Wow. Had a girl to over to my place and...

[.Paradox.]

-Girl came over to my place to chill and watch a movie

-Pretty f*cking sexy (better than I thought she'd look)

-She opted to lay on my bed next to me rather than sit in my chair (good sign, right?)

-She, however, starting giving me this weird vibe. Don't even know how to describe it... Like this arrogant, b!tchy kinda vibe with the slightest bit of playfulness

-I'd try to make conversation and she'd just... Not even try. She was also looking at her phone frequently, yawning, and asked when the show we were watching would be over because she had to "work at 8am." She was, however, fine with me touching her while checking out her tattoos

-Didn't make a move. I didn't just not make a move, I was literally uncomfortable with the thought of making a move due to the weird vibe and complete lack of POSITIVE signals (no looking at lips, not much eye contact, not much smiling and laughing from her, etc.)

-She texts me after she left saying "thanks for having me." Uhhh what? This honestly caught me off guard because I didn't expect any text and it didn't make much sense to me. I didn't know what to say back, so I ended up responding "yeah, it was fun" and teasing her about how it was rude that she didn't bring wine. Her response? "Lol sorry" about ten seconds after I sent my text.

Now please! Tell me all the horrible mistakes I made, SoSuave, so I can feel bad about myself! Lmao.

Funny story, though... I was chatting with her on Facebook before all this and told her we should just be friends. She got upset then ended up agreeing to come over and chill. LOL.

 

[foreverAFC]

sounds like she was waiting for you to jump on top of her

 

[Korrupt]

You probably should have just said "fvck the vibe" and gone for it, but who knows... It would have either ended in a fvck session (or making out), or complete, awkward, embarrassing rejection. Nobody can truly say you made the right or wrong choice - we weren't there. One thing is certain, though, if you had gone for it you'd have closure on the matter/your answer.

 

[.Paradox.]

Okay. I get it. I most likely f*cked up. Not the first time and I'm sure it won't be the last.

So why in the f*ck did she text me after she left?

 

[SirFratserlot]

Ya thats how the girl I was previously with was. Shes just uber shy

 

[.Paradox.]

You have to ask if they want to "cuddle" while you watch the movie. My ex was really aggressive and I STILL got last minute resistance like this. When I asked she practically jumped through the roof lol.

Looking in retrospect the signs are obvious, and all I probably had to do was whip out my d!ck and jump on top of her. For some reason it just didn't feel right at the time. Guess I need to ignore that next time...

Ugh. This kinda sh!t has happened in the past and I told myself I'd never let it f*cking happen again. Literally sick to my stomach with disappointment.

 

[pdx1138]

happens to the best of us!

Be distant, see if she comes around. She might.

 

[Mike32ct]

I had this happen too. You're alone with a chick, and it SEEMS like it should be almost a sure thing, but she acts distant and not that attracted. This weird vibe of hers throws you off, and you don't try to make a move.

I learned that you have to try anyway.

 

[Uncharted]

You have to make the first move. She is alone with you. She would not be there unless she was at least considering let you bang her. Sounds like you were having a sh1t time anyway, how much worse could it have been if you tried to kiss her and failed?

 

[.Paradox.]

Yeah... Guess I f*cked up hard. So is there ANY possible way I can play this/turn this around?

I'll go ahead and tell you all that she seemed super interested when we talked on PoF and Facebook. SHE messaged ME saying "well you're hella good looking." And when I pulled that "maybe we should just be friends card" she got all upset, then ended up saying "I like being friendzoned by hot guys."

 

[bukowski_merit]

She's came over to your place right?

Sit down with her at your kitchen table. Pour some drinks. Talk to her. Both the drinks and talking will bring her out of any shell she's in.

Then the "let's go watch a movie" will only mean one thing!

It's like clockwork. Assume this was your first meeting with her - MOST women will be shy, especially when coming to your place.... A hour of some good comfort building can change all that...

But i do agree with the others... In said scenario - you should have just gone for it... Or at least made some body contact and escelated that...

Don't worry about it though. Happens to us all....

The same thing happens to me when a girl comes over "for some drinks" and gets to my place and "oh, i don't feel like drinking" comes out of her mouth... And the reason it fvcks me up at first is because then i think that she doesn't want to drink because she's not as attracted to me as she thought she was (and doesn't want to drink because she knows drinking lowers her standard of attraction).... But this is not always the case (sometimes it obviously is though), sometimes they say they don't want to drink, and a little while later - i have them bent over the table singing slow jams...

 

[JoeMarron]

I feel the phrase "make the ho say no" is very appropriate here. She was probably giving you a weird vibe because she was pissed that you weren't making any moves.

