Wow... her Ex is ****ed up.

[Squidward]

Ok so I posted here a while on a particular problem, and here is the thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154820

Ok, to the point... this dude is STILL upset over being dumped by my current girl (this happend 4 months ago for **** sake), and started abusing her through E-Mail. To top this off, this had some girl at my college spy on us and have her fill him in on us. I've been told this guy is possisive and gets jealous, typical AFC. Though I'm really losing my patience, I can't believe this dude hasn't moved on. Worst yet, why doesn't the G/F cut all contact with him? Assume its some sort of ego-boost, but I can't be bothered with this drama and she said she can't be either, even though there is still means of contact between them that says other wise.

If this **** accures again, I need to put my foot down. Deffiently. Has anybody else ever been in a situation like this before?

Thanks.

By the way, Other inccidents (reference to the thread link up there) I've just been cool and indifferent about it, bad move...?

 

[Juan_Man]

It seems like the guy can't let go. You shouldn't make an issue out of it. I doubt your girl will go back to a guy who behaves like this. If she does, well, you are not going to be losing much. Just enjoy the ride but don't expect too much.

 

[KontrollerX]

This is why I constantly tell you guys not to go after another man's woman.

I don't care if she's exhibiting interest towards you.

Chicks that cheat on their boyfriend to be with you or just meet you and then decide to break up with their boyfriend for you are bad news as they always come loaded with drama like this and they love every minute of it.

What you should do is next her and find a girl thats not in a relationship to get with but you won't so I'll just tell you the correct action for you to take now.

You tell her she cuts the guy off or you walk.

She makes some bullsh!t excuse saying he calls her and she has no control blah blah blah you don't want to hear it.

She could call the cops, change her number, change her email address, get a restraining order, hang up her phone immediately, etc as basically there are plenty of things she can do to get this guy out of her life.

In short she has no excuse other than enjoying his attention or secretly wanting to get back with him to allow him to talk to her like this.

So yeah don't focus on controlling her with putting your foot down rather tell her you are going to control yourself and walk right out of her life and stay out of her life if she doesn't get rid of this guy in so and so time frame that you set up.

And stick to your word to do not get back with her if she does not agree to what you'll propose that she do or she stalls and does it after your time line has expired for her to do it in.

You may lose a girl over going hard line with this but you know what you'll also lose a pile of needless drama and bullsh!t.

And if you stick to your word and don't let her sweet talk you back into her life she will respect you.

If you let her get away with stalling on your demand and getting rid of the guy much later she'll look at you as a weak b!tch and consider you as that deep down even if she acts good to you.

So make your demand and find out who means more to her you or this guy.

 

[darkstarrr]

Chicks that cheat on their boyfriend to be with you or just meet you and then decide to break up with their boyfriend for you are bad news as they always come loaded with drama like this and they love every minute of it.

If you let her get away with stalling on your demand and getting rid of the guy much later she'll look at you as a weak b!tch and consider you as that deep down even if she acts good to you.

So make your demand and find out who means more to her you or this guy.

Not much left to say here dude. You may think you are in "control" now but if you stick with her and let this sh1t continue on like it is, you very well could be the next chump calling and calling her after she falls onto another c0ck.

How fvcked up would that be in a year's time to look back and have compassion for this guy you speak of now that she probably screwed over?

Oh and one more thing. Ironically enough she is probably the more fvcked up of the 2 (in repsonse to the title of your thread).


Good luck!