Worried about sex

[DJD]

If the problem persists, I'd say to see a doctor and get a prescription for Viagra or, even much, much better, Cialis. Better yet, you can get this stuff over the internet via an online medical consultation and have it sent right to your door in a few days. Don't let pride or fear of embarrassment stand in the way of having a healthy sex life.

It will help you regain your confidence.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Tubbs
However I don't know what to do. Whatever you say the amount of attention and stress I am giving this is going to cause problems. The main pressure comes from the fact that I am still in the very early stages of a relationship with this girl. Occasionally the problems would happen with my ex but we could laugh it off then try later and often the sex would be great.

I noticed a relatively hot shower with a girl will enhance erection dramatically (in the shower). I discovered that by accident.
Just take the shower with her, and see what will happend

Besides it puts her in active position: she cannot just stay in the shower and do nothing... she will either massage you or yourself -and do it constantly. This by itself will turn you on.. mmm up!
(While in bed she may just do nothing for a while).

Plus all of her body will be wet in the shower...and warmer than it would be in the bed.

Really what might be better than feeling of warm, wet, clean female body?

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

yeah....sometimes in the past I have had the same problem...

the trick is.....foreplay the hell out of her..

you must get your mind THINKING ABOUT SEX, WANTING SEX, HAVING SEX, get in your sexual state...

do some good azz foreplay....and your thang will sprout up back up like the Red Sox did last year to win the championship....

GO TEAM!

 

[WORKEROUTER]

I also had this problem a few times of getting hard but then going down somewhat.

I noticed that lifting weights is an incredible booster. If I didn't work out for a few days, then I wasn't able to get as hard as easily, and it didn't maintain itself as well either.

Be sure to sleep well and also eat well.

Also, I found that the best time to have sex was when you REALLY want to have sex.

 

[Lone_raider]

I think sometimes people forget that as biological creatures we have a natural instinct to procreate for the simple reason of perpetuating the species. Somewhere within you, within all of us is this animal sex instinct, except our minds in this modern world cancel it out by overthinking every minor detail and problem that might occur, "what if she thinks I don't look good naked, what if I don't perform well, what if I'm not big enough" what if, what if.....

Forget that, stop thinking, imagine yourself living 10 thousand years ago, you are a brave and strong nomadic hunter with blue face paint and hunting spear. You just killed some wild animal on a hunt so you could eat, now you want sex, so you just do it, and things happen naturally just like they are suppossed to because its programmed into us.

 

[ARK]

I've been in your shoes man. One girl I was with was a horn dog and I didn't feel like I could perform to her level. She wanted sex all the time. I felt pressured to keep UP and my erection went DOWN. Its all psychological. Work out, drink water and eat a healthy diet.

 

[penkitten]

viagra isnt what you need.
relaxation is what you need.

who the hell wants to pay all that money for pills?

i think its a rip off and i think if you start taking them , you will never be able to get it up without that pill again. and at 28 is that what you really want?

try to relax, and clean up your diet and exercise a little more often.

 

[TheDigital]

nah

What you have is called performance anxiety.

It's a disorder actually, although its more annoying than serious, and it can be cured. Basically its all in your head.

This kind of thing is a snowball situation. You have one bad experience, and your think to yourself, what if that happens again? Then, you're worried it will happen again and all you're thinking about is it happening, and you cant relax and enjoy the moment...thus the no erection.

I delt with this in my first two relationships...and over time I was able to relax and just not worry about it. Basically, you have to NOT CARE if it doesnt work or not....then, it will, and you'll be able to enjoy yourself. Just relax and dont take things so seriously and you'll be fine.

It's all in your head. Once you relaize that, you can smile to yourself and be ok with it. Once your're ok with it, it'll disappear. Trust me.