Theres this girl at work i've had a crush on and i was always chicken to speak to her, last week I grew some confidence and we spoke for a bit. That night we talked on facebook chat for like 3hrs and the next day also for the same amount of time. I didn't wanna jump the gun so I tried not too get too excited, but a couple of days later i sent her a hi message and signed off...i went to go do something, next thing I know she finds my aim screename and we talked on aim for a bit and did so again a couple days later. By this time I thought maybe I should ask her out to do smthing, but she was busy this week with school starting so she said maybe on a weekend so we are both working and chill after work.
Heres where things get a bit fuzzy for me...we texted the other day for the 1st time which I thought was a good step, but on fri there was a party that a guy at work threw so I went, knowing she would be there...we didn't talk much at the party and it was kinda dead so I left. This made me start to think maybe she didn't like me as much as I thought. Yesterday at work one of girl-friends at work spoke to her (they are good friends) and she mentioned the fact that we have been talking lately and that I asked her out on a date. She said she didn't really know where I was coming from and that she didn't wanna give me the wrong idea. Now I feel like I've wasted some of my time and that I've made a fool of myself. The girl doesn't know she told me and I feel totally awkward around her...we barely spoke after work and actually she left the same time I had a lunch break and we walked out together...we had few words though.
Theres more, Her friend basically told me that she is kinda involved with sm guy right now and that he probably isn't the best choice (he makes her cry all the time and treats her very bad)...they stopped talking and now he is basically reeling her back in. (She was with her ex for 4yrs and he broke up with her earlier this yr, so she is in this "fragile" state) Based on her history, Im not really the type of guy she goes out with or even dates. My question to you guys is. Should I still pursue her and ask her out to do something next weekend and what day should I ask her out? or cut my losses now? I've been going back and forth...I kinda feel like if she doesn't have a boyfriend she is still open game and if Im not her "type" I could show her something different. I dont wanna get "pity date" though (or is that still a chance). Or would that totally be opposite thinking? Normally what I do is when I find out a girl isn't interested I just stop talking to them as a whole. Sometimes they come back around, but I don't think I've really made enough of an impact on her life for her to miss me like that though.
P.S, from what her friend told me, many times there will be a guy she might like and she'll either reject him early b/c of this guy or get going somewhere and stop b/c of the fear of getting involved and whatnot
Heres where things get a bit fuzzy for me...we texted the other day for the 1st time which I thought was a good step, but on fri there was a party that a guy at work threw so I went, knowing she would be there...we didn't talk much at the party and it was kinda dead so I left. This made me start to think maybe she didn't like me as much as I thought. Yesterday at work one of girl-friends at work spoke to her (they are good friends) and she mentioned the fact that we have been talking lately and that I asked her out on a date. She said she didn't really know where I was coming from and that she didn't wanna give me the wrong idea. Now I feel like I've wasted some of my time and that I've made a fool of myself. The girl doesn't know she told me and I feel totally awkward around her...we barely spoke after work and actually she left the same time I had a lunch break and we walked out together...we had few words though.
Theres more, Her friend basically told me that she is kinda involved with sm guy right now and that he probably isn't the best choice (he makes her cry all the time and treats her very bad)...they stopped talking and now he is basically reeling her back in. (She was with her ex for 4yrs and he broke up with her earlier this yr, so she is in this "fragile" state) Based on her history, Im not really the type of guy she goes out with or even dates. My question to you guys is. Should I still pursue her and ask her out to do something next weekend and what day should I ask her out? or cut my losses now? I've been going back and forth...I kinda feel like if she doesn't have a boyfriend she is still open game and if Im not her "type" I could show her something different. I dont wanna get "pity date" though (or is that still a chance). Or would that totally be opposite thinking? Normally what I do is when I find out a girl isn't interested I just stop talking to them as a whole. Sometimes they come back around, but I don't think I've really made enough of an impact on her life for her to miss me like that though.
P.S, from what her friend told me, many times there will be a guy she might like and she'll either reject him early b/c of this guy or get going somewhere and stop b/c of the fear of getting involved and whatnot