worst experience with approaching girl i have yet

[Pro Gamer]

i approached a girl today in situational way but she could see through my lies.. she was like "you didn't approach me for that. tell me why you approached me" i started getting nervous because she was behaving rude so i was like "i wanted to talk to you" but then she was like "why do you wanna talk to me" in a rude way.. she was not even letting me leave when i wanted to leave as she was forcing me to tell her why i wanted to talk to her and she was not buying my bs. i felt like if i told her that i liked her then it would have created a bigger scene in public area

 

[anonymous12345]

Yeah, they have attitudes some times. Very inappreciative. It's a strong sh1t test.

Be sturdy, smirk it off, use a pause, be laidback, don't loose your frame as it's called.

Don't worry about "scene in public". So? You can stand scrutiny because you're great. Impress. Handle her there. No man runs and hides, only mice do.

But then, also know when to back off. I generally has as rule that if it's two nasty/angry comments in a row (she's on her period, she saw a bad YouTube clip, etc., etc.), I fold because she might escalate somehow, the emotional/mental cost of the approacher will be very high, and resources are better spent on better prospects. One can turn it around but likelihood is low, so do a risk/reward trade-off.

That she didn't let you leave is an opening. Dominate, push back, use the opportunity, handle it. Answer her need for why you wanted to talk in a c0cky and funny way -- disarm her. She wanted you on some level. Perhaps other SS members want to take a shot at possible lines.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I once thought I was going to get the chance to talk to an attractive girl as we both parked in the campus lot at the same time. We got out of our cars, she obviously sensed me coming, and then she speed walked out of there like an Olympian. I have never seen a woman move so fast in heels as she did to avoid me.

 

[Pro Gamer]

I once thought I was going to get the chance to talk to an attractive girl as we both parked in the campus lot at the same time. We got out of our cars, she obviously sensed me coming, and then she speed walked out of there like an Olympian. I have never seen a woman move so fast in heels as she did to avoid me.

it happened to me a few times as well. they just somehow sensed it

 

[Baibars]

She probably sensed your insecurity. In the end she doesn’t matter. It’s a numbers game. If you apply for a job they will also reject you. Maybe they won’t be that rude or don’t care at all but rejection is rejection.
Do not care about a particular girl, job, appartment you want to rent or anything.
you only care about a particular girl once she’s worth it.
When she has proven herself.
do you care about some random dude? No. You only care when he’s your friend and both of you did things for each other that made you good friends.

Youre 19. when I was your age I was also more insecure talking to strangers.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

This is not an issue of insecurity.
What you call insecurity is you having a need and you're putting on a mask to protect yourself and manipulate someone else to fulfil your need.

You don't have to walk on your knees, repenting, to get to where you want to go.
Believe it or not, women are humans, and slowly you may come to live into that truth.
You're starting out pretty low, and you're giving yourself quite the daunting task.
All because that is what you are told to do: it is the best that you know.

You know, it gets to be easy.
What is the smallest thing that you are willing to do?
It doesn't have to be to approach a woman. We're talking any sort of habit and energy shift, in the most minimal amounts.
Small changes over time will beat out beating yourself up over trying to climb mountains that are beyond you.

Given that,
I know it's terrifying, but being caught for being all the ugly things that are alive in you, is probably the most freeing thing that could happen to you in that moment.
So what? You were creepin'?
It's a phase. You'll get over it.
Strangers on the internet telling you to do it.
You'll still wake up in the morning. This is antifragility. You have to break in order to evolve.
If you keep putting on masks and frames and cushioning then you'll just become more vain and blind-sided and ultimately fall harder.

 

[characternote]

Yeah, they have attitudes some times. Very inappreciative. It's a strong sh1t test.

Be sturdy, smirk it off, use a pause, be laidback, don't loose your frame as it's called.

Don't worry about "scene in public". So? You can stand scrutiny because you're great. Impress. Handle her there. No man runs and hides, only mice do.

But then, also know when to back off. I generally has as rule that if it's two nasty/angry comments in a row (she's on her period, she saw a bad YouTube clip, etc., etc.), I fold because she might escalate somehow, the emotional/mental cost of the approacher will be very high, and resources are better spent on better prospects. One can turn it around but likelihood is low, so do a risk/reward trade-off.

That she didn't let you leave is an opening. Dominate, push back, use the opportunity, handle it. Answer her need for why you wanted to talk in a c0cky and funny way -- disarm her. She wanted you on some level. Perhaps other SS members want to take a shot at possible lines.

I agree that resources are better spent on better prospects.

I do'nt think it's a 'sh1t test', though. She just wasn't attracted to him. There's nothing one can say or do to turn a legit 'no' into a 'yes'. It's not about 'frame' or anything else. It's about finding the girls who are attracted to you. Coming up with lines and pushpulls and 'objection handling lines' etc is all just delaying the inevitable rejection. People need to read the room and work out who's into them and who's not. It should be obvious within about 2 seconds of opening your mouth, tbh. As we see with infields from the supposed best pua's, the girls they bang are the ones who were very receptive to the approach. The ones who are like 'go away, you're not my type' after they open her in a bar or something, NEVER get turned into a lay despite their best efforts (negs, plowing, dhv's, strong frame etc etc)

 

[soulforge]

I once thought I was going to get the chance to talk to an attractive girl as we both parked in the campus lot at the same time. We got out of our cars, she obviously sensed me coming, and then she speed walked out of there like an Olympian. I have never seen a woman move so fast in heels as she did to avoid me.

