Worst "advice" you've ever gotten from the Manosphere or other djs

[JohnChops]

I just posted a thread on it...
"Go ghost" once you set up the date until the day of the date. Over the last 3 months since I stopped doing it I have had ZERO flakes. ZERO. ZERO. ZERO.

Stop "going ghost", just be a normal, interesting cool dude and contact them here and there up until and even ON the day you are meeting...they will want to meet you even more than they did initially...they won't think you are lame...they won't "find out to much"...they will think you are actually interested in them and that you want to meet them...what a horrible idea, right??

I somewhat agree. I usually don't bother contacting them up until the date, unless they contact me, which usually happens.

Worst advice:
Get hobbies that attract women.

I'd rather get a hobby I enjoy, worrying less aboutnif a women likes it or not.

 

[SteR]

I bet we all go through the same progression...

1. complete AFC
2. heart broken
3. Find SS and learn the ways of the world
4. Stick to the rules, while you learn the ropes
5. Realize the rules are more of guidelines and dont work for everyone
6. Adapt the guidelines to your style
7. success and spin plates

I believe I am somewhere between 5 and 6. Some guys get stuck at 4. Different strokes for different folks, that is how this thing works!

Haha, literally how my life has evolved..

 

[Trainwreck]

1. Race doesn't matter. Probably the biggest bs I hear from mostly racist manosphere guys that think every girl rejects them for some Tyrone.

2. Looks do not matter. Already debunked!

3. Increasing your bank account increases your chances with women. First, how will girls even know I have money unless I'm famous or flaunting it?

4. Just ignoring the concept that some of most girls are not and will not be attracted to you.

5. ALL girls like the same type of guy which is some loud, rich, lacrosse, brad Pitt, post fraternity, muscular, and extraordinary man chad like guy. According to the manosphere, this is the only type of guy women want so If she dumps or rejects you then she's going to this mofo.

6. Men age like wine while women age like milk. The manosphere pictures a man in his late thirties as some rich James Bond bachelor that is killing life while the woman is some used to be hot ditzy blonde that wasted her life away riding the **** wagon and drinking. Instead, both men and women over thirty are both overweight, health issues, and doing nothing with their lives. I'm not saying it's impossible because I see plenty of good looking men and women over the age of 30. It's just this James Bond fantasy for every male over 30 is preposterous.

 

[Urbanyst]

- Everything that happens with your relations with women is YOUR FAULT, so if it goes South that means you either you didn't game her right, wasn't masculine enough, didn't use the right technique, your dyck wasn't 10 inches, etc. It's NEVER the woman's fault.

- Looks and Finances don't matter, only Inner Game does.

- Don't call or text for a WEEK after you get her number. Yeah sure, in the real world the bytch will forget who you were, but this is the Manosphere! This isn't the real world lol!

I agree with this.

Relationships are a two way street and this community often puts too much blame on men for bad outcomes. Ironically, this is what society in general does. Everything is the fault of men as if women cannot be flawed, crazy and f*cked up people too.

Other bad advice includes the idea that all women are into the same types of men. Truth is, some women are not into muscles or aggression. Some women like nerds, or artists or men with a calling who want to make a difference in the world.

This idea that all attractive women are into to one type of guy can really attack the ego and self-esteem of a lot men and make them believe they have to become someone they are not to get women. Then they end up attracting women they have nothing in common with and being miserable. And those relationships fail of course because you can only act the part for so long.

No matter what type of guy you are.. if you are confident in that position women will be into you. When you are insecure and trying too hard to play a role that is not your true self, you will turn women off and then go MGTOW and claim everything is rigged against you.

Not to say there isn't some truth to the whole status, money, power, muscles thing. These things are attractive, but what really turns women on is ambition. All you need is ambition. Ambition for something other than women. If you can do that, you will get women.

 

[Desdinova]

worst advice I've heard off top is spinning plates. it's as if you have nothing better to do with your life than juggle women or attempt to as if you need them as a security blankets because you can't be alone if you break up with some chick

One of the BEST things I've done in recent years is accept the fact that I function very well alone. I was very much a loner when I was growing up. I had friends, but not many and I didn't see them on a regular basis. I've tried time and time again to become more "popular" and have lots of friends & women in my life. It didn't make a bit of difference whether I had lots of friends or not. I finally accepted that I actually do NOT need lots of people in my life to function. I function very well alone. Once I accepted that, plate spinning became kinda pointless because I had hobbies that were more interesting.

One guru claimed that women are "ten times as good at reading body language as men."

I think the proper statement would be "women read body language 10 times more than men". Just because women read a lot of body language, it doesn't mean they're reading it accurately.

"Go ghost" once you set up the date until the day of the date. Over the last 3 months since I stopped doing it I have had ZERO flakes. ZERO. ZERO. ZERO.

THIS is the one that I'd pick as the worst. When I first showed up here, I lost out on a LOT of dates because I was waiting three days to call them. Once I started contacting them the next day, my success rate skyrocketed. You have to strike while the iron is hot because her interest is extremely fickle in the beginning. A woman's interest level is like kite flying... You have to keep working at it to get it flying on it's own. After that, you can enjoy the actual activity of flying it while doing small maintenance moves to keep it going.

 

[RalphaWreck]

worst advice I've heard off top is spinning plates

This is not bad advice. It's the best advice. It's just that you have outgrown this advice or you've always known what most men don't.

You hear stories all the time of guys that say they are "best friends" with some chick for X amount of years. If these chaps knew better or were "spinning plates" it's less likely they'd end up in the friend zone.

