Would you tell a girl you like her

[Kal0051]

I ask because I've thought of doing that with this one chick. We barely know each other but I would like to and I'm thinking about just casually telling that to her. I'm not looking for any reaction from her, but I'm not sure why I'm thinking about telling her this. I know maybe I shouldn't tell her but I keep getting the urge to do it. What do you think?

 

[Captain]

We barely know each other but I would like to and I'm thinking about just casually telling that to her.

Don't do it.

 

[Analyzeit]

To be honest it's a question i've really looked at, now i know you're not meant to and in the meantime I'm going to follow the general dj rules, but you know you need to question everything.

I've thought of doing it to, just getting it over and done with i mean

If they like you, they like you.
Why exactly would they hate you or be less interested in you more if they were interested in you and you told them this?? they would be ecstatic and why not they and you also have a conclusion and can start things going.

I would really like someone to explain this one to me

I mean hell it sound like it would save a lot of time for just one AFC mistake that doesn't even sound that bad especially if your in HS

I've probably asked more questions then answered them but i think it's something that should help you make up your mind on this

 

[DonJuan11]

I ask because I've thought of doing that with this one chick. We barely know each other but I would like to and I'm thinking about just casually telling that to her. I'm not looking for any reaction from her, but I'm not sure why I'm thinking about telling her this. I know maybe I shouldn't tell her but I keep getting the urge to do it. What do you think?

You should show her you like her rather than telling her. If you are honest, genuine, take her out dancing, show her a good time, she will eventually know.

If you tell her you like her and sit at home playing video games Friday and Saturday nights when she is available to do something, it won't matter.

 

[Nutz]

No.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=157848

 

[playerone]

I'm wondering, if you're gaming the chick decently well, would it be a mistake to tell her you like her or enjoy her company, casually.

Hmmm. Maybe it's how you execute it and follow it up, provided you don't come off as needy.

 

[CaptainJ]

NEVER tell a girl you like her. Leave her guessing whether you like her or not.

 

[Maxtro]

NEVER tell a girl you like her. Leave her guessing whether you like her or not.

Actually that's wrong. If you leave her guessing then she will probably only see you as a friend, trust me.

If you spend some time with her, you want to show her that you are interested in her. Usually it's done by touching her and trying to kiss her. Wait too long and the interest will fade.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Write a personal note to her saying some sort of compliment or feature about her that you admire and leave it with her. If she likes you - she'll thank you for the note. You can then follow up from there.

Buy a blank personal note card, they are probably cheap. She'll appreciate the time you took out of your day to buy the card, write that note and give it to her.

 

[Demonicale]

Don't do it.

Best advice here, i did this to a girl whoa actually liked me and did all the running after me.

From the moment i said it, everything went downhill.

 

[Maxtro]

You told her. There is a huge difference between telling her and showing her. Writing a note is just as bad.

It must be shown with your actions and early.

 

[R19]

Write a personal note to her saying some sort of compliment or feature about her that you admire and leave it with her. If she likes you - she'll thank you for the note. You can then follow up from there.

Buy a blank personal note card, they are probably cheap. She'll appreciate the time you took out of your day to buy the card, write that note and give it to her.

Probably the worst advice I have ever read on these forums. Are you effen, I mean really are you effen???

Don't talk about it, be about it...

Accelerate with her and say nothing about what you think/feel about her until wayyyyyyyyyy past the point you are rockin' her world. Then maybe only then do it subtly. You are supposed to get her emotion for you on red line and make her hot and wet. Telling her is a sure fire way to put you in the LBJF ice box. Even the dumbest ch1cks can tell if you are into them from 1,000 yards so telling her is worthless... You have to be a challenge and qualify her - have reservations in her mind that maybe she is not good enough for you.

As an extension, think of those in an LTR or married. What does it say if you tell your lover or spouse that you love them all of the time when you are as alluring as a dish towel?

Recently, I had a smoking hot 7.5 (and that's on a real, global scale where the hottest Playmates and Miss Universe girls are 7-10 not some backwater attitude where all the girls at the party were 10's BS) that will look the same 20 years from now, all natural, mind blowin', blazing personality that was leading the way, wayyyyyyyy into me at first - that I lost because I tipped my cards too early and conveyed how I felt to 'differentiate myself' from heavy competition. Yeah, it was a first class ticket to LJBF and I didn't know it at the time. And my intentions were clear to her from minute 1 so that's how bad telling/saying can be.

Fvckin' damn it - you really gotta watch who it is that is posting their fvckin' 'wisdom' on here and the results they pull. Goin' to get some Crane's stationary now for tonight!!! lofl.

 

[The Logical Player]

Write a personal note to her saying some sort of compliment or feature about her that you admire and leave it with her. If she likes you - she'll thank you for the note. You can then follow up from there.