Haha love it

 

[Pro Gamer]

i don't know but i feel like she has a lot of enemies that's why she started doubting me when i approached her. i mean if a girl is creeped out or she is in bad mood then she will try her best to avoid me and go away from me but she was forcing me to stay and tell her why i approached her even when i was saying "let it go"

 

[anonymous12345]

Look. Outside a metro a girl in blue was hanging out that I've never met before, idling, playing with her phone. I walked up and said one greeting phrase and she angrily yelled "Get away from me! I'll call the cops. Never talk to me again!" I replied "Take it easy." and walked away.

If you cold approach a lot you're statistically going to run into these kind of cases.

 

[Pro Gamer]

Look. Outside a metro a girl in blue was hanging out that I've never met before, idling, playing with her phone. I walked up and said one greeting phrase and she angrily yelled "Get away from me! I'll call the cops. Never talk to me again!" I replied "Take it easy." and walked away.

If you cold approach a lot you're statistically going to run into these kind of cases.

your experience is worse brother but mine was similar in the way that the girl was using her phone as well..she was looking so cute that i expected good behavior from her

 

[Pro Gamer]

OP, what do you mean the girl didn't let you leave when you wanted to?

Fix your frame dude.

i tried to get away from her by saying "just forget it. let it go" but she was like "tell me why would you talk to me" in a rude way, forcing me to stay there and explain to her why i talked to her but i insisted on that situation thing i opened with it and she was not buying it then i somehow managed to get away after a few try

 

[Pro Gamer]

Unless she had a weapon against your head, she was not preventing you from leaving and she wasn't forcing you to say anything.

Drama much?

i would say drama but verbally making me stay. if i ignored her so i could sense that she would shout louder and it would make a big scene

 

[Pro Gamer]

She sounds like a good little dominatrix for a puppy. Did she collar you?

this is easy to say on internet but real life is different. if you started talking to her and she was rude as to why you were talking to her then you would feel like you need to explain it especially when she is calling you back whenever you try to walk away

 

[Pro Gamer]

No, buddy, that is your reaction.
Mine would be way different, as you'd know if you would understand whom you're arguing with.

you are 54 years old and you would be talking to 30+ girls who are really mature so they won't make anything big out of it

 

[Bokanovsky]

Look. Outside a metro a girl in blue was hanging out that I've never met before, idling, playing with her phone. I walked up and said one greeting phrase and she angrily yelled "Get away from me! I'll call the cops. Never talk to me again!" I replied "Take it easy." and walked away.

Gotta love western women.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I have done probably 200 cold approaches this year across a lot of different environments but a lot of them have been in my gym

If there Is one thing I have learnt

You MUST disarm her first , women although most do generally accept they are going to be approached

they are are on high alert for " creeps " and unfortunately for men a "creep" is any guy that doesn't have the confidence to hold a serious conversation with her

Look it takes A LOT of skill too pull of the " I thought you were attractive line " from cold and 9/10 it just isn't going to work , there's nowhere for the conversation to go she knows it you know it we all fvcking know it

literally the only time that wil work is if she sees you as equally as attractive

You are better off being subtle and approaching with some type of credible question it doesn't always have to be perfect if she likes you she will just go with it

I started a new gym in the summer I spotted this ridiculously hot chick we made a little eye contact couple of half smiles this went on for weeks

It took me ages to try and find a way to open her eventually I spotted she had something in her drink shaker , and that was my in I just asked if it was.a pre workout and from there the conversation just flowed and we exchanged details

 

[bat soup]

i approached a girl today in situational way but she could see through my lies.. she was like "you didn't approach me for that. tell me why you approached me" i started getting nervous because she was behaving rude so i was like "i wanted to talk to you" but then she was like "why do you wanna talk to me" in a rude way.. she was not even letting me leave when i wanted to leave as she was forcing me to tell her why i wanted to talk to her and she was not buying my bs. i felt like if i told her that i liked her then it would have created a bigger scene in public area

At any time you can just turn your back on a woman and walk away. You don't owe her your attention.

 

[bat soup]

Look. Outside a metro a girl in blue was hanging out that I've never met before, idling, playing with her phone. I walked up and said one greeting phrase and she angrily yelled "Get away from me! I'll call the cops.

Same thing happened to me. To be fair, I probably should have taken off my scream mask.

 

[Slowhandluke]

i approached a girl today in situational way but she could see through my lies.. she was like "you didn't approach me for that. tell me why you approached me" i started getting nervous because she was behaving rude so i was like "i wanted to talk to you" but then she was like "why do you wanna talk to me" in a rude way.. she was not even letting me leave when i wanted to leave as she was forcing me to tell her why i wanted to talk to her and she was not buying my bs. i felt like if i told her that i liked her then it would have created a bigger scene in public area

This is what I would have said:

"I approached you because I was bored, and you seemed bored too. Sorry, I didn't notice you were busy".

And then I would walk away. Usually, girls know by default guys talk to girls because the guy finds the girl attractive. No real need to say this unless, the girl is average and she fits your version of attractiveness. In which case, she will probably appreciate the complement. "I approached you because I was bored and you seem attractive...".


Girls who are rude... well, they just aren't worth it. There are so many women out there. Rude people can just stand by themselves and sulk, I'll just talk to other people. Remember. Having a great personality is everlasting, but looks fade. Sooner or later, these rude women will no longer be pursued by guys. Karma, I guess.

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