Worth even bothering?

[Drmuscular]

I guess this can come across as a waste, but anyways i got the number of this really cute HB 8.5 (could be 9 if she had bigger tits), It didn't went so well though...
So first of all she told me that before anything that she wasn't ready for a relationship because she just got out of a long term relationship, I stopped her mid explanation and said "look its fine, don't explain to me, don't worry" and tried to walk away but she grabbed me by the arm and told me that we still could hangout because she didn't like to "force" things, she gave me her number and hugged me goodbye.

Now what i think right now is that maybe i could pump and dump, or at least try to escalate as fast as possible and if it doesn't work dip, i could also do it with more patience, very short hangouts to not waste more time and put literally zero effort on her, there is also the question that idk if the other dude is still in the picture, probably is.

But anyways what do you guys think? the girl is useful anyways since she is important in the field that I'm studying for so she could be a good contact, but the not ready for a relationship right off the bat is REALLY bad, what I want is at the very least turn this into a fwb situation. How should I approach this.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Don't bang her if she's important in the field you're in, and your thinking of using her as a business contact later, hombre. It ain't for naught that the phrase "Don't mix it with work"* has been around for centuries


*Yeah, there are lots of folks who meet and marry at work. They almost always have to transfer to other departments/find another employer, for this to not become the source of melodrama

 

[BPH]

I think you're looking at this wrong, everything about this post is what SHE can do for YOU. In order to be successful with women I really believe you must enjoy them - see them as people; don't put them on a pedestal above you, but also don't objectify them below you.

Now, I have had a very similar situation to this when I lost my virginity actually. I met a hot girl at the mall, made up some BS about not knowing where a store is, walked and talked with her there, then she told me she had a boyfriend when I asked for her number so I assumed that was it and started to walk away. She stopped me and said that I could still have her number because she still thinks it'd be fun to hang out sometime.

What I didn't know was that she and her boyfriend were in an on-again, off-again relationship - and I ended up losing my virginity to her during the off-again portion a couple weeks later.

The point I'm trying to make is to judge her by her actions, not her words.

Invite this girl to hang out and see what happens. Since you're under 21 I assume you can't go to a semi-public place for a drink, like a bar, so you'll have to get a little more creative. You're probably in college so maybe you have a dorm or apartment and can invite her over to "study" or something. Then just feel it out, the fact that she physically stopped you to give you her number means she's interested, at the very least.

Don't bang her if she's important in the field you're in, and your thinking of using her as a business contact later, hombre. It ain't for naught that the phrase "Don't mix it with work"* has been around for centuries


*Yeah, there are lots of folks who meet and marry at work. They almost always have to transfer to other departments/find another employer, for this to not become the source of melodrama

I disagree with this. I'm not in touch with a single person that I was close with in college in any capacity. My closest fraternity brothers follow me on Instagram and watch my stories - that's it. Everybody goes their separate ways, so I wouldn't be thinking so far ahead when it comes to your professional life.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Her profession and the field she works in are irrelevant. By not letting you go and giving you her number, she is clearly displaying a high level of interest. Essentially, she is signaling that she is open to you pursuing her and that, eventually, she might be willing to share intimacy with you. However, one key point is to avoid coming across as overly eager for a relationship, as in husband/boyfriend like.

The second paragraph in your posts outlines the options available to you. Ultimately, we can't tell you what to do; you should follow your instincts and choose the path that makes you happy.

If your goal is to sleep with her, all you need to do is ask her out and make sure you don't let things get off track. She most likely wants to sleep around, but not with just anyone.

 

[Drmuscular]

Yeah the problem is that my field is kinda politics related on a small country, so you never know, but yeah i guess it makes sense if I'm not pursuing direct politics and more state work. And as long as things end amicably i think that you can reasonably bang someone and not be too bad later.

 

[SW15]

the girl is useful anyways since she is important in the field that I'm studying for so she could be a good contact.

I'm not in touch with a single person that I was close with in college in any capacity. Everybody goes their separate ways, so I wouldn't be thinking so far ahead when it comes to your professional life.

I agree with @BPH and sense that @Drmuscular is overthinking how important she could be in his future professional life.

It has been 19+ years since I finished my bachelor's degree and 15+ since I finished my master's level degree.

None of my bachelor's or master's level classmates turned out to be valuable contacts for me in getting a job.

This woman isn't even a current co-worker. She likely won't matter.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Stop paying attention to words and start paying attention to actions.