Buy a blank personal note card, they are probably cheap. She'll appreciate the time you took out of your day to buy the card, write that note and give it to her.

dude now THIS is the definition of trolling

what in the world are you doing posting advice, bull**** advice like this?? And you are a virgin who is 30 years old, so once again, why are you GIVING ADVICE - and its virginized creepy advice too

Original Poster - never tell a girl you like her, as a man, its your job to show her, and lead the way to being sexual.......nothing more, nothing less

 

[Kal0051]

well guys the consensus seems to be to not tell a girl that you like her, and I would have to agree. I've only told 1 girl that I liked her and it pretty much was over than and there, and since then I've avoided doing this again.

R19 - I guess your right about that girls can tell if your into them from a 1,000 yards. Though I do hate the ones that start playing hard to get once they figure that out, a few times I've misinterpreted that was them not being interested and gave up pursuing them. But that's another topic all together.

Luke - like WTF! From some of the posts from you that I've read I'm convinced your a huge troll trying to destroy new guys who don't know better. If that's the case you should just stop it. And if your not a troll and are a 30 year old virgin who posts insanely bad advice on dealing with women maybe you should get off this forum because obviously you haven't learnt anything. What I was talking about was when your with a girl, having fun, laughing, and you just turn to her and say "You know what? I like you" (or something like that), I sure as hell wasn't talking about writing her a love letter.

 

[R19]

I am not gonna drift too far, but it's all the same theme. If you start acting a lot differently with them once you get IOI. It would be great if we could all be transformed into a hot chick for a few weeks and then all this sh1t would become even more clear. Just go out every day/night, run into tons of AFC's and a few DJ's and go get railed by whoever you want to.

 

[CaptainJ]

Actually that's wrong. If you leave her guessing then she will probably only see you as a friend, trust me.

If you spend some time with her, you want to show her that you are interested in her. Usually it's done by touching her and trying to kiss her. Wait too long and the interest will fade.

Erm, you haven't proved me wrong. I said Never TELL her you like her, not never SHOW her you like her. By all means, it should be through your actions that you show how much you like a girl. But tell a girl you like her, and the mystery is gone.

 

[CaptainJ]

Write a personal note to her saying some sort of compliment or feature about her that you admire and leave it with her. If she likes you - she'll thank you for the note. You can then follow up from there.

Buy a blank personal note card, they are probably cheap. She'll appreciate the time you took out of your day to buy the card, write that note and give it to her.

DON'T DO THIS, THIS WILL MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE A *****.

Luke, stop giving bad advice, seeing as you have delusional views and absolutely no expererience with Women.

What kind of Man goes out of their way to buy a girl a card that compliments a certain feature, when they could just give a genuine heart felt compliment in person. Only a wimp hides behind cards. This is almost on par with writing love notes or poetry.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

DON'T DO THIS, THIS WILL MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE A *****.

Luke, stop giving bad advice, seeing as you have delusional views and absolutely no expererience with Women.

It worked with me with at least a couple of women at the office. Just as long as what you write is not too personal then it should be fine.

What kind of Man goes out of their way to buy a girl a card that compliments a certain feature, when they could just give a genuine heart felt compliment in person. Only a wimp hides behind cards. This is almost on par with writing love notes or poetry.

A kind of man that some women will appreciate. Again, it has worked for me, in terms of helping build bridges or strengthening rapport.

I don't see what harm there can be in making a woman feel special in a unique way. In fact, if I wish I'd keep that up more often. It goes to the focus that the goal is building a connection or rapport at an easy pace. I had more success I think with personal notes than just say, just leaving a message, or doing a half-hearted effort and seeing the girl doesn't respond back. If you want to build or make a connection -- a personal note is the best thing to do. She will thank you for the note and you'll leave an impression with her -- she may return your calls easier, answer the phone when you call, be more friendlier with you, etc....

 

[Nutz]

It worked with me with at least a couple of women at the office. Just as long as what you write is not too personal then it should be fine.




A kind of man that some women will appreciate. Again, it has worked for me, in terms of helping build bridges or strengthening rapport.

The OP is talking about a rapport based issue. He wants to build a better connection or rapport and doesn't want to do anything ackward. This note does the trick.

Really. And how many of those women from the office did you have sex with? Oh, right, you're probably still a virgin.

Rapport != attraction. Not directly anyway. If anything being all gushy like that screams beta, needy, and low value. The women will never have sex with you, generally speaking, if you try and do that sort of garbage.

DON'T DO THIS, THIS WILL MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE A *****.

Luke, stop giving bad advice, seeing as you have delusional views and absolutely no expererience with Women.

What kind of Man goes out of their way to buy a girl a card that compliments a certain feature, when they could just give a genuine heart felt compliment in person. Only a wimp hides behind cards. This is almost on par with writing love notes or poetry.

Agreed. This is why I have him on my ignore list. I only popped open his post and replied to it because I was curious how bad it was. Yup, par for the course with this choad.

 

[R19]

build bridges or strengthening rapport.

Luke, please stop and report to the US State Department. Our country could use some improved foreign relations. Thanks!