 

[RalphaWreck]

A woman's interest level is like kite flying... You have to keep working at it to get it flying on it's own. After that, you can enjoy the actual activity of flying it while doing small maintenance moves to keep it going.

Nice analogy...

 

[9Volt]

This is not bad advice. It's the best advice. It's just that you have outgrown this advice or you've always known what most men don't.

You hear stories all the time of guys that say they are "best friends" with some chick for X amount of years. If these chaps knew better or were "spinning plates" it's less likely they'd end up in the friend zone.

no its shyt advice for needy dudes who always have to have a chick in their life like a security blankets as if they've got nothing better to do while also deluding themselves they ain't putting puss on a pedestal.

spin plates! Nah. get a job. life. friends. hobbies. etc and make your life interesting first for yourself. not just dream it already is and waste it chasing chicks that aren't going to waste time with some weirdo who deluded himself he's a mega millionaire James Bond chick slayer, but is nothing more than a dream world living waste of space.

**** "spinning plates" mental masturdebation story telling. get an actual life instead.

 

[Skyline]

"Eating a girl out makes you a beta."

The stupidest thing I've ever heard, it was said on here too.

 

[9Volt]

"Eating a girl out makes you a beta."

The stupidest thing I've ever heard, it was said on here too.

Or the other advice of making a chick orgasm is "beta servitude". Dude had to be a closet h0mo.

 

[Konada]

Work on your career, looks, status and women will come. But then you realize you have no game and are only attracting women equally as trashy as your internal self-worth.

Its akin to have an iron man suit but no juice to fire your weapons.

 

[Tenacity]

Work on your career, looks, status and women will come. But then you realize you have no game and are only attracting women equally as trashy as your internal self-worth.

Its akin to have an iron man suit but no juice to fire your weapons.

But 90% of women are trash though lol.

When you guys make these "law of attraction arguments".....can you elaborate on exactly HOW can a guy "attract" QUALITY if QUALITY is not in the market?

It's like telling a Talent Scout that their internal self-worth is the reason why they aren't finding Michael Jordans when they go out to recruit, when (despite the fact of whether or not the Talent Scout's internal self worth is fvcked up or not) there are NO Michael Jordans on the market!

- The only thing the Talent Scout can do is find good basketball players and try to MARKET them.

- All a guy can do is take "decent enough" women and MAKE DUE. There's no damn unicorns or high quality women anymore....due to feminism, we no longer manufacture that shyt in America lol.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

'All women are like this, so you need to do this...' This tendency to generalize human behavior is unhelpful in my opinion. It creates a cast iron policy to treat women a certain way, as opposed to adapting to contingencies [the art of prudence in contrast to a fixed mind-set].

Better to say most women are like this... then perhaps you'll be prepared to properly interact with a woman who is 'outside the box'.

 

[Trainwreck]

But 90% of women are trash though lol.

When you guys make these "law of attraction arguments".....can you elaborate on exactly HOW can a guy "attract" QUALITY if QUALITY is not in the market?

It's like telling a Talent Scout that their internal self-worth is the reason why they aren't finding Michael Jordans when they go out to recruit, when (despite the fact of whether or not the Talent Scout's internal self worth is fvcked up or not) there are NO Michael Jordans on the market!

- The only thing the Talent Scout can do is find good basketball players and try to MARKET them.

- All a guy can do is take "decent enough" women and MAKE DUE. There's no damn unicorns or high quality women anymore....due to feminism, we no longer manufacture that shyt in America lol.

get off POF

 

[9Volt]

get off POF

Tenacity doesn't want to. It's an easy source of low quality poon for him in his search for top quality chicks. It's like hanging out in A.A./ Rehab/ and the ghetto and then complaining the "market" is all "fvcked up" but never leaving the "market" you're searching in. Tenacity prefers to not even search in a top quality market. He'd rather dive in the dumpster out back and complain about it.

 

[Trainwreck]

Tenacity doesn't want to. It's an easy source of low quality poon for him in his search for top quality chicks. It's like hanging out in A.A./ Rehab/ and the ghetto and then complaining the "market" is all "fvcked up" but never leaving the "market" you're searching in. Tenacity prefers to not even search in a top quality market. He'd rather dive in the dumpster out back and complain about it.

It's not just him. Plenty of veteran Djs on this site continue to have the same issues with women, search for women through the same sh!tty venues, and bvtch about the same problems.

 

[Tenacity]

It's not just him. Plenty of veteran Djs on this site continue to have the same issues with women, search for women through the same sh!tty venues, and bvtch about the same problems.

Okay then give me some other avenues to meet higher quality women. And don't respond with "they are everywhere"....SPECIFICALLY tell me some places.

I've asked you guys this now 11 times, I never get an answer.

 

[9Volt]

Okay then give me some other avenues to meet higher quality women. And don't respond with "they are everywhere"....SPECIFICALLY tell me some places.

I've asked you guys this now 11 times, I never get an answer.

I told you at high end locations with after work happy hour for professionals.

mingle with higher quality people and social circles not keep finding excuses to stay comfortably complaining living in a virtual dive bar.

 

[9Volt]

Another of the worst "advice" given: If you aren't paying to date strippers you are broke and on welfare.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Another of the worst "advice" given: If you aren't paying to date strippers you are broke and on welfare.

Hey now, be nice to the resident "photographer" who is doing so well he's been here for twelve years. Besides, multi-millionaires ALWAYS hang out on PUA sites..

BTW, I just bought a microphone from Family Dollar and started singing into a tape recorder. I'm now officially a rapper with a "record label". I'll be going to my local strip joint later to throw my tax return at some drug addict and report back to you guys on how much she loved me.