 

[Korrupt]

Yeah... Guess I f*cked up hard. So is there ANY possible way I can play this/turn this around?

I'll go ahead and tell you all that she seemed super interested when we talked on PoF and Facebook. SHE messaged ME saying "well you're hella good looking." And when I pulled that "maybe we should just be friends card" she got all upset, then ended up saying "I like being friendzoned by hot guys."

Soooo obviously she's physically attracted to you. Unfortunately, nobody but her knows what she's thinking or feeling about you after last night.

How can you play it? Well the safest way would be to just delete her number, focus on other things and women, and see if she hits YOU up. Probability of this happening? I'm going to say low unless her interest in you is/was (for whatever reason) through the f*cking roof.

You could, however, wait a few days and try to get her over again. I'd recommend Sunday, Tuesday, or Wednesday since these are the days most people aren't going out with friends. Not completely sure how you would go about doing it though. You could be direct and just tell her to come over (i.e. "Hey. You should come over tonight/we should chill tonight/etc."). You could also attempt to lure her in:

You: Hey
Her: Hey
You: What's your favorite drink? (or however you want to phrase it)
Her: Red wine
You: Red wine at my place tonight. Be here at 9pm.

I dunno. Just throwing sh!t out there. I've been in this same exact position multiple times in the past so I'm also curious. Maybe some other SoSuavers can help you out further.

 

[.Paradox.]

She's came over to your place right?

Sit down with her at your kitchen table. Pour some drinks. Talk to her. Both the drinks and talking will bring her out of any shell she's in.

Then the "let's go watch a movie" will only mean one thing!

It's like clockwork. Assume this was your first meeting with her - MOST women will be shy, especially when coming to your place.... A hour of some good comfort building can change all that...

But i do agree with the others... In said scenario - you should have just gone for it... Or at least made some body contact and escalated that...

Don't worry about it though. Happens to us all....

The same thing happens to me when a girl comes over "for some drinks" and gets to my place and "oh, i don't feel like drinking" comes out of her mouth... And the reason it fvcks me up at first is because then i think that she doesn't want to drink because she's not as attracted to me as she thought she was (and doesn't want to drink because she knows drinking lowers her standard of attraction).... But this is not always the case (sometimes it obviously is though), sometimes they say they don't want to drink, and a little while later - i have them bent over the table singing slow jams...

Yeah, I was escalating (touching her while looking at her tattoos) but got uncomfortable when she start acting disinterested.

I feel the phrase "make the ho say no" is very appropriate here. She was probably giving you a weird vibe because she was pissed that you weren't making any moves.

I got the message! I f*cked up! Should have pounced her and I didn't. All I'm confused about at this point is why she would text me afterwards...

Soooo obviously she's physically attracted to you. Unfortunately, nobody but her knows what she's thinking or feeling about you after last night.

How can you play it? Well the safest way would be to just delete her number, focus on other things and women, and see if she hits YOU up. Probability of this happening? I'm going to say low unless her interest in you is/was (for whatever reason) through the f*cking roof.

You could, however, wait a few days and try to get her over again. I'd recommend Sunday, Tuesday, or Wednesday since these are the days most people aren't going out with friends. Not completely sure how you would go about doing it though. You could be direct and just tell her to come over (i.e. "Hey. You should come over tonight/we should chill tonight/etc."). You could also attempt to lure her in:

You: Hey
Her: Hey
You: What's your favorite drink? (or however you want to phrase it)
Her: Red wine
You: Red wine at my place tonight. Be here at 9pm.

I dunno. Just throwing sh!t out there. I've been in this same exact position multiple times in the past so I'm also curious. Maybe some other SoSuavers can help you out further.

Thanks. I might try that.

 

[In2theGame]

-Girl came over to my place to chill and watch a movie

Once this happens, its on. She knows whats up and she didnt come over just to watch TV, she was waiting for you to make moves on her.

 

[zinc4]

-Girl came over to my place to chill and watch a movie

-Pretty f*cking sexy (better than I thought she'd look)

-She opted to lay on my bed next to me rather than sit in my chair (good sign, right?)

-She, however, starting giving me this weird vibe. Don't even know how to describe it... Like this arrogant, b!tchy kinda vibe with the slightest bit of playfulness

-I'd try to make conversation and she'd just... Not even try. She was also looking at her phone frequently, yawning, and asked when the show we were watching would be over because she had to "work at 8am." She was, however, fine with me touching her while checking out her tattoos

-Didn't make a move. I didn't just not make a move, I was literally uncomfortable with the thought of making a move due to the weird vibe and complete lack of POSITIVE signals (no looking at lips, not much eye contact, not much smiling and laughing from her, etc.)

