Worst advice you've ever been given

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What is or are some examples of the worst advice you've ever been given by family, friends, and or aquaintances?

Advice given to me was: To find someone because as you get older your chances increase of being alone for the rest of your life. (Yes, I'll just run out. Find someone I'll 'settle' for and who cares if she has kids just so I can 'enjoy' being married. No thanks. I'd rather stay single and I don't see myself as desperate to meet that 'special someone')
 

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Most of the advice on this board is bad, some decent advice though.

The mentality of most advice givers are: meet a girl and immediately seduce her, if she isn't receptive, shes is "playing games" and you "next her"

I usually laugh first, and then steer the original posters on to a different path that has far better results.
 

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the305 said:
Most of the advice on this board is bad, some decent advice though.

The mentality of most advice givers are: meet a girl and immediately seduce her, if she isn't receptive, shes is "playing games" and you "next her"

I usually laugh first, and then steer the original posters on to a different path that has far better results.
building off this,

I find that I'm here not because I believe in the overarching ideas preached by most of the people here, but because some of the advice here is so bad that I feel like a lot of the newer people here are given the completely wrong idea of how to act in social settings as a whole , not just with women
 

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The reason most advice on this board is bad is because the guys giving it are the ones who need it.
 

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completely agree - the 'community" starts to create a alter ego where they think they need to turn on while around people, and turn it up to max when they are around women.

The best advice and the worst advice ever given is "be yourself" that alone is dog shyt advice, but after you realize that all you are doing is being yourself but just showing your qualities and traits that where already there in a positive attractive way to others.
 

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the305 said:
Most of the advice on this board is bad, some decent advice though.

The mentality of most advice givers are: meet a girl and immediately seduce her, if she isn't receptive, shes is "playing games" and you "next her"

I usually laugh first, and then steer the original posters on to a different path that has far better results.
Nah I think most of the advice here is good. A lot of people seem to need to get their hands held through the whole process of taking a woman out, showing who they are as an individual, being their own unique man who stands out from the pack, who at times is not intimidated to put a woman in their place even if done jokingly or seriously. Who isn't afraid to take risks and have some damn fun while they're at it.

This site is no different than any other site about improving an aspect of yourself/life. Certain things apply to some people and to others it doesn't. It's solely at the posters discretion to see if some advice could help them in their situation or problem. So I scoff at the idea that "most" of the advice is bad. I'd say most of it is fairly good with some bull**** strewed around here or there is all. You read something here or there that's sketchy and your bs detector doesn't go off. Site is not to blame.
 

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there no blame - im simply calling it how I see it - i've seen way more bad advice then good advice being given on this forum, thats all im saying.
 

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It doesn't matter how bad the advices on thise forum are,because we all know that being an a$$hole works while being an afc don't and Im not talking only about regarding girls.

Most of the time people who join this forum realise how much sh*t they had to take and finally start to don't taking it anymore,be it shaming tactics and useless sh*t tests.
The word next comes out too often but better to next a potential girl than being stuck in a oneitis with some cvnt.
 

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Yeah, the forum is a way to screen out most of the bull****- that is its primary goal, isn't it?

I also find a great deal of good advice related to particularly narrow topics where some other members are lacking knowledge in, but can benefit from the experience of the few that have been in a such situation.


I ve just started here, and it uped my game tremendously - I am approaching, getting numbers, hooking up with cougars and generally laying foundation for getting potential LTRs and a good lay in the future. One downside: my friends are jealous....
 

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BTW - I don't post on other forums, but occasionally have seen other ones related to dating advice. What amazes me is how this forum seems to be behind the learning curve compared to a lot of other ones out there.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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PapiChulo said:
Yeah, the forum is a way to screen out most of the bull****- that is its primary goal, isn't it?

I also find a great deal of good advice related to particularly narrow topics where some other members are lacking knowledge in, but can benefit from the experience of the few that have been in a such situation.


