Yo AGAIN, troops...
WHENEVER human beings interact, even on a tentative basis, relationships (of SOME kind or another) ALWAYS form. I've found that no matter how many boundaries are set, no matter how far people decide they want to take it in the beginning...the line of supposed "mutual" understanding ALWAYS get's crossed sooner or later by at least ONE of the parties.
You see, MOST people (unless they are sociopaths and/or are totally spiritually desensitized) seek bonds either on a conscious or a subconscious level----whether it's with friends, with family, with lovers,or whatever. No matter what they decide beforehand in their MINDS, their EMOTIONS always seek to exert their influence over the decisions they've already made.
Add to that THE REALITY of the fact that at least ONE of the people have the tendency to SUBLIMATE their true feelings in these kinds of "casual" dating arrangements, and you begin to see just how volatile using another person only as a "PLACE KEEPER" can really become.
Emotions are a WILDCARD. Emotions are ALWAYS the wildcard in MOST male/female interactions.
MOST of the time, they are the enemies to rationale. They are the TIME BOMBS that often have their fuses lit by the chemical reactions sparked whenever a casual dating "arrangement" is broken when at least ONE of the two parties INEVITABLY begins to FEEL like they want MORE from the other.
When women do this, there are all kinds of names for it, I'm sure. But when guys do it, we like to call it CONFIDENT PERSISTENCE----but most of the time, all it really is, is a precursor for ONEitis.
I've seen situations like these that go on for more than a month usually end up with one of the two parties getting jealous or possesive when they are ULTIMATELY replaced by a "real" dating candidate.
And eventhough, the guy or girl usually plays the "I don't give a shyt" role at the start of it, nine times out of ten he or she develops at least a SUBTLE form of ONEitis by the time it's all over-----ESPECIALLY if it's the OTHER person that ends it.
Why do guys (AND girls too, for that matter) usually act this way?
Because REJECTION doubles interest level----at least temporarily. Think about it. What is a BIGGER blow to a guy's ego than to suddenly discover that his "throw away" girl has decided to throw HIM away? How do you think THAT guy is gonna feel when the girl he BARELY wanted don't want HIM no more?
All I'm saying soldiers is...tread lightly. Right now, I'm personally IN BETWEEN high caliber candidates. Yet, I turn DOWN free pusssy on a weekly basis (some of it familiar babes that I had yet to step to, and some of it NEW babes that I have yet to step to). And the reason I have NOT approached these women is only one:
Im a very PARTICULAR type of Mutha Fukka, and these chicks DON'T do it for me.
I don't have a strong enough desire to get with these second-rate chicks, and I sure as hell know I have NO desire to deal with the fallout that WILL definitely occur whenever I leave them in favor of what I feel are more WORTHY targets.
Sure, there are women I can call right now that would COME running...but the problem IS, I already know that after I've gotten my sexual and/or companionship "release" with them, I'd ALSO want them to LEAVE running just as quickly. lol
Been there. Done that. Got the T-shirt. But I no longer WEAR it. All I do with it THESE days is wax my car with it, troops. lol
But to each his own, I RESPECT whatever choice any of you soldiers make. Our roads are different, but most of our destinations are the same (I THINK)----to be a better, more self-actualized man tomorrow than we are today.
What I've found is that the amount of control I continue to exert over myself ALWAYS decreases the amount of control that ANY woman, or ANY other outside circumstance can seek to exert over me...and the effect is far from dull and boring, rather, it is FREEing.
It seems to me that SLAVERY to your desires, emotions, or societal pressures is the only other option that exists to those who choose NOT to exercise self-control.
Sure, pusssy and female companionship is great. But I've been in this WAR long enough to experience LACKLUSTER pusssy and BORING female companionship too.
And that's why half-assed pusssy and female companionship is at least TO ME, a waste of my time and a distraction from my mission, troops.
Fallout-----THIS is always the inherent danger of either dating, spending time with, or having a PRE-determined, GLASS-CEILING, or otherwise "limited" type relationships with a woman------the possibility of it setting off an emotional Time Bomb that will explode in the face of either or BOTH of the two parties involved.
Again, I have respect for whatever choices you troops make. I just know from my own experiences ON THE FRONTLINES that I have YET to see the benefits of half-assed "dating" outweigh the inevitable liabilities.
Peace...one day.
