getting closer now does it?.

I almost kissed her on Fri night but the BF thing stopped me...if she doesn't like me then she did a great job as an AW and I am movin on anyways, she was good practice and I appreciated her honesty.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Sounds like she views you as a friend and has just figured out that you're interested in more than that.

best reply and from a Woman too, so please tell Wyldfire...what should I do?

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
best reply and from a Woman too, so please tell Wyldfire...what should I do?

You said she already has a boyfriend, right?

My advice would be to not waste your time on girls who aren't available. It's the same thing I just told Dreamy Chick yesterday...go find someone who is available.

Even if this girl is attracted to you...she has a boyfriend. Even if she does leave him for you, she'll still be torn between two guys and that will just end up causing you the same kind of grief you just dealt with over your roommate. (That was you, right?)

And honestly...do you really want some chick who would probably cheat on you just as she would cheat with you? This doesn't seem like a very high quality girl to me.

You should move on...

 

[Jaun_Don]

..and it shall be done thank you very much Wydlfire...

Yeah, it was me with the room mate and I wish she would just leave I can't truly move on until she is out of my life, I think she just stays and doesn't bother to move is out of spite...no matter I have nothing to do with her and hardly ever talk to her..and the reason is I don't have anything to say to her, we aren't friends., I can't be friends with a game playing, pretentious (life is all about drugs and money and climbing social ladders) *****.

 

[pulp_fiction]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
Just got this text from the 21 year old I went to the movies with on Friday Night...(see post Is she Just an AW?)

"I feel very wierd that you like me and it is hard 4 me 2 hang out with you knowing this.

You are a really cool guy but it is weird"

I haven't told her I liked her, I guess I showed it by being me...but this isn't a good message though right?...I don't really want a Woman to feel wierd about me, but at least she is admitting how she feels, any advice on what I should do?

She's not interested. If she was, she'd be elated that you liked her and not weirded out. Drop her. Maybe the lack of interest will make her like you back. If not, screw her.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Re: Re: wow...so what do I do now?

Originally posted by pulp_fiction
She's not interested. If she was, she'd be elated that you liked her and not weirded out. Drop her. Maybe the lack of interest will make her like you back. If not, screw her.

so explain the holding hands and getting close stuff and why did she take the phone in her bedroom when her BF called while I was there?.

 

[pulp_fiction]

Re: Re: Re: wow...so what do I do now?

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
so explain the holding hands and getting close stuff and why did she take the phone in her bedroom when her BF called while I was there?.

Didnt read that stuff.

Honestly, the hand holding and getting close stuff could have been her just trying to get you to want her. And now that she's sufficiently satisfied that you do, her whole attitude about it has changed. Probably an attention *****.

Taking the phone in the bedroom just means she doesnt want her bf knowing she's with another guy. No big deal.

 

[Jaun_Don]

I had a chat with her on MSN and she told me that she knew that I liked her because a friend told her that I did...I didn't even know she did, I did tell her I dig her style but that's not telling a girl that you like her is it? anyway she told me that she doesn't view me that way.

Anyways the thing that confuses me, is if she knew that I liked her and it made her feel uncomfortable or wierd then WHY did she go out with me a few times and flirt with me?.

AW to the max, I told her not to contact me anymore and that she needs to grow up and be more honest.

 

[V0rt3x]

load of bs.

she likes you but shes is like hurt by someone and isnt ready for advancment. cool her down. like i always say it all body language: how was she looking at you? if it was sad then im right 100%

 

[tmpgstx]

Juan, how old is the girl? Is there anything else that happened, maybe her boyfriend told her he would leave her if she went with you again? You said she does drugs?

 

[tmpgstx]

V0rt3x, i think your spot on with the sad look. Why would she be sad, confused and feeling guilty maybe?

 

[SlaterT]

she sounds frigid

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by tmpgstx
Juan, how old is the girl? Is there anything else that happened, maybe her boyfriend told her he would leave her if she went with you again? You said she does drugs?

she is 21...I don't think she would have told me how she felt if she didn't like me...no matter I won't be contacting her again...dating is a numbers game I know this, you win some, you lose some such is life.

thanks for all of the advice though, oh lastly would it put a new perspective on things if I told you that she used to be quite overwieght? and showed me photos?...oh and she also told me that I tried to kiss her, I did but only on the cheek...meh...not even worth thinking about it.

The one that does drugs is the AW, ****ed in the head MOVE OUT already room mate.

 

[tmpgstx]

Did she hear from your friend that you liked her before going out with you or after? You went out with her a few times.

Have you met her BF? Would you consider yourself a better catch than he is - looking at it objectively?

When you say she flirted with you, how do you mean other than holding hands and getting close?

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by tmpgstx
Did she hear from your friend that you liked her before going out with you or after? You went out with her a few times.

Have you met her BF? Would you consider yourself a better catch than he is - looking at it objectively?

When you say she flirted with you, how do you mean other than holding hands and getting close?

she heard from the friend (a girl) before she went out with me, yep I have met the BF he is a dweeb and she ignored him in a bar a few weeks ago to talk to me and even ask me if we were going to the movies and I said no and she goes oh why not and i pointed at her BF and she goes were friends...

She flirted with me by sitting really close shoulder to shoulder at the movies and generally acting very couplish with me, and tellling me lots youre funny and laughing at everything I was saying and playing with her like crazy.

Does that help...

so is it best to not contact her again?.