-She texts me after she left saying "thanks for having me." Uhhh what? This honestly caught me off guard because I didn't expect any text and it didn't make much sense to me. I didn't know what to say back, so I ended up responding "yeah, it was fun" and teasing her about how it was rude that she didn't bring wine. Her response? "Lol sorry" about ten seconds after I sent my text.

Now please! Tell me all the horrible mistakes I made, SoSuave, so I can feel bad about myself! Lmao.

Funny story, though... I was chatting with her on Facebook before all this and told her we should just be friends. She got upset then ended up agreeing to come over and chill. LOL.

You don't have any balls whatsoever....grab her and f%ck her if she is on your bed next to you...of course she looked bored because she gave you a greenlight to at least kiss her and you pussied out....holy crap man...are you THAT scared of getting rejected...

 

[.Paradox.]

You don't have any balls whatsoever....grab her and f%ck her if she is on your bed next to you...of course she looked bored because she gave you a greenlight to at least kiss her and you pussied out....holy crap man...are you THAT scared of getting rejected...

Just last week I went out with a chick, she gave me positive signals, bam - we made out in the bar.

Week before that I had a different girl over to my place, she sat on my bed, little bit into the movie I pulled her back towards me and made out with her.

Some months ago another girl came over, we were sitting on my bed chatting, she looked at my lips and I kissed her immediately after.

Grabbed drinks with a different girl TONIGHT and made out with her easy.

Just a few notable examples.

It's not that I'm deathly afraid of rejection or can't do it, it's that her behavior (which apparently was due to me not making a move (oh the irony)) turned me off and made me uncomfortable so I didn't go for it.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Don't make excuses, you are not as smooth as you think you are. Sounds to me like she wasn't into you at all. Infact this sounds more like she wanted to get the hell out of there ASAP.

Why do you guys always use this retarded "watch a movie" line? I know a lot of girls that would head over to your place to literally WATCH A MOVIE. You should be clear on your intentions... half way back to your place you should be on the topic of bjs and positions and stuff. Watch a movie..... fvck. That is creepy as fvck...

Might as well be offering FREE CANDY from a van down by the river.

I make my intentions quite clear with the missus, she knows that after grabbing her ass and bending her over the grocery trolley, grasping her thighs and hitting her hard on the butt that she is gonna get pounded at home... if that doesn't clue her in, I usually tell her "I'm gonna l1ck ur pvssy and fvck you for a whole 5 MINUTES when we get home ". Don't be the weird mixed signals guy, just go for it.

The first date I was ever on with my wife, I put all my sh1t down that I was carrying, grabbed her in the middle of the park and kissed her hard. Resulted in a deer in the headlights look, a slap to my face and a "I thought we were just friends!!!". She was pretty surprised and a little angry but at least she was clear on my intentions. Women eat this sh1t up with a spoon man. My wife is a little dense though and she was a virgin.. I've used this a couple times now and each time was met with success, previous times were a bit better. One woman outright refused to kiss me and the whole date went awkward afterwards BUT not long after she was blowing up my phone and posting messages for me to come and visit her all over my facebook.

 

[.Paradox.]

Sounds to me like she wasn't into you at all. Infact this sounds more like she wanted to get the hell out of there ASAP.

Then again, american women.. who the fvck knows.

Apparently those are the signs for "I want sex!" LOL!

She was much more open and playful during our Facebook convo, text convo, and the first 20 minutes she was at my place. For some reason, after I put the show on she went cold.

Ehhh she was cool with me touching her while looking at her tats, too. Anything's possible, but I most likely f*cked up. She was probably pissed because her panties were soaking wet and I didn't give her any...

 

[Korrupt]

Don't make excuses, you are not as smooth as you think you are. Sounds to me like she wasn't into you at all. Infact this sounds more like she wanted to get the hell out of there ASAP.

Why do you guys always use this retarded "watch a movie" line? I know a lot of girls that would head over to your place to literally WATCH A MOVIE. You should be clear on your intentions... half way back to your place you should be on the topic of *******s and positions and stuff. Watch a movie..... fvck. That is creepy as fvck...

In all fairness, nobody is as smooth as they think they are. "Game" is all bullsh!t and is an illusion. Not every girl is going to like you or be perceptive to your particular style of "game."

The "watch a movie" thing is (most of the time), a universal code-word for "come over so we can fvck, or at least make-out and grope," without actually saying it and blowing yourself out.