Would you let her cancel your facebook ?

[SXS]

One funny thing happened a few days ago, I had to tell it here.
This guy, old friend, married sometime ago. he is about 30, and I knew he and the girl from a long time. Anyway, we rund into each other, conversation goes, I told him about some good business and investment opportunities some friends and I were working on, and he told me to add him on orkut(which is very similar to facebook and others sites like that) to contact him about that.
I added him, etc, and everything ok.
Some time later, I tried to find him to send a message, but the guy was gone. I just thought "he erased me ?". But no, I conducted searches, and the guy was nowhere to be found. I thought it was strange, but just forgot about it.
Later when we talked in person again, he then tells me that his wife erased his account, because too many girls were sending message to him and she was jealous. Now he could use only HER account, so she can keep an eye on him...

Everyone just laughed at his face for a good 5 minutes...

 

[horaholic]

I've been seeing a few people turn to the joint couples myspace pages lately. Its sickening. "Jason, and Mary" blah,blah,blah, puke.

 

[SXS]

Well, having a joint account with your girl wouldn't be that bad, but the fact that she erased his account because of jealousy or whatever... She is a very small and shy girl, you wouldn't think she has that kind of "power" in home...

 

[SXS]

Update.
I met with him a few days ago, and he said they are going to separate.
He said he can't take her anymore, he can't go out, he can't play soccer, she doesn't like him near his own family...
And they aren't even married for that long...

 

[Bible_Belt]

One night about a year ago, my current girlfriend, whom I now live with and love very much, was snooping through my myspace messages to read what my ex had sent me. When I caught her, I told her that I really liked that other girl, because when she was over at my house, she didn't snoop through my computer. Then I escorted her out the front door at 1 am and told her to get lost. She called a friend to take her home. To this day, whenever I am typing a password, she bolts out of the room. When I forget and leave a web page up, if she finds it before me, she will explain exactly what she saw before she closed it out. She knows that snooping through my email or my phone is the fast track to getting tossed out the front door.

 

[jophil28]

One night about a year ago, my current girlfriend, whom I now live with and love very much, was snooping through my myspace messages to read what my ex had sent me. When I caught her, I told her that I really liked that other girl, because when she was over at my house, she didn't snoop through my computer. Then I escorted her out the front door at 1 am and told her to get lost. She called a friend to take her home. To this day, whenever I am typing a password, she bolts out of the room. When I forget and leave a web page up, if she finds it before me, she will explain exactly what she saw before she closed it out. She knows that snooping through my email or my phone is the fast track to getting tossed out the front door.

Yep ^^ " Reward good behavior and punish bad behavior" BM 101

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

Marriage is a bit different than a just having girlfriend.

In a marriage NEITHER partner should be doing shady sh*t.
This includes attention wh*ring for the opposite sex.

If my wife had a myspace or facebook (she does have both right now) and used it primarily as a means to communicate with boys then I would shut that down.

Why?

Because there is no reason for a married woman (or man) to seek attention from the opposite sex.

For me, this isn't a trust, jealousy, or insecurity issue. It's purely pragmatic.

Don't begin to walk the slippery slope and no drama will come. No drama = successful relationship (okay, some drama is good every once in a while.)


Now, I don't have a myspace or a facebook (sorry, but I have better things to do) but if I did I would mantain discretion with my contacts (as a married man.) Simple as that.

I wouldn't expect my wife to ask me. I'd just do it. It's the logical thing to do.
And as a man I operate on logic and good sense.


Now, back to the original guy. It sounds like his wife was controlling. That's a no-no. Sound like he's finally manning up and kicking her to the curb.

 

[squirrels]

One night about a year ago, my current girlfriend, whom I now live with and love very much, was snooping through my myspace messages to read what my ex had sent me. When I caught her, I told her that I really liked that other girl, because when she was over at my house, she didn't snoop through my computer. Then I escorted her out the front door at 1 am and told her to get lost. She called a friend to take her home. To this day, whenever I am typing a password, she bolts out of the room. When I forget and leave a web page up, if she finds it before me, she will explain exactly what she saw before she closed it out. She knows that snooping through my email or my phone is the fast track to getting tossed out the front door.

You all could learn something from this man's pimp-hand.

 

[Warrior74]

this reminds me what a friend of mine said....

there is no such thing as "fair" in a relationship, you have pick which side of unfair you want to be on. Your buddy chose to be on the receiving end. Bible_Belt chose to be on the dispensing end.

 

[Da Realist]

I was watching "Snapped" yesterday for the first time and it was pretty good depsite it being on Oxygen. What I noticed in each relationship was that a guy would marry a woman that was eemingly easy to control because she either didn't have anything or she was meek. The thing is that each woman basically were control freaks in way because they wanted the money the men gave them. One basically blocked her husband from seeing his own daughter and the other two slept around.

I'm bringing this up because this chick doesn't sound to far from those women. She found a guy, wants to keep everything for herself, and sounds like she was trying to drive any percieved competition away. If your buddy divorces her, he better sleep with a gun.

To be honest though, I think married folks shouldn't have separate myspace/facebook pages unless it's completely open to your spouse. I don't think a person should be rooting through another person's stuff, but having separate accounts where you can talk to other people in secret isn't good. Emails and phones are one thing since they are important, but putting up a page to show yourself off is another thing. It's just another way to keep someone in the wings in case things don't work in a situation where you're supposed to make it work come hell or high water. Having a back up is fine before marriage, but having someone on the outside will make a marriage fail faster thananything because you're diving your attention when it should maily be focused on the person you agreed to spend your life with.

 

[SXS]

I'm bringing this up because this chick doesn't sound to far from those women. She found a guy, wants to keep everything for herself, and sounds like she was trying to drive any percieved competition away. If your buddy divorces her, he better sleep with a gun.

She is a mess when it comes to emotions. She has a enourmous feud with his mother, and it even got to the point of both of them screaming at each other in the middle of the street(that is not so uncommon on my country anyway). But I don't think she would be dangerous.
And I honestly think he could "educate" her a little better if he was more tough.
She used to work in a day care, but when she got pregnant, they got married and moved in together, so she stoped working. She pretty much depends in his money to live, and he has a lot of it.

 

[Da Realist]

But I don't think she would be dangerous.

One of the women they were talking about had neighbor who said they didn't think she was dangerous. Turned out she paid a hit man to kill her husband. Another basically turned a guy out and he killed her husband. May be good to take what I say with a grain of salt since I don't know either personally, but I'd watch out for your friend. But he better be carecul one what type of "education" he uses because I've seen how that can go. Didn't turn out pretty for one guy.

 

[imaluvnit]

Excellent reply to SXS post. I personally have experienced first hand the Dangers of Facebook while being married. In short as soon as my wife got her facebook account it was downhill from there. I had told her that it makes me uncomfortable knowing over half the people she is communicating with are guy's and she said and I quote their just old school friends and that I need to stop being controllin and acting jealous. I told her I did not think it was a good idea talking to (attention *****ing) (friend *****ing) all of her recently divorced friends and old school guy friends from the past, turns out one of the guys was an old flame. Well we are no longer married, No man can fight that kind of influence or peer pressure. Please be careful and try not let this happen to you. You can also read my 24 years down the drain post if you need more info. I am by no means saying this will happen to everyone, but I just wanted to share this info.