Would you consider dating a single mom of 2 kids?

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I know the single Mom hate runs rampant around here but I was with a single Mom of 2 kids for s little while. Even though this was years ago I still think about them kids, they literally asked me to be their step dad.

The realationship was worth it, I never had kids so it was something special.

Yeah it's ok to have a heart. The Mom was a mess tho.
 

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Hi Dj’s

I got a match from tinder and the quick short chat was pretty going well.

She’s willing to meet with me.

I am open to any suggestions/precautions before meeting with this woman.
NEVER EVER date single moms. That is beta as fuuck and they are only looking for you buck bro. And her children will never appreciate you or see you as their dad. It's a lost cause from the start. Just that the fact that she is a single mom should put up screaming red flags, it is a REASON why she is that; a single mom..

To make it even worse, you could be held liable for the child support for many years to come and many other things as family law is not in the favor of men.
(The laws is of course different depending on where you live in the world, but in western countries they are almost similar which various differences).

So yeah like Chev.Chelios said, if you should even go down that lane; I could not said it better. :lol:

Ejectulate and evacuate..
Pump her and dump her - FAST - and then swipe a new hotter chick. Keep spinning ya plates!
 
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The only time I find it acceptable to date a single mom is if you're a single dad as well, or she's a widow.

Single moms will do and say almost anything under the sun to hook you. Women always say they don't need no man, but that's a load of sh!t.

I've been in the same position as you, it's really hard to think with the big head when she has a firm yet jiggly rump roast... ok enough thinking about dat ass...

There's two problems: First, if you get with her, you'll end up raising another guy's offspring which is absolutely beta. Second, as some have already said, you will always come last and the child will never respect you because you can't discipline the brat because you're not it's dad.

And then there's the legal ramifications. If you get into an LTR with her you could end up in a common law situation and paying child support for a kid that isn't even yours if you break up.

It's just not worth it, even if you're just dating her to have fun it's kind of a waste of time unless you never intend to get married in the first place. Def don't meet the kids.
I agree with this one.
 

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Many a man I've known has fallen to single mom's charms, thinking at 1st that they won't be involved, just an easy fvck but they did and got fvcked later down.

All of them regretted it, no exceptions, all.

Which is the primary reason I say to those here and in real life, don't even consider dating em.

Maybe a fvck but that's it.
 

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You should follow your heart because at the end of the day you need to do what makes you happy, rather than being logical, listening to advice, and worrying about being beta. Things normally don't go as bad as people claim it could go and you are never sure about tomorrow anyway.
 

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There are a TON of single mom's on OLD sites. I'll estimate, no matter which site you use, if you search women over 38 years old, 90% will be divorced with kids. I'm a bit more mature, 40+, than most SS posters so this is what I mainly have to choose from if I go OLD.

Over the past three years, here are my findings on dating single mom's especially the hot ones on OLD sites:

1- They get just as many messages as single women and have HUGELY inflated sense of value. There are a TON of very desperate, white knight beta-male types over 40, just slobbering at the premise of a woman showing interest. They will do ANYTHING to land a date with a hot woman, mom or not, and muddy the water for DJs on OLD. F*ucking want b*itch slap these as*sholes.
2- If you do date them, the hot ones act as if they were single: dating multiple guys, big social media users, will "trade up" or dump if you turn a toenail the wrong way. Entitled.
3- Your time with them WILL be limited. Kids needs come first, then their job, kid's activities, dealing with custody with an ex if they have one, relatives and babysitters for care, other guys (white knights mainly) they're dating, then....you. You're in 6th or 7th place. You're the Baltimore Orioles to her.
4- They can never have impromptu fun, travel, etc. Because...of the kids!
5- Many are low on cash so expect you to pay for everything. Single moms are all over Seeking Arrangement and SDM.com.

So if you're ok with 1-5 above, go for it.

After being on many dating sites the past 3 years I can say with 110% absolute confidence: Having kids = Divorce

Proceed with caution and have very low expectations.

Good luck.

~Dash~
 
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Most involved I've ever gotten was with one where the kid was young enough to not be able to speak, so haven't dealt too much with it. Wouldn't care to neither. Doesn't sound good at all.
That's a little different.

I hated kids.. I tried my best NOT to meet them at first. Then you see in their eyes how they are actually excited to see you and the look on their face when they are trying to figure out what you are thinking is enough to make an empression. It did for me. Those memories will last till the day I die.
 

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Guys, Dj’s,

Thank you all for your inputs and advices.

Truly appreciate it.

It looks like the majority of you doesn’t want me to go with this woman.

So I won’t date with the SM. That’s my decision.

I trust all of you and the SS forum.

Moving forward now :)
 

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I'm a full time assh0le but cant really see myself fvcking a kids mom or take away her from him/her even for a single night.

Those women probably dont get it (as they dont get most things) but the kid doesnt really like when someone who is not dad is fvcking mom.
 

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Guys, Dj’s,

Thank you all for your inputs and advices.

Truly appreciate it.

It looks like the majority of you doesn’t want me to go with this woman.

So I won’t date with the SM. That’s my decision.

I trust all of you and the SS forum.

Moving forward now :)
Now this is something we don't hear everyday.

Good Job.
 
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