Would you date this woman?

[wizeguy1032]

She is 43, she has a 20 yr old daughter by a former bf. She left him because he beat her up. She then married and had a son who is now 6. She was married for 12 yrs. Left him because she said he was a pothead and she caught him cheating online. She claims to have been drugged and sexually abused by a former boyfriend. Her father left when she was 8 and she hasnt seen him since. She was then adopted by her mothers second husband who also took off and she hasnt seen him. Her Mom is on husband #4. Her and her mom have a very bad relationship. She is petrified of her mother and says she is never good enough for her, worrys constantly what her mother will do or say to her. She suffers she says from terrible anxiety, wants to be taken care of, is always a victim of something
Im guessing 99.9% of you are saying heck no wouldnt go near her.
So what is wrong with me because i did and just got out of a 3 year hell with her. She literally sucked me in at the start by being my perfect fantasy sexually. That hooked me. Then slowly she started to show all the signs of a woman who basically hates men.

 

[theunflushables]

Don't worry about the past. Now that you know what to look out for you won't repeat the same mistake (hopefully).

We've all dated someone that was just overall bad for us and many guys have found this site because of that situation.

Its over now so just focus on getting quality women.

 

[bish0p]

My last ex was 40 and had a similar background with tons of bad relationships and a controlling father. She tried to please me in every way sexually and then slowly became more and more controlling.

Thankfully, it only lasted one year, but I miss her like crazy.

 

[wizeguy1032]

Can you give details on how she made your life hell?

Like i said she was great sexually at the start. But then slowly it changed. She quit her job and stopped looking for another. Sat home all day on facebook. She became very untrusting for seemingly no reason other than her past history with men. Started becoming very critical of me and accused me all the time of flirting. Started getting on my computer searching my history. Became very possessive, very jealous of my 24 yr old daughter who she said i did way too much for. Constantly was asking me if i was mad at her, or saying what did i do now. Her anxiety and fear of everything was draining. She was taking celexa tramadol and xanax so she was pretty much a zombie all the time. Stopped showing any affection, and was very self conscious. Add in a 6 yr old which she didnt discipline at all and gave him everything he wanted and you have the recipe for hell. It almost seemed like at the start she tried to be evrything and more of what i wanted in a woman. But then she slowly reverted back to who she really was. Her hatred for men was obvious yet she needs one because she cant take care of herself at all. When she saw i wouldnt just do everything for her and her son she started showing that hate.

 

[wizeguy1032]

My last ex was 40 and had a similar background with tons of bad relationships and a controlling father. She tried to please me in every way sexually and then slowly became more and more controlling.

Thankfully, it only lasted one year, but I miss her like crazy.

Like me you probably miss the great sex as we are men, but when you sit and think of the rest of the time you realize thats all there was that was good. When you have that much past damage you have to be incredibly strong to fix it. All that resentment and hate from those past relationships come pouring out at the first opportunity. You would never do enough or be good enough. Thats how i felt. They are as needy as they come but those needs can never be met.

 

[bish0p]

Like me you probably miss the great sex

That's true. It's funny because when I lived with her, I never wanted it and always rejected her as it felt more like a chore than anything.

Now I'm like damn, I should have done it a lot more.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Tell me more about the daughter...

 

[WC2]

There's no better way to learn than the hard way.

I just can't understand how you were suckered in when there are SO MANY women out there without all these problems.