I ve just started here, and it uped my game tremendously - I am approaching, getting numbers, hooking up with cougars and generally laying foundation for getting potential LTRs and a good lay in the future. One downside: my friends are jealous....
Exactly if you go out looking for bad advice every time you log onto the site. Of course you're going to find it, like a coach of a sports team if he always looks for the players making bad plays well, he can sit their all day and find them and say these ****in' guys don't know ****, they're running all these plays bad instead of waking them the **** up some. I'd rather see people correcting others or having lively debates versus *****in' about others and their posts. It's pointless. Neg the bastards, question them with pose and have a man to man debate. It's a freakin' forum, order can be taken it's a group effort on every users part.

Worse advice I've gotten or heard you could say is...
1. Tell her you really like her or real attracted to her from the get go
2. A man must pay for every little thing, because that's what a man does
3. Take a chic out to the movies (or other potentially boring ass date)
4. You shouldn't try kissing her on the first date (night is awesome why the hell not!?)

I'll think of more later lol
 

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"Just be yourself". It's actually good advice, ON THE CONDITION that you are a cool guy, you like yourself, and you are attractive to women. Work on improving yourself and turn yourself into the man you've always wanted to be. Then you'll pick up women left right and centre, just by being yourself.
 

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1. Opinion openers
2. Take her to the cinema on the first date because you can interact closer

Never really asked for advice, I think before I got with my last ex, I googled "Where to take a girl on a date" which came up with some videos, no PU stuff though. Just real-world advice which was bollocks - I got turned upside down over my ex, which was the final straw and lead me to SS. I'll never forget the sound advice Igetit gave. That guy knew what was going on without any previous knowledge of what lead to the breakup, which shocked me. I knew then, that this was the place to be. Somebody with good inner and outer game and has experience/knowledge as Igetit, is a serious threat to females LOL.

What amazes me is how this forum seems to be behind the learning curve compared to a lot of other ones out there.
What are you relating to? PU advice or Dating advice? thats two HUGE differences. I'd rather stay here and know that I have tons of MM experienced guys telling me what to do incase sh1t hits the fan with a serious LTR I WILL be in sometime, when ever that is. Than go to any old forum where 20 year olds are telling you how to get women, with "Who Lies more" openers. SS has excellent advice and emphasises more on relationship, career, dating, break up, psychology, sussing out unappropriate female behaviour and sh1t tests-advice and Less on PU, Attracting, Sex, Outer--Game advice, I may be the only one that thinks that. But I'd prefer the former, long-term over short-term everytime.
 

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telling her you like her can work if done in a non afc fashion and not always in those words. i think this site can give some great advice. i've had this site to thank for some successes and motivations, but as far as salvaging broken relationships - I'd run for the hills.
 

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Always go for anal on the first date. Boy did that not work out well. After I got out of jail I realized what I did wrong. I'm suppose to wait until I get her back to my place, not in the movies. Oh, and take her to the movies. Why did I listen to Bangs?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HmJbJs-9ST0
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
What is or are some examples of the worst advice you've ever been given by family, friends, and or aquaintances?

Advice given to me was: To find someone because as you get older your chances increase of being alone for the rest of your life. (Yes, I'll just run out. Find someone I'll 'settle' for and who cares if she has kids just so I can 'enjoy' being married. No thanks. I'd rather stay single and I don't see myself as desperate to meet that 'special someone')
Here's more CarlitosWay!

1. Ask women for advice on dating.
2. Wait for that someone to come to you. (You're better off playing powerball and going for the jackpot.)
3. Tell her you like her.
4. Tell her you love her.
5. Keep the first woman who shows interest because it'll be months or years before you have that kind of luck again.
6. There's someone for everyone.
7. Wait for love, if it hasn't found you, then it's not your time.
8. Just be yourself.

Now for some great advice I've found.

1. Make money.
2. Work out/ eat healthy.
3. Become famous/ popular.
4. Remember that you have to actually have something to offer if you aren't attractive or you will be seen as average.
5. Focus on yourself.
6. Tap into a girl's feelings.
7. Dress your best.
8. Have a good personality.
 

Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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