Wow. Had a girl to over to my place and...

[zinc4]

Don't make excuses, you are not as smooth as you think you are. Sounds to me like she wasn't into you at all. Infact this sounds more like she wanted to get the hell out of there ASAP.

Why do you guys always use this retarded "watch a movie" line? I know a lot of girls that would head over to your place to literally WATCH A MOVIE. You should be clear on your intentions... half way back to your place you should be on the topic of bjs and positions and stuff. Watch a movie..... fvck. That is creepy as fvck...

Might as well be offering FREE CANDY from a van down by the river.

I make my intentions quite clear with the missus, she knows that after grabbing her ass and bending her over the grocery trolley, grasping her thighs and hitting her hard on the butt that she is gonna get pounded at home... if that doesn't clue her in, I usually tell her "I'm gonna l1ck ur pvssy and fvck you for a whole 5 MINUTES when we get home ". Don't be the weird mixed signals guy, just go for it.

The first date I was ever on with my wife, I put all my sh1t down that I was carrying, grabbed her in the middle of the park and kissed her hard. Resulted in a deer in the headlights look, a slap to my face and a "I thought we were just friends!!!". She was pretty surprised and a little angry but at least she was clear on my intentions. Women eat this sh1t up with a spoon man. My wife is a little dense though and she was a virgin.. I've used this a couple times now and each time was met with success, previous times were a bit better. One woman outright refused to kiss me and the whole date went awkward afterwards BUT not long after she was blowing up my phone and posting messages for me to come and visit her all over my facebook.

If she is into you the movie line won't fail unless she is very traditional...they know what's up when you invite them for a movie and they know you expect sex...so what's the point of telling her what i am going to do to her? I just get her there and do it....

Also this chick laid on his bed next to him...if she wasn't into him she would have opted for the chair trust me..i have had it go both ways......a girl lays next to you on your bed you better friggin do something because regardless of what she is saying she wants it....

 

[plate's_empty]

I've had similar situations. The problem here was, she was not giving you an opening...she didn't turn in your bed, face you, look you in the eyes and all but invite you in for the kiss.

You set it up, getting her in your bed and laying down. She didn't follow through.....some girls don't, she was waiting on you.

So what to do?

Next time this happens, turn on your side and start playing with her hair, a light carress on the cheeks and the ears. Your goal is to make her turn and face you. If she still doesn't turn, step it up a notch and start giving her light kisses on her neck and her ears....

and so on...

That's a way to start it out....the rest you should be able to figure out.

 

[writhe666]

you should of left her in the bed walked around the room moving things/making yourself a drink whatever just strut around.

*wtf is he doing?*

her:when does this show end?

"**** the show" grab her phone toss it to the pillow grab her by the sides and drag her up a little higher were your face meets your and suck face.

horribly rejected?

you didn't get poon either way so it wouldn't have mattered ahaha

 

[writhe666]

plate's idea is cool too, but it seems to work with girls that are really into you, my opinion is she was testing what you were about..but i don't know the girl that's my opinion

 

[.Paradox.]

So how should I attempt to re-initiate?

 

[Korrupt]

So how should I attempt to re-initiate?

Just do what I said. If she's interested she'll give you a second chance.

You could, however, wait a few days and try to get her over again. I'd recommend Sunday, Tuesday, or Wednesday since these are the days most people aren't going out with friends. You can be direct and just tell her to come over (i.e. "Hey. You should come over tonight/we should chill tonight/etc."). You could also attempt to lure her in:

You: Hey
Her: Hey
You: What's your favorite drink? (or however you want to phrase it)
Her: Red wine
You: Red wine at my place tonight. Be here at 9pm. (or however you want to phrase it)

 

[VladPatton]

Several factors occurred here which lead to the result of "not feeling the vibe" anymore. This whole thing of hooking a strange girl on the net and telling her to come over to watch a movie is a cryptic code on top of not knowing who you're dealing with, on top of unsure expectations. Basically, shıt's unnatural, man.

The classic way of going out and seeing who you're trying to hook up with, for me, is the best approach. Yes, it requires a bit of patience, which I'd rather exercise instead of going through some weird ass vibe with some weird ass strange chick. But hey, whatever blows your hair back.

In regards to what happened, I understand you 100%, and if the vibe isn't there, kick her the hell outta your house and chalk it up as a good try.

 

[.Paradox.]

Well, I texted her about an hour ago saying "hey." No response yet and I have a feeling I'm not getting one...

 

[SirFratserlot]

lol prepare for oneitis

 

[Korrupt]

Well, I texted her about an hour ago saying "hey." No response yet and I have a feeling I'm not getting one...

She most likely isn't gong to give you another chance for whatever reason. Follow it up with a text on Wednesday inviting her out or over (e.g. "Hey *name*, we should chill and have drinks tonight. What do you like to drink?"), then delete her number.

 

[.Paradox.]

She never responded to my text, but I talked to her on Facebook.

ME: Hey *name*. Question... What's your favorite drink?

HER: drink? alcoholic?

ME: yeah

HER: I don't really drink that much

ME: Come on... Everyone has a go-to for when they go out. You ever tried a grateful dead?

HER: why are you asking

ME: I was gonna say we should have drinks sometime next week

HER: ohhh

ME: Plus you haven't lived till you've had a (good) grateful dead. It's like getting tipsy on Heaven

HER: lol I'll check it out

ME: So you down to have drinks?

HER: umm idk! I'll let you know

ME: Haha I won't be offended if you say you're not interested, hun. You can be straight up

No response to that last line.

 

[BeDJ]

(speechless)

 

[Korrupt]

She never responded to my text, but I talked to her on Facebook.

ME: Hey *name*. Question... What's your favorite drink?

