wow.. how rude.

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so yesterday at around 1:00 pm i was out strolling the mall when this girl at a coffee shop.. we get EC, and I could somewhat tell she was interested.

When I sat down beside her, (different table beside her's) she stood up and left.. that's so rude.

a couple of people saw me and it was like the worst rejection i got.. i never even got to say a word. o well..

that really sucked.. it's really embarassing.

 

[PeeGee]

Did you act shocked or something? Unless your body language showed that you were trying to get her attention by sitting there, or whatever, I would think that you should've acted as if nothing was out of the ordinary. If she decides to leave because of whatever personal reasons, then move on.

 

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Originally posted by PeeGee
Did you act shocked or something? Unless your body language showed that you were trying to get her attention by sitting there, or whatever, I would think that you should've acted as if nothing was out of the ordinary. If she decides to leave because of whatever personal reasons, then move on.

No.. It's just that the same time I was sitting down, she automatically stood up at the same time. I was offended, and I looked around and saw some people looking at me..

They thought I was some kind of.. guy trying to pick a girl up.

I figured she was probably waiting for her b/f or something though. IDK..

 

[c-note]

If they thought your were some guy trying to pick up a girl, they they were right. What's wrong with that?

 

[VictorK]

Originally posted by -.-
I could somewhat tell she was interested.....

When I sat down beside her, (different table beside her's) she stood up and left.. that's so rude.

These 2 statements contradict eachother. Either she got up because she wasnt interested or she is too shy.

 

[MindOverMatter]

You have to make it look natural man. Just sitting down next to a girl w/o any warning can be too forward and creep her out.

Next time do it properly:

1.) Go up to her and ask her if the seat is taken.
2.) Sit down, smile, give her EC, ask her for her name, and then ask her open ended questions about herself and find out everything you can about her. Is she from around there, what school she goes to / went to, where she works, what her ambition in life is, etc. Make her comfortable, establish rapport. Throw in a "me too" or "I feel the EXACT same way" every once in a while.
3.) Make her comfortable, # close.

 

[david90]

If I were u, I would of acknowdged everyone around me with a smile to show that i'm not all shaken up.

It's surviving experiences like this that make a true DJ .

 

[JJMcLure]

Originally posted by -.-

They thought I was some kind of.. guy trying to pick a girl up.

What did you want them to think? That you were a gay guy who just wanted to eat his donut next to a hot chick?

The fact you think this is an embarrassing activity to be caught in suggests you're not 100% conmfortable with doing it. That will come across to the chick and spoil your chances.

You need to work on overcoming this. There's nothing wrong with approaching chicks or talking to them.

 

[flexion_]

I don't really see anything rude here. Someone you have never spoken to at a table beside you got up and left?

Sorry but if it bothered you then you never had a chance with her in the first place. Your game needs some work if things like that would affect you. Maybe you mistook her initial eye contact or maybe she just had to take a pee. Either way she obviously wasn't interested so move on.

I applaud you for making the attempt though - thats what its all about...

 

[Aresx]

fact is, you don't even know for sure whether she left because of you.

and as Shark says... "are you afraid of people finding out that you F.UCK CHICKS... do you NOT want people to know that you F.UCK HOT CHICKS?"

i'm sure the other guys around there were probably wishing they could have approached her, and if in fact she DID reject you, and it wasn't a coincidence... props. you did more than the rest of the guys walking by. you're the one that will eventually find a hot chick who's into you, while they make up excuses not to approach her.

you could have just laughed and said "bye" or something. play it off. or look at the people around you and shake your head, as if to say "damn man, did you see that s.hit?"

 

[Dee-Zy]

Originally posted by Aresx
fact is, you don't even know for sure whether she left because of you.

and as Shark says... "are you afraid of people finding out that you F.UCK CHICKS... do you NOT want people to know that you F.UCK HOT CHICKS?"

i'm sure the other guys around there were probably wishing they could have approached her, and if in fact she DID reject you, and it wasn't a coincidence... props. you did more than the rest of the guys walking by. you're the one that will eventually find a hot chick who's into you, while they make up excuses not to approach her.

you could have just laughed and said "bye" or something. play it off. or look at the people around you and shake your head, as if to say "damn man, did you see that s.hit?"

