Ok guys....I thought I had my **** together again, but now Im second guessing myself, and looking for some advice.....
To cut a lot of crap: I went out with a girl long distance for close to 2 years...saw each other like every 2 months, and had a seriously great relationship, loved her family blah blah. I end up moving closer to her for Uni, and a month later **** hits the fan. I was pretty messed up by it.
I know that at the time, I wasn’t sure of myself, I was in a new city, away from my friends, and was clinging to her, looking to her for direction, and blowing off my commitments for her-- Im pretty sure my behavior had a fair bit to do with why it ended.
I cut all contact from her as soon as i walked away from the "breakup talk" we had.
Fast forward 3 months. Still no contact. I’m all right, going to the gym a lot, getting fit, going out, and generally getting into the dj game again. But to put it simply she's still all up in my head.
Today I get this email from her
"Hey…haven’t talked in a really long time…like I’m not sure if you never wanted to hear from me again but I thought I’d see how things were going for you anyway lol…it’s kindof weird not having u around at all anymore and I do miss you and it would be nice to try and maybe work on building a friendship between us… I just thought I’d see if it was something you wanted to try too…
Anyway, hope things are really good for you…
------<>"
Now I don’t know how to reply—-at this point, I’d consider being her lover again, but sure as hell won’t settle for being another one of her many guy friends and sitting by as someone else is ****ing her. A point I think I’d only be at if I was 100% satisfied with my life, my time, and who Im spending it with.
So my question is this: any good advice on how to handle things here? How to articulate myself without coming across as a babbling wuss, bearing in mind this is a girl who I hold a lot of respect for?
Cheers
To cut a lot of crap: I went out with a girl long distance for close to 2 years...saw each other like every 2 months, and had a seriously great relationship, loved her family blah blah. I end up moving closer to her for Uni, and a month later **** hits the fan. I was pretty messed up by it.
I know that at the time, I wasn’t sure of myself, I was in a new city, away from my friends, and was clinging to her, looking to her for direction, and blowing off my commitments for her-- Im pretty sure my behavior had a fair bit to do with why it ended.
I cut all contact from her as soon as i walked away from the "breakup talk" we had.
Fast forward 3 months. Still no contact. I’m all right, going to the gym a lot, getting fit, going out, and generally getting into the dj game again. But to put it simply she's still all up in my head.
Today I get this email from her
"Hey…haven’t talked in a really long time…like I’m not sure if you never wanted to hear from me again but I thought I’d see how things were going for you anyway lol…it’s kindof weird not having u around at all anymore and I do miss you and it would be nice to try and maybe work on building a friendship between us… I just thought I’d see if it was something you wanted to try too…
Anyway, hope things are really good for you…
------<>"
Now I don’t know how to reply—-at this point, I’d consider being her lover again, but sure as hell won’t settle for being another one of her many guy friends and sitting by as someone else is ****ing her. A point I think I’d only be at if I was 100% satisfied with my life, my time, and who Im spending it with.
So my question is this: any good advice on how to handle things here? How to articulate myself without coming across as a babbling wuss, bearing in mind this is a girl who I hold a lot of respect for?
Cheers