HER: drink? alcoholic?

ME: yeah

HER: I don't really drink that much

ME: Come on... Everyone has a go-to for when they go out. You ever tried a grateful dead?

HER: why are you asking

ME: I was gonna say we should have drinks sometime next week

HER: ohhh

ME: Plus you haven't lived till you've had a (good) grateful dead. It's like getting tipsy on Heaven

HER: lol I'll check it out

ME: So you down to have drinks?

HER: umm idk! I'll let you know

ME: Haha I won't be offended if you say you're not interested, hun. You can be straight up

No response to that last line.

She's bulsh!tting, savoring the power you've given her, and is planning to lead you on. You SHOULD just delete her number, but if you want to hit her up again wait at least a week.

She's doing this not because she is or isn't interested, but because you bruised her ego and she feels the need to "get back at you" (so to speak) in order to restore her damaged self-esteem/ego. If she just didn't care at all she would have been honest and said no after that last message (or completely ignored you), and if she was interested in going out she most likely would have asked which day you were thinking.

See what happens when you don't pull the trigger? You get "fun" and "games."

 

[Pimp-sicle]

If she just didn't care at all she would have been honest and said no after that last message (or completely ignored you), and if she was interested in going out she most likely would have asked which day you were thinking.

She was honest. Women prefer covert communication because it takes away the responsibility for having to deliver bad news and preserves their need to have everyone like them.

FB and other forms of social media are informal ways to communicate. Most women enjoy getting attention, even if they have no intention of meeting up with the guy they're chatting with...

Furthermore, they barely know each other, there's no investment.

See what happens when you don't pull the trigger? You get "fun" and "games."

This is where your 100% correct.








PIMP

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Well, I texted her about an hour ago saying "hey." No response yet and I have a feeling I'm not getting one...

Bro this was a weak @ss text.

And now seeing that you FB messaged her after she didn't respond to you makes you look like your chasing hard.

Women like men who are a challenge and who are confident.

You showed your confidence initially and that's why she came over and laid in your bed with you.

Always be bold, rather than be safe. If you would've made a move on the first night and she rejected you, then you could have still turned this around by simply ignoring her and she might have came back around. If she didn't, "oh well."

But now you put yourself in a lower frame and started chasing, which is an automatic loss of attraction.

With many women they give you one chance and if you blow it, your done.


This isn't looking promising.







PIMP

 

[plate's_empty]

She never responded to my text, but I talked to her on Facebook.

ME: Hey *name*. Question... What's your favorite drink?

HER: drink? alcoholic?

ME: yeah

HER: I don't really drink that much

ME: Come on... Everyone has a go-to for when they go out. You ever tried a grateful dead?

HER: why are you asking

ME: I was gonna say we should have drinks sometime next week

HER: ohhh

ME: Plus you haven't lived till you've had a (good) grateful dead. It's like getting tipsy on Heaven

HER: lol I'll check it out

ME: So you down to have drinks?

HER: umm idk! I'll let you know

ME: Haha I won't be offended if you say you're not interested, hun. You can be straight up

No response to that last line.

You lost her at "yeah". Tough times. Do what Pimp said.

 

[Jitterbug]

She never responded to my text, but I talked to her on Facebook.

ME: Hey *name*. Question... What's your favorite drink?

HER: drink? alcoholic?

ME: yeah

HER: I don't really drink that much

ME: Come on... Everyone has a go-to for when they go out. You ever tried a grateful dead?

HER: why are you asking

ME: I was gonna say we should have drinks sometime next week

HER: ohhh

ME: Plus you haven't lived till you've had a (good) grateful dead. It's like getting tipsy on Heaven

HER: lol I'll check it out

ME: So you down to have drinks?

HER: umm idk! I'll let you know

ME: Haha I won't be offended if you say you're not interested, hun. You can be straight up

No response to that last line.

Without needing to read what you actually wrote, I can see how you're chasing a very uninterested girl by the length of your lines vs hers. If you're ever in doubt of the girl's interest level - while on TXT or some kind of IM - just look at how much you're writing to her vs how much she's writing back to you. You should be consistently writing less, around 2/3rd is about right. It's a rough guide, but it shows who's entertaining and chasing whom. Chicks, even the quiet shy ones, talk a lot more than men do. If you're talking or writing more than her, you're doing something very very wrong.

 

[LongLostFriend]

I have been in that situation with an unresponsive chick giving off the vibe so weird that I didn't pursue it. The weird part for you was that she was there in the bed (signaling that she is DTF) but your overtures at escalating were being met with indifference, not interest nor rejection.

My question is: why do you want to bang this chick so badly? She doesn't really seem like she is worth the effort. I would have kept this as a low-level plate and moved on.

 

[.Paradox.]

I have been in that situation with an unresponsive chick giving off the vibe so weird that I didn't pursue it. The weird part for you was that she was there in the bed (signaling that she is DTF) but your overtures at escalating were being met with indifference, not interest nor rejection.

My question is: why do you want to bang this chick so badly? She doesn't really seem like she is worth the effort. I would have kept this as a low-level plate and moved on.

You know what the funny thing is? If I would have made a move and she rejected it, I wouldn't even care about getting her back over to f*ck. I would have chalked it up as another dumb 22 y/o b!tch playing games and moved on. It's not even that she's some ultra-hot babe who I "must have," it's that I want to make it up to myself to not making a move when I *probably* should have. I want the opportunity back! I HATE when I waste opportunities!

I do, however, stand by what I said about her giving off a terrible vibe, acting anti-social, and making the situation (and me) completely uncomfortable.

 

[Demonpenz]

Good job. You aren't a total smelly loser. Should have gone for it, but experience is what this is all about. So it is truely a win to go through something like this.