Wow, alot of great constructive criticism.

I like that "Damn man, did you see that sh!t?"



First I want to give you props for DOING something, and THEN come in here and discuss. Maybe that's why there are constructive criticism here, because ppl are not just talking about theory and textbook talk.


Second, what happened exactly? I'm not sure I got this. You locked eyes with this chick, sat down ... not beside her but at a table beside her's?

How far were the tables between each other? Were you locking eyes WHILE you were sitting down?

I don't know, the way I see it. She probably didn't even know that you were trying to hit on her ... and coincidently she had to leave. Did you lock eyes or did you just have EC? Cuz EC doesn't mean much. Infact, it means little to nothing. Especially initially.

And about other people seeing you. Who cares? You will never see these people again, and if they are staring - it's their problem. YOU had the balls to do it, YOU DID something. They didn't. THEY are the losers.

Furthermore, you shouldn't have to justify yourself like that. Go read Pook's "be a man". Just to refresh your memory.

You should not have to justify your actions to ANYBODY.

You don't apologize for your desires.


and so, on this note - congratulation for your actions.

 

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Originally posted by Dee-Zy
Wow, alot of great constructive criticism.

I like that "Damn man, did you see that sh!t?"



First I want to give you props for DOING something, and THEN come in here and discuss. Maybe that's why there are constructive criticism here, because ppl are not just talking about theory and textbook talk.


Second, what happened exactly? I'm not sure I got this. You locked eyes with this chick, sat down ... not beside her but at a table beside her's?

How far were the tables between each other? Were you locking eyes WHILE you were sitting down?

I don't know, the way I see it. She probably didn't even know that you were trying to hit on her ... and coincidently she had to leave. Did you lock eyes or did you just have EC? Cuz EC doesn't mean much. Infact, it means little to nothing. Especially initially.

And about other people seeing you. Who cares? You will never see these people again, and if they are staring - it's their problem. YOU had the balls to do it, YOU DID something. They didn't. THEY are the losers.

Furthermore, you shouldn't have to justify yourself like that. Go read Pook's "be a man". Just to refresh your memory.

You should not have to justify your actions to ANYBODY.

You don't apologize for your desires.


and so, on this note - congratulation for your actions.

Thanks.. Anyway yea the 2 tables are really close together, like almost as if we were seated together. I took it as she was interested because she did look at me 3 times in a row.. as in like triple take.

i could somewhat tell she was attracted, but she was also using her mobile phone to text someone, so i guess she was waiting for her b/f or something and didnt wanna get caught.. i dont know.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

the difference between someone with a positive mindframe and a negative one is the way you evaluate your outcome. How do you know this was a rejection? have you ever seen the holy grail of girl films "16 Candles" where the gurl is in luv with this guy but leaves when he comes so she doesn't make a mistake? It is popular because a lot of gurls do this inadvertantly. Anywho if it was a rejection, you had people areound watching you... and you are still alive! This is not the worse thing that could happen but it is in that kinda scenario so get up get out and get some more experience!

 

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Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
the difference between someone with a positive mindframe and a negative one is the way you evaluate your outcome. How do you know this was a rejection? have you ever seen the holy grail of girl films "16 Candles" where the gurl is in luv with this guy but leaves when he comes so she doesn't make a mistake? It is popular because a lot of gurls do this inadvertantly. Anywho if it was a rejection, you had people areound watching you... and you are still alive! This is not the worse thing that could happen but it is in that kinda scenario so get up get out and get some more experience!

thanks for helping me realize that it was a good thing rather than a bad one.

i guess i do need to experience more. i'm up and out again.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

There are no Nice-Girls just quiet girls.